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Ft Worth Magazine article (Not OT)

Posted by on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:21 PM
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http://fwtx.com/blogs/fwvoice/distracting-behavior


Q: I was in church last Sunday, and a woman in the row ahead of me began breastfeeding halfway through the service. I’m a big proponent of women breastfeeding their babies, but it was very distracting during a time that I wanted to focus on the sermon. What is proper church etiquette regarding distracting behavior during worship?

A: Ick. I know that many think a woman providing nourishment to her baby is a beautiful and natural thing, but putting on a show in the house of the Lord is unacceptable in my book. In fact, I can’t think of a place in public where I would want to ever see that. So for those women out there who bare all at the mall food court or in line at the supermarket, consider waiting until you can be a little more discreet.

I have several pet peeves when it comes to etiquette when people come together such as church services, trips to the movies or any live performance. Audiences should have to sign a waiver before entering so as not to ruin the experience for others, and rules should be posted for all to see.

Cell phones. Do not text, play Angry Birds or take a phone call if it interferes with anyone else’s experience. Also check to make sure your phone is on silent so that I am not subjected to whatever lame Country song you have downloaded for your ringtone.

Eating. Don’t break out a tuna fish sandwich during the opening prayer. I am quite sure you can wait an hour to stuff your face. It’s called eating breakfast beforehand. I once sat down at the beautiful Broadway Theater in NYC for a performance of Les Misérables, and some people, who came in late and sat in front of me, proceeded to rummage around for two large McDonald’s bags they had snuck in and ate Big Macs and fries during the performance. True story.

Understandably, parents often bring snacks (Cheerios or crackers) along for small children during church. And to me this is fine; but when you leave, the floor and pews shouldn’t need a power wash.

Disruptive children. I love my child. I even love some other people’s children. But I can’t stand it when parents don’t get up and leave the room when their child is pitching a fit. If your child is not ready for the experience without ruining it for others, get a sitter. Also…changing diapers anywhere but the bathroom is a no-no.

Hogging space. God did not give you ownership of the pew. If people approach and room is limited, scoot down! Don’t be a pew blocker. Move toward the middle of the pew, leaving the aisle seats for those who come in later. If you think you just can’t handle the middle of the pew, take the outside aisle spot and graciously allow those coming after you to go past (stand up so they can get by).

I suggest that next Sunday you sit next to this woman. As the sermon begins, you could clip your fingernails while talking to your friend on your cell phone and offer her half of your tuna fish sandwich.   



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by on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:21 PM
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shortyali
by Alicia on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:24 PM
Please say this was a joke?!?!
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MamaCeleste0722
by Celeste on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:33 PM

Sadly, it wasn't. There is going to be a nuse in this Friday at the magazine. I can't believe the pure ignorance in the article. Putting on a "show"?? Um, it's called feeding a baby. 

Quoting shortyali:

Please say this was a joke?!?!




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Cruz-s-mommy
by Amanda on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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Please forgive my language but : DAMN!!! I'm pretty sure the Lord would rather have me feed my hungry child the way he intended as I attend the service, rather than skip out on it for such foolishness as to appease those who are uncomfortable with nature and the beautiful process designed by God to feed our babies.

"Putting on a show?!?" they never said she whipped out her whole breast and was baring all... and even if she had been, shouldn't this persons eyes have been on the pastor, closed, or ascended in prayer! I'm sure that this mother was being as discreet as possible and the person who wrote in is just one of those who is offended by breastfeeding in general! SMH, its maddening.

If we can bring cheerios and crackers for our toddlers and older kids to eat, why can't we nurse our babies who are designed to feed exclusively at the breast or only breastmilk for at least 6 mos?!? Oh the idiocy!!!
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gumeshoe
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:50 PM

That is messed up.

justone_jen
by Jen on Apr. 8, 2013 at 7:56 PM
For once, the comments made me happy.
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MamaToCollin
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 8:17 PM

Yes, because everytime I feed my baby in public I pull up my shirt, get out my megaphone, and announce to everyone that "the show" is about to begin.

GAHHHH!!

Cruz-s-mommy
by Amanda on Apr. 8, 2013 at 8:23 PM
Haha, seriously made me lol. :-)


Quoting MamaToCollin:

Yes, because everytime I feed my baby in public I pull up my shirt, get out my megaphone, and announce to everyone that "the show" is about to begin.

GAHHHH!!


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Amber5151
by on Apr. 8, 2013 at 8:25 PM
I wish my nursling was less easily distracted. Every time I go to a nurse in I sit there with my toddler instead of nursing because he is too easily distracted. I'm in the area though!
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gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:13 AM

Well, if it wasn't all the way over in Texas my church would welcome any and all nursing moms. Right there in the pews.

CaitsCookies
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 8:49 AM
I'm in central TX and have never had anyone say anything to me about nursing in church. I have, however, had a friend I do volunteer work with tell me that an older lady approached her about being uncomfortable with me nursing during community kitchen. It's not like I do so where everyone can see what's going on. I always wear big shirts that my little one can fit beneath and have actually had people ask where the baby went until they see her legs poking out from under my shirt. It annoys me that people think you should take your baby to the restroom to nurse. Do they want to take their plate to the restroom???
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