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My experience at Olive Garden

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Last Saturday my SO and I went to Olive Garden with our 7 month old son to celebrate our friend's sisters' birthday.

We got there and all of use sat down.

About 1/2 into it my son started getting hungry.

I went out to a waitress and said that I need to breastfeed is there a place where i can?

She said maybe the bathroom.

I just looked at her blankly.

She said that she would go get a manager.

A nice hostess came out instead and I explained to her if there was a place where i could breastfeed my son.

There was an empty table in the corner and I sat in the corner to breastfeed.

Being a Saturday evening, Olive Garden was so busy that the waiting time was 45 minutes. But that hostess seem to have understood and seem to have related because she said to my son, enjoy your food.

So she made the other customers wait to be seated so i could take 20 minutes to feed my son.

I thought that was very thoughtful of her to do and I've never experienced anything wonderful like that before.

When i was done i let her know so she could sit the other customers.

I thanked her and told her how much i appreciate what she did for us.

she said no problem.

maybe i should have tipped her?

maybe i should do something else to show her that i appreciate her?

but i don't know her name.

or maybe i should just appreciate it and let it go?

what would you have done to show that you appreciated what she did?


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by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:16 PM
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mamabens
by Miranda on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:18 PM

Nursing tank(or other stretchy tank) under a regular shirt, tank down top up baby on, everything is covered. 

Quoting vinalex0581:

what's the 2 shirt method?

Quoting K8wizzo:

Agreed, though I'm now at 3 years of breastfeeding uncovered.  Covers are like big flashing neon signs that say "Hey, I've got a boob out over here."  When nursing using the 2-shirt method, I can't even count how many times people asked me if they could hold my sleeping baby when they were standing only 2 ft away from me, not even realizing that he was nursing.  My dad actually took pictures of Nathan "sleeping" and didn't know that he was nursing and he was actually up close when he took the pics.  I told him after the fact and he just laughed. :)

Quoting mamabens:

I breastfed with no cover for 2 yrs without exposing my breasts at all & I'm a DDD while nursing. ( & now of many many who do the same.)I've seen more boob at the mall or beach than when nursing.  So  I still don't understand. lol

Quoting vinalex0581:

i get what you are saying but you know not everyone looks at it that way.

when you bottle feed, you don't have your breasts exposed.


Quoting mamabens:

I have to ask this & I know it will come off as smart assed but please know it's not intended that way at all. Would you have been afraid to bottle feed in front of them?? Breastfeeding is NO different, it's just feeding. I always think of it that way, If I'll bottle feed in front of someone I'll breastfeed in front of them.

Quoting vinalex0581:

because i am afraid of what others might think if i were to have breastfed in front of them.

they weren't family.  they were my friends family.

if they were my family i would have done it right there.

Quoting gdiamante:


Quoting vinalex0581:

Last Saturday my SO and I went to Olive Garden with our 7 month old son to celebrate our friend's sisters' birthday.

We got there and all of use sat down.

About 1/2 into it my son started getting hungry.

I went out to a waitress and said that I need to breastfeed is there a place where i can?

Why not nurse right where you were? Most of us would have done precisely that.

She said maybe the bathroom.

I just looked at her blankly.

Good for you.

She said that she would go get a manager.

A nice hostess came out instead and I explained to her if there was a place where i could breastfeed my son.

There was an empty table in the corner and I sat in the corner to breastfeed.

Being a Saturday evening, Olive Garden was so busy that the waiting time was 45 minutes. But that hostess seem to have understood and seem to have related because she said to my son, enjoy your food.

So she made the other customers wait to be seated so i could take 20 minutes to feed my son.

I thought that was very thoughtful of her to do and I've never experienced anything wonderful like that before.

When i was done i let her know so she could sit the other customers.

I thanked her and told her how much i appreciate what she did for us.

she said no problem.

maybe i should have tipped her?

maybe i should do something else to show her that i appreciate her?

but i don't know her name.

or maybe i should just appreciate it and let it go?

what would you have done to show that you appreciated what she did?

I'd have done precisely what you did. You were fine. You can send a note to the restaurant if you want. Good on you for not letting yourself be shunted to a bathroom and good on her for accomodating you!

I wouldn't have bothered asking for a separate place, though. I'd have nursed at the table with the family. Did it many times, in fact. Even when eating with chopsticks!









