My family hurts my feelings. I need advice please *long but on topic I promise
My DH and I rent a 4 bedroom house with my sister and BIL. My niece just turned a yer old and we have an April baby.
My sister and I have some different views on parenting, which happens. The difference between she and I, is that she will pick apart my parenting choices and I leave her alone about hers.
Our younger sisters (14 & 12) are here visiting and the 14 year old asked me tonight when we were going to start giving DD solids. I told her between 6-8 months or later, depending on when she is ready and I explained the signs we would look for.
My niece started solids at 4 months and thats the extent of my youngest sisters experience with feeding a baby solids. My sister started my niece on solids because her tounge thrust was gone, she sat up alone and she had a pincher grasp. I told my sister that DD doesn't NEED solids til after a year and that baby bellies aren't really ready for solids til 6-8 months.
all 3 of my sisters and BIL laughed at me and told my DD would never develop correctly if I didn't feed her sooner. BIL laughed and said he would laugh at Abi if she was a year old and still eating baby purées. I told him she would probably just skip those.
My sister said "She will always be slow if you do that. Why would you hold her back? The doctor says you can feed her now,"
I retorted that the doctor (our girls share a pedi) also said Gracie could have rice or oatmeal cereal (my sister DOES NOT and never did give her daughter those).
She said "whatever. I'd like to see you make her wait til she's a year old and have people laughing at her her whole life because she's developmentally slow!"
I'm so sad and frustrated! I just want what's best for my DD. I just think the risks of her having them early are greater than the risks of waiting til later.
What should I say to my family when they bring it up again? (Because I know they will)