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UGH i cant do this anymore!!!!!!!

Posted by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 4:56 AM
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My 7 week old daughter has the worst latch ever, and i feel like we are never going to get it right. She had a tongue and lip tie clipped, so its not that. No matter hat I do, I can't get her to open wide, and get my nipple deep enough. I have seen 2 doctors and 2 lactation consultants. I have researched my ass off, watched countless videos. I tried everything.... nipple to nose, chin to breast, sandwiching the nipple.... pulling chin down, different positions, and nothing. My nipples are cracked and scabbed, and i constantly worry about production since it would seem that she isn't expressing milk correctly. I live in pain everyday.. I literally get afraid to nurse her because I know it will be excrutiating. I can't shower, put a bra on, wrap a towel around me, or accidently brush against something without nearly being in tears. I have gotten a staph infection from my cracked nipples. I feel almost resentful when she wants to comfort nurse. My husband told me to quit bfing but the thought is unbearable to me, I want this to work sooooo bad. I feel like I have run out of resources, I don't know where else to turn. I feel like I have tried everything. I am ore, and exhausted. I I sh I could nurse laying down so i can sleep, but that hurts even worse. I don't pump enough to exclusively pump either. I need help. I need more resources because going back to the same LCs who tell me the same thing over and over again isn't fixing this problem. I refuse to give up, I just Ned to fix this.
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SaraSnider
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:15 AM
Idk with all those problems I would try a shield. I'm not a great advisor though so bump
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kilahchaos
by Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:16 AM
I have tried one and she just kind of chews on it :/

Quoting SaraSnider:

Idk with all those problems I would try a shield. I'm not a great advisor though so bump
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SaraSnider
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:23 AM
O gosh idk that's what she would probably do to a bottle. Its really just what works for you guys. If you quit, you can say you tried and made it to .almost two months.


Quoting kilahchaos:

I have tried one and she just kind of chews on it :/



Quoting SaraSnider:

Idk with all those problems I would try a shield. I'm not a great advisor though so bump

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kilahchaos
by Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:28 AM
i definently don't want to quit. I just wish it would magically get easier I guess, haha. I'm trying to figure out who else I can talk to that can help besides the LC ftom my hospital.

Quoting SaraSnider:

O gosh idk that's what she would probably do to a bottle. Its really just what works for you guys. If you quit, you can say you tried and made it to .almost two months.




Quoting kilahchaos:

I have tried one and she just kind of chews on it :/





Quoting SaraSnider:

Idk with all those problems I would try a shield. I'm not a great advisor though so bump

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SaraSnider
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:37 AM
I'm not helpful, you are using some nipple cream right?


Quoting kilahchaos:

i definently don't want to quit. I just wish it would magically get easier I guess, haha. I'm trying to figure out who else I can talk to that can help besides the LC ftom my hospital.



Quoting SaraSnider:

O gosh idk that's what she would probably do to a bottle. Its really just what works for you guys. If you quit, you can say you tried and made it to .almost two months.






Quoting kilahchaos:

I have tried one and she just kind of chews on it :/







Quoting SaraSnider:

Idk with all those problems I would try a shield. I'm not a great advisor though so bump


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littlemonaghan
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 5:45 AM
Is there a local lll you can try?
Are you using lanolin after she nurses and air drying your nipples?
Have you tried different holding positions?
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isaacsmommy68
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 8:51 AM

I had the same issue. My nipples were sooooo sore. I used the nipple shield that you wear under your bra to keep fabric from rubbing them, not the ones you nurse with. Also a lot of lanolin. One of my friends came over for a whole day to help me. She held his head and when he opened his mouth, she latched him on. The only position I could nurse was the football hold when I was by myself. It was the only way i was not in pain. It did work out. He is 10 months and still nursing. good luck.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Apr. 23, 2013 at 10:40 AM

Hospital LCs are usually the worst. Here's your resource:

http://www.ilca.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3432

Sounds like the tie was NIT properly clipped. Or perhaps there's a high palate involved. Are you making sure to correct her latch every single time>? A feeding will take longer as a result. I mention this because often moms will settle for a bad latch because they're tired of correcting.

kilahchaos
by Member on Apr. 23, 2013 at 11:14 AM

 I do settle for a bad latch. Last night, I literally popped the seal 25 times, and we still didnt have it right :P It was 3 in the morning and I just sat there and cried.

Quoting gdiamante:

Hospital LCs are usually the worst. Here's your resource:

http://www.ilca.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3432

Sounds like the tie was NIT properly clipped. Or perhaps there's a high palate involved. Are you making sure to correct her latch every single time>? A feeding will take longer as a result. I mention this because often moms will settle for a bad latch because they're tired of correcting.

 

Ciaodarlings
by on Apr. 23, 2013 at 2:01 PM
I'm sorry you're having such difficulty. :-( My son had latch problems at birth, but the nipple shield I got works wonders. Try LLL and see if they can help. Good luck!
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