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K8wizzo
by Kate on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:21 PM

Wear a nursing tank or other tank top under your shirt.  When it's time to nurse, reach up under your shirt to unsnap your bra and pull the tank down under your breast, then quickly lift up your shirt and latch baby on.  I always wore looser shirts so that the bottom hem of the shirt would naturally fall down to baby's lips.  Shirt covers the top of your breast, tank covers your side and belly, and baby's head covers any exposed skin.  When baby unlatches, the shirt falls down and covers you right away.  Try it in front of a mirror at home and see what you think.

Quoting vinalex0581:

what's the 2 shirt method?

Quoting K8wizzo:

Agreed, though I'm now at 3 years of breastfeeding uncovered.  Covers are like big flashing neon signs that say "Hey, I've got a boob out over here."  When nursing using the 2-shirt method, I can't even count how many times people asked me if they could hold my sleeping baby when they were standing only 2 ft away from me, not even realizing that he was nursing.  My dad actually took pictures of Nathan "sleeping" and didn't know that he was nursing and he was actually up close when he took the pics.  I told him after the fact and he just laughed. :)

Quoting mamabens:

I breastfed with no cover for 2 yrs without exposing my breasts at all & I'm a DDD while nursing. ( & now of many many who do the same.)I've seen more boob at the mall or beach than when nursing.  So  I still don't understand. lol

Quoting vinalex0581:

i get what you are saying but you know not everyone looks at it that way.

when you bottle feed, you don't have your breasts exposed.


Quoting mamabens:

I have to ask this & I know it will come off as smart assed but please know it's not intended that way at all. Would you have been afraid to bottle feed in front of them?? Breastfeeding is NO different, it's just feeding. I always think of it that way, If I'll bottle feed in front of someone I'll breastfeed in front of them.

Quoting vinalex0581:

because i am afraid of what others might think if i were to have breastfed in front of them.

they weren't family.  they were my friends family.

if they were my family i would have done it right there.

Quoting gdiamante:


Quoting vinalex0581:

Last Saturday my SO and I went to Olive Garden with our 7 month old son to celebrate our friend's sisters' birthday.

We got there and all of use sat down.

About 1/2 into it my son started getting hungry.

I went out to a waitress and said that I need to breastfeed is there a place where i can?

Why not nurse right where you were? Most of us would have done precisely that.

She said maybe the bathroom.

I just looked at her blankly.

Good for you.

She said that she would go get a manager.

A nice hostess came out instead and I explained to her if there was a place where i could breastfeed my son.

There was an empty table in the corner and I sat in the corner to breastfeed.

Being a Saturday evening, Olive Garden was so busy that the waiting time was 45 minutes. But that hostess seem to have understood and seem to have related because she said to my son, enjoy your food.

So she made the other customers wait to be seated so i could take 20 minutes to feed my son.

I thought that was very thoughtful of her to do and I've never experienced anything wonderful like that before.

When i was done i let her know so she could sit the other customers.

I thanked her and told her how much i appreciate what she did for us.

she said no problem.

maybe i should have tipped her?

maybe i should do something else to show her that i appreciate her?

but i don't know her name.

or maybe i should just appreciate it and let it go?

what would you have done to show that you appreciated what she did?

I'd have done precisely what you did. You were fine. You can send a note to the restaurant if you want. Good on you for not letting yourself be shunted to a bathroom and good on her for accomodating you!

I wouldn't have bothered asking for a separate place, though. I'd have nursed at the table with the family. Did it many times, in fact. Even when eating with chopsticks!









catholicmamamia
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:21 PM

Agreed.... 

Quoting Plus-size-mommy: Why didn't you just nurse at the table you were at? No offense but the waiting time was already 45 minutes, as a customer I would have been pretty irritated if my family was kept waiting even longer because someone didn't just nurse at their table. That was great of the waitress but really wasn't fair to the other customers, I'm sure they had hungry kids too. Again I'm not trying to be a b****, just stating my opinion.

 


                
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gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:56 PM

When you get old like me you stop caring what other folks think. **grin**

vinalex0581
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:08 PM

honestly, if it was MY family, i would have just nursed right then and there but since it was someone else's family.......i just didn't feel right.

and we are suppose to go out and eat with another friend of mine with HER family.

ugh!! i just wish i had the nerve to breastfeed in front of them.

do you use the 2 shirt method?

