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he stopped nursing

Posted by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 7:12 AM
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Ethan is 10 weeks and will not nurse. I've tried everything. All he does is shake his head, latch, gag, scream! Idk what's going on. After a long while of this I went to bottle with pumped milk. Took it immediately. I'm sad he isn't nursing. But its not strictly because he isn't latching ( I don't nurse for that reason I can have a strong bond with my child in ways other then nursing ) I'm sad because if this is it, then all he will get is the 50 bags of breast milk I have in the freezer. I try pumping and only get a few drops from each side which obviously won't satisfy him. I want him to continue to get breast milk.. my breast milk :( .. this was longer then my last child though. I had no milk production after 4 weeks. It was odd. So I'm happy I could do it as long as I have ...but now that its the end of the road I'm at a loss. Maybe I'll try mothers milk tea?
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nikkifam5
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 7:14 AM
BTW hes lip tied so hes never had a great latch. But his Dr said , because he COULD latch and is gaining great weight that it wasn't a concern and they don't do anything about it. * eye roll*
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nikkifam5
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 7:15 AM
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My boy :)
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MommyO2-6631
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 7:39 AM
If you need to supplement try a syringe, eye dropper, or cup. Ditch the bottles. That just teaches him if he refuses the breast he gets a fast flowing bottle. If his lip tie has not affected him before this i doubt it is the problem now but i have been nursing my Aiden for 9 months now with a tongue tie so it can be done! Don't give up now.
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gdiamante
by Gina on Mar. 22, 2013 at 10:02 AM

How long has the "not nursing" been going on? And what changed before that happened? Were bottles in the picture beforehand? 

What pump are you using? WHEN? Both matter.

Any drooling? Gnawing of hands? A frequent cause of refusal to nurse is teething and it's nowhere near too early for that. 

This is more likely a nursing strike. Lots of info on them on kellymom.com. Doesn't have to be the end of the road if you don't want it to be.

nikkifam5
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:01 PM
Yes we used bottles before hand. We have 3 other small children and there are times I need hubby to pitch in with feedings. He never had a problem from bottle to breast or vice versa. In fact he preferred breast. He hasn't been a great nurser from the beginning. He would fall asleep right after my initial let down and his latch has always been poor . I've been trying everything . His pediatrician says he has no tongue tie and his lip isn't an issue and that my breast may not be a good fit for his mouth ??? And he drools like crazy!!! In fact he spits out mouth fulls which his Dr claims is normal! He'd been doing that since 4 weeks. And is always chewing on his hands but usually only when he's hungry. I use the tommy tippie pump. Which for a single pump is almost $200 and I feel its crap!

Quoting gdiamante:

How long has the "not nursing" been going on? And what changed before that happened? Were bottles in the picture beforehand? 

What pump are you using? WHEN? Both matter.

Any drooling? Gnawing of hands? A frequent cause of refusal to nurse is teething and it's nowhere near too early for that. 

This is more likely a nursing strike. Lots of info on them on kellymom.com. Doesn't have to be the end of the road if you don't want it to be.

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MilkLover0203
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:04 PM

My friends son was tongue tied and he did the same thing. He'd latch and then freak out and cry. She just continued trying and eventually they got it down. I think he nursed until he was around ten months? Fenugreek is a great supplement to increase your milk supply. I've never tried Mothers Milk tea but I have heard that also works well. Stay hydrated and be patient.

Quoting nikkifam5:

BTW hes lip tied so hes never had a great latch. But his Dr said , because he COULD latch and is gaining great weight that it wasn't a concern and they don't do anything about it. * eye roll*



MilkLover0203
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:05 PM

AND don't let anyone make you feel bad if you end up having to go the formula route.


Quoting MilkLover0203:

My friends son was tongue tied and he did the same thing. He'd latch and then freak out and cry. She just continued trying and eventually they got it down. I think he nursed until he was around ten months? Fenugreek is a great supplement to increase your milk supply. I've never tried Mothers Milk tea but I have heard that also works well. Stay hydrated and be patient.

Quoting nikkifam5:

BTW hes lip tied so hes never had a great latch. But his Dr said , because he COULD latch and is gaining great weight that it wasn't a concern and they don't do anything about it. * eye roll*





nikkifam5
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:57 PM
Oh I definitely won't! My first to were FF . I've only BF the last 2.. I don't have a problem using it if I have too. And I'm thankful there is something out there for children who can't breast feed or for moms who choose not too. He used to latch ( not great, but still latched ) idk what his deal is now.

Quoting MilkLover0203:

AND don't let anyone make you feel bad if you end up having to go the formula route.



Quoting MilkLover0203:

My friends son was tongue tied and he did the same thing. He'd latch and then freak out and cry. She just continued trying and eventually they got it down. I think he nursed until he was around ten months? Fenugreek is a great supplement to increase your milk supply. I've never tried Mothers Milk tea but I have heard that also works well. Stay hydrated and be patient.


Quoting nikkifam5:

BTW hes lip tied so hes never had a great latch. But his Dr said , because he COULD latch and is gaining great weight that it wasn't a concern and they don't do anything about it. * eye roll*







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MilkLover0203
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 4:01 PM
He's on strike! LOL! Hang in there, it'll get easier. If you have Facebook, there's a lactation specialist on there I adore. You can ask her questions and she'll reply and her members are great also. The Leaky Boob.


Quoting nikkifam5:

Oh I definitely won't! My first to were FF . I've only BF the last 2.. I don't have a problem using it if I have too. And I'm thankful there is something out there for children who can't breast feed or for moms who choose not too. He used to latch ( not great, but still latched ) idk what his deal is now.



Quoting MilkLover0203:

AND don't let anyone make you feel bad if you end up having to go the formula route.




Quoting MilkLover0203:

My friends son was tongue tied and he did the same thing. He'd latch and then freak out and cry. She just continued trying and eventually they got it down. I think he nursed until he was around ten months? Fenugreek is a great supplement to increase your milk supply. I've never tried Mothers Milk tea but I have heard that also works well. Stay hydrated and be patient.



Quoting nikkifam5:

BTW hes lip tied so hes never had a great latch. But his Dr said , because he COULD latch and is gaining great weight that it wasn't a concern and they don't do anything about it. * eye roll*










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aehanrahan
by Group Admin - Amy on Mar. 22, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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If he has a lip tie, he most likely has a posterior tongue tie. Most doctors don't know what this is or they dismiss it as a "minor" tongue tie, but they affect nursing and milk transfer issues. You need to find someone who will clip them or he might not be able to nurse.
Your pumping issues are due to the crappy pump that you have and could also be due to poor milk removal from his ties.
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