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Okay I've been breast feeding for about three weeks now. My baby girl was a preemie so she kinda needed help learning to eat, well when I put her on the boob she latched on right away like a pro but the problem is that there are some days where It freaking hurts and burn and feels like she's ripping off my nipple and there are days when she's doing great and is feeding just fine. Idk why this is happening. I remember reading somewhere that breast feeding is not supposed to hurt and that if it hurts the baby is most likely not latched on right but whenever I check on her she is stll sucking and milk is coming out. I just wanna know like what to do to make it stop hurting this much and has anyone else experienced this?? I try to keep my cool and eat the pain when this happens but I'm almost losing it and keep thinking about just pumping the milk and taking her off the boob but I really wanna breast feed. Any thoughts?? Btw I bought the lanolin I use it often.
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by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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by Heather on Jan. 22, 2013 at 6:50 AM
Have baby check for a tongue tie. Once that is determined decide what to do. Have you tried a shield? Check with a LC again. Sometimes things change.

I exclusively pump and believe me it's so much more work than breastfeeding. Do what's best for you and baby. Don't feel guilty. Exhaust all options first that way you know you tried everything.

If you feel like pumping is best for you make sure you pump every 2 hours. I've heard quite a few women say that not everybody gets a lot of milk out using the pump. I'm a very blessed freak of nature and over produce. I started every 2 hours and gradually added time in between pumps (over a few months) I still have the same output. If you have questions or need some help feel free to message me. Things will get better I promise!

Quoting mrs.noska11:

I feel like a horrible mother every time it hurts and u get angry i dint wanna have anger around my newborn and i feelthat i shouldn't confine doing something that's just guns make me anger all the time I'm literally in tears it's 2:20am and i feel Si guilty and horrible but i decided I'm gonna pump every two to three hours i want her to have my milk. Im not as strong as any of you again i really try but i just can't

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by mel on Jan. 22, 2013 at 6:54 AM
I think your seeing alot of niple confusion here.
Baby is so young and confused by bottles then breast then bottles.
Exclusive pumping is going to be hard you need to pump every 2-3hrs around the clock, bottle feed, wash bottles/pump parts, lug the pump, cooler, diaper bag, baby so you can pump when your out. While juggling your baby and toddler. And many womans response to the pump decreases over time.
I would encourage you to have baby checked by a ent/pediatric dentist for a tongue or lip tie.
If you want to pump thats great. It's a big sacrifice but your baby needs your milk. It's way better then any gross formula.
if you want to bf you've got to cut bottles, supplement with a syringe/dropper etc.
Youve done awesome and even one drop is a success :)
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by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:05 AM

My LO had a bad latch at first. I can't remember what the LC said, but my dd has a higher palate than most babies, so her tongue is constantly flicking my nipple. It was excruciatingly painful at first. I'd stomp my foot to get through the pain at first. It didn't really help lol, but it you get the picture. Putting breast milk on my nipples helped after feedings (worked better than lanolin), and I walked around shirtless for the first few weeks until they were finally desensitized. I'm not sure if her latch ever got better or if I just got used to it, but at some point we got better. Dd is 3 months now. Don't give up. Maybe take a break and pump until you can heal enough to try again. Just remember it's a learning experience for both of you.

by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:21 AM


Oh Mama, HUGS! Hang in there. Whatever you decide, just make sure it's best for both of you. My son is 3, and wild, and a total mess. Dd is very high maintenance and needs constant attention. I remember when she was born and I would get so angry from the pain, and then I would cry because I felt horrible for being upset with her. I was so ready to give in, but my motivation was the cost of formula versus free milk. I donated the cans of formula I had in the pantry when things got bad. I cried, I screamed, lashed out at my husband. I hear what you're saying about the anger. For me, it was a mix of exaustion along with the pain, and later I was diagnosed with PPD and am still dealing with it today.

If you really want to try exclusively pumping, do a little research and find the best way to go about it for your body. I pumped exclusively with my oldest and managed 2 months before introducing formula. It may not seem like much to some, but he's still has an incredible immune system and is so intelligent. Contrary to what some people believe, formula will not ruin your child. Bonding is much more important that what baby eats, IMO.

Good luck with whatever you choose, and let go of the guilt.

