So my brother is getting married next weekend in a town (minneapolis mn) about 1hr away and I had set up with a friend to watch dd for 2-3 hrs at the hotel while my husband and i go to the family dinner and ceremony about 1 block away. My brother and sister in law are having a cocktail wedding so after a family dinner (where they allowed kids) we were suppose to go to another room at the restaurant for the 1/2 hr ceremony and following cocktail reception where kids are not allowed.
I just got an email with some BIG changes yesterday (one wk away from the wedding) stating that we are going for family pics on the other side of town via (taxi, shuttle, or ?) transportation has not been determined yet. Then right after pics walk one city block to a different restaurant for family dinnerand then straight to ceremony/reception site across town.
Here's my problem I had daycare set up with a girlfriend who lives in the area for later hrs and for 2/3 hrs only, now i would need care for earlier and longer like 4.5/5 hrs. My girlfriend doesnt know my dd very well or vice versa. The rest of my family will be at the wedding and her regular daycare people are in another town, plus my dd is 4 months old and bf but does take a bottle.
Her other cousins are older and are being watched by my other sis-n-laws mother. My brother doesnt like children. But I think it's soooo unfair to me to change plans last minute. I'm thinking about keeping things the same with my girlfriend and just skipping the pics and dinner and just going to the ceremony, if they don't allow us to bring dd? We could always grab a family pic after the ceremony or before the official pic time? There is no wedding party, so i dont see the big deal. I'm dissappointed, but they can't change plans last minute. Any suggestions?
update: just found out they are allowing my future sil niece to go to the wedding she is like 10 though, but still i wonder how my other sil feels, my niece & nephew are 3.5, 12 & 13.....but i think they wanted a break from the kids. Still kind of pisses me off