Need advice ASAP for friend who just had her baby. Nurses pushing formula. *Update* *Update 2*
What do you ladies think? I know none of us can give real medical advice, but does this just sound like a nurse scare tactic?
I visited my friend in the hospital. I didn't get to stay long because I had to pick my son up from school. She basically said the nurses took him to the nursery right when he was born because of his low blood sugar, and that she thinks the nurses gave him a bottle of formula. She said his blood sugar improves after he has a good latch, but it's not consistent and it keeps going down again. She is having trouble getting him latched properly and it doesn't sound like the hospital staff is supportive at all. After she nurses him she has been giving him a syringe of formula. The nurses also told her not to let him comfort suck.
I told her she was getting bull shit advice. I told her to feed on demand and to let him nurse as long as he wants. I also told her to make sure the latch is right every time even if it takes twenty minutes. I have her a few pointers on how to get him latched. I also brought her my medela pump in style. Maybe she could pump on one side while he is latched to the other, and then she could give him the colostrum in a syringe? Or is pumping a horrible idea?
I want to thank you ladies for all the advice and support. Unfortunately, it looks like my friend has given up on breastfeeding. I visited her today, and the baby was drinking formula from a bottle, not the syringe. I asked if she was able to get anything from the pump and she said a little. I assured her a little would go a long way.
Both times I held him, he started rooting or sucking on his lips. I encouraged her to try breastfeeding him again and even offered to help her get him latched. The first time she tried for 30 seconds and then gave up and let him fall asleep. The second time she said, " I'm not ready to feed him yet, he just ate." When she said that I knew her heart really wasn't committed. It also made it obvious to me that she hasn't absorbed anything her husband (he has an older child who was breastfed until age 3) and I have told her these past few days.
She started talking about his bad latch and I assured her it took me a while to get the hang of it. She then told me that he hadn't nursed but one time today. I asked of she was at least pumping every two hours and she said she only pumped once last night. I said, "I am not trying to pressure you, but if you don't nurse him or pump your milk won't come in." I could see her eyes get watery so I changed the subject.
She called me when they were on their way home to let me know they were discharged. I asked how the baby was and she said he seemed like he was wanting to eat more. She started talking about how many bottles of those 2 oz premixed formula he was eating. So I guess she doesn't even want to try.
Oh well. I tried to help. It makes me sad, but it's not my baby.