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Thinkin of callin it quits....

Posted by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:05 AM
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Idk what to do, this is the longest I've ever lasted with bf'ing (6months) I have 4 kids and the first 3 I seemed to mess it all up after 6wks and ended up formula feeding but with this little guy I was determined to get it right and so far I havee =) but I'm starting to feel overwhelmed I dont know if its from bf'ing really or if its more he is my hardest baby . I have him on me almost all day and night my husband is a great help but he works some long hours . Seth isn't like my other kids they were very content with toys and a bottle it was not really hard to catch a moment to myself even with 3 kids. With him though its totally opposite he does not like many toys for more than 2 min he seems to get bored and want "up" He likes to stand (me holding him up) and I thought he'd love a saucer/walker/bumbo seat....-_- no luck. He literally wants me to carry/hold him constantly and I have done the CIO thing he is like an energizer battery he can last and last...Idk I just started thinking maybe if I call it quits I can stick him on a bottle and hand him over to someone else (or he can hold it himself) I thought of pumping but everytime I've done that in the past my milk has ended up dying up? idk what to do I wanted to last atleast a yr =/

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Duquesne
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:09 AM
You have to do what's right for you. Changing him to formula does NOTHING to guarantee he'll magically grow independent. He's not your other children and may be a little higher needs. Do you have a wrap or an Ergo you can carry him in? That may be super useful. You could even nurse him in either.
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Baby_Avas_Momma
by Gold Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:14 AM
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This isn't a "feeding method" problem, you just have a higher needs baby (Dr. Sears has great articles on high needs babies, definitely look it up). What I like to tell moms in this situation is imagine how much harder it would be with a high needs baby having to constantly make and wash bottles. If baby os hungry, popping a boob in his mouth is much less stressful than a screaming baby waiting for a bottle.
Sounds like you need some mama time! Nurse him right before you leave, go out for a couple of hours, and nurse as soon as you come home, no bottle needed! :)
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MalakbelLacuna
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:14 AM
a switch to formula may make things worse, keep that in mind
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AngryLittleLola
by Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:14 AM

I actually just caught that post! Im googleing them now I think this might be something I NEED!

Quoting Duquesne:

You have to do what's right for you. Changing him to formula does NOTHING to guarantee he'll magically grow independent. He's not your other children and may be a little higher needs. Do you have a wrap or an Ergo you can carry him in? That may be super useful. You could even nurse him in either.


AngryLittleLola
by Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:18 AM

I do agree this is why I haven't put him on formula I just get so overwhelmed  start thinking maybe if I pop a bottle in his mouth he'll magically chill out n not be so needy......sounds insane when im thinking rationally lol

Quoting Baby_Avas_Momma:

This isn't a "feeding method" problem, you just have a higher needs baby (Dr. Sears has great articles on high needs babies, definitely look it up). What I like to tell moms in this situation is imagine how much harder it would be with a high needs baby having to constantly make and wash bottles. If baby os hungry, popping a boob in his mouth is much less stressful than a screaming baby waiting for a bottle.
Sounds like you need some mama time! Nurse him right before you leave, go out for a couple of hours, and nurse as soon as you come home, no bottle needed! :)


YzmaRocks
by Silver Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:19 AM
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Weaning will not make a high needs baby an independent one. Believe me, as a mom of a couple high needs kiddos, time is the only 'cure'. Investing in a carrier was a sanity saver for me!!
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AngryLittleLola
by Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:20 AM

This is a big fear i have

Quoting MalakbelLacuna:

a switch to formula may make things worse, keep that in mind


MalakbelLacuna
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:21 AM
well dont switch then
he will not always be like this, he will be independent and running around before you know it.


Quoting AngryLittleLola:

This is a big fear i have

Quoting MalakbelLacuna:

a switch to formula may make things worse, keep that in mind


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AngryLittleLola
by Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:29 AM

very tru =) its not all bad either I mean I have loved dong it this time around and I have done so good ! I love his little face when he nurses he is the sweetest thing ever but he is the most needy little thing I have ever met LOL I keep hoping to find something he likes maybe a jumproo? My 9yr old DD will hold him and play with him while I wash dishes and thats a big big help but her and my 7yr old DD are in school so for that time period I can hardly get anything done (I do most my cleaning holding him) but my back is starting to ache badly from it ( I have rods from an accident in 04) and he is 18lbs now!

Quoting MalakbelLacuna:

well dont switch then
he will not always be like this, he will be independent and running around before you know it.


Quoting AngryLittleLola:

This is a big fear i have

Quoting MalakbelLacuna:

a switch to formula may make things worse, keep that in mind



Baby_Avas_Momma
by Gold Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 10:37 AM
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((Hugs)) mama, you'd be surprised at how many moms come in here with the same feelings! High needs babies are very hard! Definitely try to get someone to watch him for an hour or 2 so you don't have to worry about pumping or bottles and you can get out of the house for a bit. :)
Quoting AngryLittleLola:

I do agree this is why I haven't put him on formula I just get so overwhelmed  start thinking maybe if I pop a bottle in his mouth he'll magically chill out n not be so needy......sounds insane when im thinking rationally lol

Quoting Baby_Avas_Momma:

This isn't a "feeding method" problem, you just have a higher needs baby (Dr. Sears has great articles on high needs babies, definitely look it up). What I like to tell moms in this situation is imagine how much harder it would be with a high needs baby having to constantly make and wash bottles. If baby os hungry, popping a boob in his mouth is much less stressful than a screaming baby waiting for a bottle.

Sounds like you need some mama time! Nurse him right before you leave, go out for a couple of hours, and nurse as soon as you come home, no bottle needed! :)


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