My DD2 decided to grace us with her presence at 36 weeks. I was able to try to nurse within the first hour after she was born but she never latched for more than a suck or 2. Within a few days, her weight was down from 5lbs8oz to 4lbs14oz. Because of her small size and because she was quite literally starving, our pediatrician has me start pumping and finger feeding her beast milk through a tube. Her weight has steadily rissen with this, but she has still yet to breastfeed and it is taking its tole on me. I feel like such a failure. My DD1 was bonr at 37 weeks and did not successfully latch for a full session until 6 weeks but she was taking at least 2-3 feeds a day at the breast by now (we went to 2 years! ). I really thought that the struggles I had with my first would leave me prepard for anything this time around as far as breastfeeding is concerned. DD2 had her tongue clipped last week due to a tie but it has had no impact on our ability to breastfeed. All everyone keeps telling me is that she is small and it might take a while for her sucking reflex to get coordinated. I am already really struggling emotionally and every time I pump or finger feed, I feel like I am a terrible mom for not being able to get this relationship going. Now 3 weeks out, we have seen no progress and she aggressively refuses the breast within seconds of laying her down to try. I dont know what to do. I feel so helpless. I refuse to give formula or bottles but I'm not sure how much I have left to give to this.