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How do you know when its time? And how do you cope?

Posted by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 10:46 PM
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Im thinking it may be time for me to switch my lo over to formula. Ive posted before about her and her weights and she has slowly gained almost a pound a month but she has kinda started to stop and it looks like decline a little on the charts. Today she weighed 11.08, last month she was 11.00 even, and this past month I have introduced baby foods and letting her eat some of my foods. The dr drew blood work today and I should know the results tomorrow and she is setting her up tp see a failure to thrive specialist soon. I keep thinking how we had the same problems with my son 6 years ago and once I switched him to formula he started to gain better. I really really am thinking its my milk, I don't think it has enough calories to help her grow the way she should be and I know some say I need to be eating more foods higher in calories and im trying, I really am trying. I want this so bad for my baby but im at the point now I feel like maybe im hurting her more than anything. But when I think of not nursing her I start to panic, its so hard to think of not being able to nurish her the way god intended. Plus she will not take a bottle so the only way I could switch her is to leave her with someone for a day or two and knowing she will be screaming for me is just more than I can bare. I can not leave her with my hubby, hes a great dad but just not very baby smart. I just don't know what to do anymore, al I want to do is hold my baby and cry. Plus she don't like to be held by anyone but me, if she sees me and someone else is holding her she will start crying till I get her again. I feel like a failure :( And just a little back ground she was born at 36 and 6 days and weighed 6.14 she was in the nicu for an infection, plus breathing problems, while there she dropped down to 6.10 and today she was 11.08
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carranzasfaith
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 10:49 PM

 

IrishIz
by Silver Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:09 PM
How old is she?
skylarkdancer
by Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:10 PM
How old is she?
carranzasfaith
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:16 PM
Sorry she is 6 1/2 months.
K8wizzo
by Kate on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:33 PM
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It doesn't need to be all or nothing. If you do need to supplement, you could give formula or donor milk at the breast via an sns once or twice a day.
gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:36 PM


Quoting carranzasfaith:

Im thinking it may be time for me to switch my lo over to formula.
When she's losing weight, not making milestones.
Ive posted before about her and her weights and she has slowly gained almost a pound a month
AS she should...
but she has kinda started to stop and it looks like decline a little on the charts.
Pay NO attention to charts. Not till they are for academic achievement. Weight charts tell you NOTHING of value. Gain does slow starting at six months.
Today she weighed 11.08, last month she was 11.00 even,
OK.
and this past month I have introduced baby foods and letting her eat some of my foods. The dr drew blood work today and I should know the results tomorrow and she is setting her up tp see a failure to thrive specialist soon. I keep thinking how we had the same problems with my son 6 years ago and once I switched him to formula he started to gain better. I really really am thinking its my milk, I don't think it has enough calories to help her grow the way she should be
I'll need to read on but I'm not seeing a growth problem.
and I know some say I need to be eating more foods higher in calories and im trying, I really am trying. I want this so bad for my baby but im at the point now I feel like maybe im hurting her more than anything. But when I think of not nursing her I start to panic, its so hard to think of not being able to nurish her the way god intended. Plus she will not take a bottle so the only way I could switch her is to leave her with someone for a day or two and knowing she will be screaming for me is just more than I can bare. I can not leave her with my hubby, hes a great dad but just not very baby smart. I just don't know what to do anymore, al I want to do is hold my baby and cry. Plus she don't like to be held by anyone but me, if she sees me and someone else is holding her she will start crying till I get her again. I feel like a failure :( And just a little back ground she was born at 36 and 6 days and weighed 6.14 she was in the nicu for an infection, plus breathing problems, while there she dropped down to 6.10 and today she was 11.08

Her weight sounds fabulous for the things she went through. You're being WAY too hard on yourself.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:38 PM
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Let me add some questions.

Is she making milestones? Diapers? If you NEVER put her on a cale and NEVER looked at a growth chart, just like your ever-so-great grandma from the cave man days, how would you think she was doing? Because she looks great to me. (In fact she looks older than six months and as long as mine was.)

If you want to use formula, it never needs to be all one or the other. But I think your doc is misleading you. Heavy isn't equal to healthy.

GoodyBrook
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 11:59 PM
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If you think your milk is "bad," have it tested.  My cousin felt hers was, so she took a sample into their local dairy board and requested them test it.  They'd never tested breast milk before, but found hers was completely normal...  :)

MusherMaggie
by Platinum Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 12:14 AM
She was born early, with problems at the beginning. There is nothing wrong with your milk. If she is meeting the diaer count in poops & wets, she is NOT failing to thrive. Take a nursing holiday and nurse as often as she will take it. Ease off the solids a bit--they are just for fun before age one. Always nurse before solids. Solids, particularly baby food, do not have as many calories per ounce as breastmilk. Even starving mothers in third world countries can nurse their babies. Charts mean nothing--the data is an average of thousands (at least) of babies, probably formula fed. She does not look malnourished or FTT to me.
carranzasfaith
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 7:31 AM

 The dr said the only place she is slow is her speech cause she is not doing rassberry's lol (yes i think thats kinda stupid) She does have plenty of wet and dirty diapers, and yea if i never look at a chart the ONLY thing that would make me feel something is wrong is her siz compaired to all the other babies about her age ive seen. But other than that she looks and acts perfectly normal.

Quoting gdiamante:

Let me add some questions.

Is she making milestones? Diapers? If you NEVER put her on a cale and NEVER looked at a growth chart, just like your ever-so-great grandma from the cave man days, how would you think she was doing? Because she looks great to me. (In fact she looks older than six months and as long as mine was.)

If you want to use formula, it never needs to be all one or the other. But I think your doc is misleading you. Heavy isn't equal to healthy.

 

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