Talk to me about BH, PTL and BF **Update**
I'm 28w with ds2. Ds1 is 2 1/2 and still bf maybe 6-8x/day, always to sleep for naps and at night, usually once again during his nap and at least once or twice overnight and in the am when he wakes, he bf for about an hour as he dozes and wakes slowly. During the day he may bf once or twice, especially if he gets hurt or something. Sometimes he goes between his morning wake up numnums all the way to naptime with no nursing at all. I plan to tandem nurse when Gummy Bear arrives in April. So that's ds' background.
Now my background. I went into ptl with ds at 31w. We had just moved, the new house was filthy and I worked too hard, steam cleaning the kitchen cabinets, shampooing carpets and not resting enough. I ended up on bedrest until I delivered at 38w4d, the day after the first day I got off bedrest and walked around a bit. I thought all that was due to over taxing myself. Well, now I started having BH at 19/20w with this pregnancy, which is normal and fine, but they have increased to an worrisome. Last Monday I went to L&D because I'd had 11 in an hour. They monitored me for a few hours but my cervical length was fine, less than a few days before, but still over 3cm, so they gave me Procardia and sent me home. My ob gave me an Rx for Procardia to have at home and I take it when cntrx go above 6/hr. So far I've taken it at least once a day since then. There have been a few times when it got bad, like 19 cntrx/hr, but the Rx brought it down. I should probably be taking it more often, but I think I'd end up taking it every 4 hours and my ob doesn't want that. This evening it worked for one hour, then the number climbed again to 9/hr for 3 hours. Fortunately, it has since dropped again, but it's going back up. I just hope with sleep it gets better.
So today and yesterday I started noticing that my BH kick up when I'm nursing ds, like to 9/hr. I end up having to take my pill to bring it back down. I go in Monday for a cervical length u/s and fetal fibronectin swab, if I don't end up back in L&D sooner. I've never been away from my bubba overnight and it kills me to think of having to do it now. I did my research when deciding to tandem and I know how it all is SUPPOSED to work, hormonally and all that, but I'm noticing a pattern. :( Stupid uterus.
So with all this, should I think about weaning him? It will be very, very hard on him. He's a boob man. Whenever he hears babies cry he tells me they need their mama's numnums, because he knows that makes everything better. I can't imagine denying him his favorite comfort. That breaks my heart, too. What do you think, ladies?
Eta: I drink around 72oz water/day, 3 refills of my camelbak, and take 225mg magnesium 2x/day in addition to the Procardia as needed.
I talked with my lovely doula, Niki (laughterhugs), who also happens to be a LLL leader and we have a plan: I know my cntrx spike in the am when I wake up, probably due to my full bladder and borderline dehydration from being asleep all night, and is probably exacerbated by ds' morning nursing and twiddling. So I'm going to take my med as soon as I wake up, before I get up to pee or anything. I'm not going to wait and see anymore. Also, with regard to the twiddling, which has been driving me NUTS anyway and which I've been trying to stop, I had a talk with ds before naptime about how I need him to not twiddle. He knows I have owies, which is why I can't carry him anymore, so I explained that for the same reason, I need him to not twiddle, too. That if he did, my owies will get worse and then he won't be able to have any numnums at all. I wore a sports bra under my nursing tank. He nodded and said ok and I showed him where he could put his hand that wouldn't give me owies. He listened and did great!! I'm SOOOO happy to be done with the twiddling, anyway. It made me want to tear my hair out! So I'm also going to take the Procardia before nap and bedtime nursing, since I know that's a trigger, and I will do my best to cut out any nursing beyond bedtime, naptime and shorten up his wake up session, which can go on for an hour.
So that's my plan! I hope it works and no more drastic cuts need to be made. I must say, my darling boy has been very good with all the changes lately and has been very understanding so far. Sweetie pie. :D