Quoting mrs.noska11:

I can't do it. I just can't. She latches on really well and then she fall asleep mid feeding and then starts sucking it feels horrible I can't and refuse to be angry with her. And its really just frustrating me a lot. I'm not as strong as any of you that breastfeed. I'm gonna breast pump. Cause I want her to have my milk but I don't want the frustrations and pain that comes with it. I've got a hyperactive three year old and I just can't do it. I'm sorry if this makes me selfish but I'm really trying here.


by Marta on Jan. 22, 2013 at 10:58 PM

 Its totaly your choice what you decide to do but I will give you some FACTS:    FormulaFed babies have 60% more chronic Ear Infections(which will result in hospitalization), 40% increase in Diabetes, 20% increase in Leukimia (just to name one) & 20% more likely to DIE in the first year of life.     As for Similac: Corn Syrup is the main ingredient, messuring 35-40 percent of the total volume. Corn Syrup is the main cause of Diabetes in America. The DHA is extracted from fermented Algae, The ARA is extracted from soil fungus. Hexane is used to extract these ingredience from the fungus. Hexane is also a known NEUROTOXIN & air polutant.. The pump is not bad but alot of women do NOT respond to the pump because breastmilk production is also phsycological, & Emotional. So if you pump you will be pumping every 2 hours for 20 plus min. per breast and you may only get 2 ounces at that.

Quoting mrs.noska11:

What I've never heard about that. At the hospital, at NICU they said that similac and enfamil were the best formula out there. But of course there absolutely nothing out there better than formula I do believe that . What's wrong pumping though? The doctors told that there's was nothing wrong with and to do whatever I feel comfortable with

Quoting PolishMamma2:

 If it hurts sometimes and not others then its prob the latch. You have to adjust it. Try a diff position, or a boppy pillow. And try to go talk to a Lactation consultant. As for getting frustrated i think all of us have at one point but you say you really want to breast feed then just do it. dont make formula or even the pump a option. Breastfeeding is a learning experience for both you and the baby. Try to remind yourself why you are choosing to breastfeed. For me it was knowing how bad formula is, The illnesses it contributes to, diabeties, stomache problems, childhood obesity, childhood cancers and so on....      


by Marta on Jan. 22, 2013 at 10:59 PM


Mothering From The Heart BreastfeedingMothering From The Heart - Helping Nursing Mothers For Over a Decadenavigation

Why Is Breastfeeding So Important?

Breastfeeding is one of the most natural and beneficial acts a mother can do for her child. Dramatic health benefits have been proven to pass from mother to child through breastmilk From antibodies which protect an infant at the exclusive nutrients in mother's milk which have been shown to prevent a number of childhood diseases...the benefits are incalculable. There is no other single action by which a mother can so impact the present and future health of her baby.

Yet, in today's society, breastfeeding is often thought of as unnecessary. Young mothers are mistakenly led to believe that formula does very well as a replacement for breastmilk. It emphatically does not! Nothing can duplicate the properties of breastmilk, no matter how many vitamins, minerals and supplements are added to what is basically a chemical formulation.

Breastmilk remains the one and only natural, complete and complex nutrition for human infants. It is nature's formula for ensuring the health and quality of life for infants, as well as on through childhood to adult life. Just as importantly, breastfeeding promotes a very special bond between mother and child that only a mother can provide.

To fully understand the benefits of breastfeeding, these are some of the major, but by no means all of the benefits of breastfeeding your baby.


