Update to older post... Advice from single mommas needed.

[eykelley]

As some of u ladies might remember, I had a post on here about dealing with my step-dad, who molested me as a kid, coming down for Christmas. Well, today after talking to my mom and finding out that she is very unhappy in her marriage, I told her what he did.

I'm happy she has decided to leave, but she is scared shitless on what to do.
Any advice u can give me to help her through the process. She is thinking about moving where we live and it's about 1500 miles away. She has never had to take care of her kids solo, ms she's scared how she'll take care of 3 kids (16, 12, & 3).
She hasn't ever held a full time job very long, but she needs one now.


I would appreciate any info u can give me.

Thanks.
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[Honeybunches26]

I have no idea but I'm happy you told her.. I hope it helps you heal... XOXO your way

[melindabelcher]

Apply for divorce and child support throught the courts. She may not be able to move out of state until the hearing.

Caring for older kiddos won't be as physically problematic as the three year old. If she got a day time job she may be able to get the 3 yr old into a headstart learning center.

If she moved closer to you you could help out as well, if you were interested.

[mama2gg]

Get child support
Alimony
Get a job down here
Apply for government help BEFORE she moves (food stamps , wic, housing etc)
Call around for her and find numbers that can help her

Also single moms get free daycare needs to set up an app at the local cabinet of family and children for that so she can work

Find out where the housing will be to learn about the schools the older ones will go to and if they will need anything special to start (records from old schools)

[gdiamante]

Lawyer up first. An attorney can help her. And call 211 for social services.

It may well be that raising the kids will be much easier with him OUT of the picture than in it.