Quoting gdiamante:

When you get old like me you stop caring what other folks think. **grin**


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larissalarie
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:26 PM
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I agree also. Why was it ok to nurse in the open at an empty table, but not the table you were given to use while in the restaurant?
I think a Mom not willing to nurse with people she's out to dinner with but ok with nursing in a crowded place in general is more odd than suggesting the bathroom when you didn't want to nurse at the at which table you were seated.


Quoting ceckyl:

I agree with this. And the waitress probably assumed you wanted somewhere private to nurse, since you went out of your meal and way to ask, and the only private room they probably had was the bathroom. I wouldn't be offended. It's not like she came up to you at your table and told you to leave.




Quoting Plus-size-mommy:

Why didn't you just nurse at the table you were at? No offense but the waiting time was already 45 minutes, as a customer I would have been pretty irritated if my family was kept waiting even longer because someone didn't just nurse at their table. That was great of the waitress but really wasn't fair to the other customers, I'm sure they had hungry kids too. Again I'm not trying to be a bitch, just stating my opinion.

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larissalarie
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:27 PM
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You breastfed in front of everyone else at the restaurant, why the shyness about yourdinner companions?
Acting like you have to hide it from your friends reinforces exactly the stereotype that makes waitress suggest the bathroom since it seems you need a hiding place.
Think about the impact that made on HER for when she breastfeeds someday.


Quoting vinalex0581:

honestly, if it was MY family, i would have just nursed right then and there but since it was someone else's family.......i just didn't feel right.

and we are suppose to go out and eat with another friend of mine with HER family.

ugh!! i just wish i had the nerve to breastfeed in front of them.

do you use the 2 shirt method?

Quoting gdiamante:

When you get old like me you stop caring what other folks think. **grin**


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tnovak
by Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:28 PM

I just feed at the table there, never had a problem before, but that is really great.

larissalarie
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:34 PM
Yes! Slow restaurant with am empty area, maybe makes sense. Busy restaurant, beyond puzzling.

Quoting o0laurie.love0o:

I don't get how a table in the corner would be much different than the table with your family, especially if the restaurant was busy...? 

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larissalarie
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:38 PM
Yep, exactly why the fist person suggested the bathroom as that about the only place to "hide" in a restaurant.


Quoting mamabens:

I have to ask this & I know it will come off as smart assed but please know it's not intended that way at all. Would you have been afraid to bottle feed in front of them?? Breastfeeding is NO different, it's just feeding. I always think of it that way, If I'll bottle feed in front of someone I'll breastfeed in front of them.

Quoting vinalex0581:

because i am afraid of what others might think if i were to have breastfed in front of them.

they weren't family.  they were my friends family.

if they were my family i would have done it right there.

Quoting gdiamante:


Quoting vinalex0581:

Last Saturday my SO and I went to Olive Garden with our 7 month old son to celebrate our friend's sisters' birthday.

We got there and all of use sat down.

About 1/2 into it my son started getting hungry.

I went out to a waitress and said that I need to breastfeed is there a place where i can?

Why not nurse right where you were? Most of us would have done precisely that.

She said maybe the bathroom.

I just looked at her blankly.

Good for you.

She said that she would go get a manager.

A nice hostess came out instead and I explained to her if there was a place where i could breastfeed my son.

There was an empty table in the corner and I sat in the corner to breastfeed.

Being a Saturday evening, Olive Garden was so busy that the waiting time was 45 minutes. But that hostess seem to have understood and seem to have related because she said to my son, enjoy your food.

So she made the other customers wait to be seated so i could take 20 minutes to feed my son.

I thought that was very thoughtful of her to do and I've never experienced anything wonderful like that before.

When i was done i let her know so she could sit the other customers.

I thanked her and told her how much i appreciate what she did for us.

she said no problem.

maybe i should have tipped her?

maybe i should do something else to show her that i appreciate her?

but i don't know her name.

or maybe i should just appreciate it and let it go?

what would you have done to show that you appreciated what she did?

I'd have done precisely what you did. You were fine. You can send a note to the restaurant if you want. Good on you for not letting yourself be shunted to a bathroom and good on her for accomodating you!

I wouldn't have bothered asking for a separate place, though. I'd have nursed at the table with the family. Did it many times, in fact. Even when eating with chopsticks!




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