Breastfeeding Facts
Health Benefits to Babies Who Breastfeed

  • Children receive the most complete and optimal mix of nutrients & antibodies
  • The varying composition of breastmilk keeps pace with the infant's individual growth and changing nutritional needs
  • Have fewer incidences of vomiting and diarrhea in the US (20-35 million episodes of diarrhea occur in children under the age of 5, resulting in over 200,000 hospitalizations and 400-500 deaths in the U.S.)
  • Protection against gastroenteritis, necrotizing entercolitis
  • Reduced risk of chronic constipation, colic, and other stomach upsets
  • Reduced risk of childhood diabetes
  • Protection against ear infections, respiratory illnesses, pneumonia, bronchitis, kidney infections, septicemia (blood poisoning),
  • Protection against allergies, asthma, eczema, and severity of allergic disease
  • Reduced risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) Statistics reveal that for every 87 deaths from SIDS, only 3 are breastfed.
  • Protection against meningitis, botulism, childhood lymphoma, Crohn's disease and ulcerative entercolits
  • Decreased risk of tooth decay (cavities)
  • Nursing promotes facial structure development, enhanced speech, straighter teeth and enhances vision.
  • Breastfed infants develop higher IQ's, and have improved brain and nervous system development; IQ advantage of 10-12 points studied at ages 8, 12, and 18. (Breastfeeding is considered the 4th trimester in brain growth and development...there are specific proteins in human milk that promote brain development))
  • Reduced risk of heart disease later in life
  • Increased bone density
  • Breastfeeding plays an important role in the emotional and spiritual development of babies
  • Breastfed babies enjoy a special warm bonding and emotional relationship with their mothers
  • Antibody response to vaccines are higher
  • Are hospitalized 10 times less than formula fed infants in the first year of life
  • The colostrum (first milk) coats the GI tract, preventing harmful bacteria and allergy -triggering protein molecules from crossing into baby's blood
  • Decreased risk for vitamin E and Iron deficiency anemia
  • Decreased risk for acute appendicitis, rheumatoid arthritis, inguinal hernia, pyloric stenosis
  • There are factors in human milk that destroy E coli, salmonella, shigella, streptococcus, pneumococcus....and many others
  • Less risk of childhood obesity


Health Benefits to Moms Who Breastfeed

  • Reduced risk of breast, ovarian, cervical, and endometrial cancers
  • Reduced risk of anemia
  • Protection against osteoporosis and hip fracture later in life
  • Reduced risk of mortality for women with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) has been associated with total time of lactation
  • Helps the mother's body return to its pre-pregnancy state faster - promotes weight loss...1/2 of calories needed to manufacture milk is pulled from fat stores... can burn from 500 - 1,500 calories per day.
  • Helps delay return of fertility and to space subsequent pregnancies
  • Develops a special emotional relationship and bonding with her child
  • Breastmilk is free- reducing or eliminating the cost of formula (in the thousands of dollars/per year)
  • Breastfed babies are sick less thus reducing healthcare costs to family in Doctor office visits, prescriptions, over the counter medicine purchases, and hospitalizations
  • Moms miss less time off from work due to child related illnesses
  • Helps the uterus contract after birth to control postpartum bleeding


Benefits to the Environment and Society

  • Breastfeeding reduces the cost of healthcare by promoting healthier children and mothers..........If all WIC babies in the U.S. were breastfed, our economical savings would be $33,000,000 per month ..........In 1993, 90,000 babies were hospitalized for RSV at a cost of 450 million dollars. Currently, the U.S. spends over 1 billion dollars a year on Otitis Media (ear infections)
  • Reduced insurance premiums for both parents and employers
  • Breastfeeding reduces global pollution by decreasing the use of resources and energy required to produce, process, package, distribute, promote and dispose of materials created by the manufacture and use of artificial baby milk
  • Reduced tax burden on communities and government to ensure children are properly fed
  • Reduced absenteeism in the workplace due to children's illnesses


Other Benefits from Breastfeeding

  • Breastfeeding makes you feel good, the hormones produced during nursing have an endorphin effect giving you a relaxed feeling.
  • You have a great excuse to sit down and relax.....
  • You can nurse while sleeping...nursing moms get more rest than formula feeding moms.
  • Breastfeeding saves moms about 7 hours a week off their feet.
  • No screaming baby in the middle of the night waiting on the formula to heat up.
  • It's the only time you can ever lose weight without dieting or exercise!
  • Breastfeeding is more convenient, when traveling, all you need is to take diapers, the milk is always available, sterile, and the right temperature.
  • During times of disaster, you don't have to worry about finding formula.
  • Breastfed babies smell great....spit ups don't stain, or smell, and poopie diapers are not offensive...(until solids are introduced)
  • Breastfed babies know their moms and will never confuse them with a sitter.
  • The strong bond developed with nursing is much more intense.
  • There is no feeling to describe the child suckling at your breast and letting go to give you a big smile; and knowing that the growth of your baby came from what your body produced! Wow! What a feeling!
  • The satisfaction of knowing you are giving your baby the best start in life!
  • Breastmilk taste great! Sweet tasting! Variations in taste according to foods moms eats. Have you ever tasted formula? Ugh!
  • Breastfeeding requires the use of only one can do other things while breastfeeding, (except cooking and driving)
  • Many, many more benefits, too numerous to list!!!


Psalms 22:9...You made me hope and trust when I was on my mother's breast.



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