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"Register for formula just in case"

Posted by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 2:22 PM
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My friend is due in Jan. She has said that she is very interested in breast feeding because it will actually keep her in good shape to get pregnant a second time. However, she has another friend (who is against breast feeding) who is telling her to register for formula "just in case" and not to get a breast pump "so you don't waste money if breast feeding doesn't work out". I am trying to be supportive, but it seems like she is expecting to fail even though she wants to breast feed. Are there some good references I can give her to make her realize she can do this?? Something she can refer to when/if the doctor tells her to supplement?
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jean_marie1987
by Bronze Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 3:15 PM
You can hook her up to all the ladies in here!! There is so much help and support for first time breastfeeding mothers in here!
polkaspots
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 3:35 PM
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Tell her to use common sense and not get advice on a particular subject from someone who is against it. You wouldn't listen to a vegetarian about how to cook steak.
Send her here, or tell her the basics of what she has to do in order to succeed with breastfeeding (considering her baby isn't NICU, I don't have experience with that) eat, drink, breastfeed. It's really that simple for most women. There is no reason to assume breastfeeding won't work, and she doesn't need to buy a pump yet anyway, since she won't really be able to use it for a while.
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Kathy489
by Bronze Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 3:40 PM
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GreenDotsOrange
by Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 3:46 PM

I know that support and education is critical to success. With ds I went in not sure what I was going to do, no research, no support and all the stuff for formula feeding "just in case" i tried breastfeeding and it was weird. I was not able to breastfeed him. It was actually due to an undiagnosed tongue tie which led to latching problems and then I gave up instead of seeking help. This time around I am going in much more educated knowing that breastfeeding is what i absolutely want to do. I have researched since the beginning of the pregnancy and this site has helped a lot too. Tell her also to call her insurance. I found out that mine has a program that gives you a free breast pump and also covers 3 lactation consultant visits. I also you tubed a lot of videos which gave me a lot of info. This time around I do not have anything to bottle feed with..only my boobs..so I am not even making failure an option!

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Sep. 29, 2013 at 4:36 PM

Send her HERE!

Joyeux3
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 4:40 PM
This is part of what I don't understand, why are people against breastfeeding?
Yes send her here this group is awesome!
SadiasMomma
by Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 4:41 PM
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Tell her to take a sip or smell of formula... problem solved
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LilliesValley
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:00 PM

This is a link to baby friendly hospitals in the US, they will be most supportive and helpful of bf in the early hospital days and wont send you home with formula: http://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/find-facilities

ABM (Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine) protocols for various things like going home, jaundice, etc:

http://www.bfmed.org/Media/Files/Protocols/protocol_2goinghome_revised07.pdf

http://www.bfmed.org/Media/Files/Protocols/hypoglycemia.pdf

http://www.bfmed.org/Media/Files/Protocols/Protocol%2022%20Jaundice.pdf

http://www.bfmed.org/Media/Files/Protocols/Protocol%203%20English%20Supplementation.pdf

Someone else already talked about Kelly's mom, which is a great website, here is another: http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/articles/how-can-i-tell-if-my-baby-is-getting-enough-milk

and same site different article: http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/articles/waking-a-sleepy-baby

some info on pumping times and the importance of pumping and then later giving that milk at the same time: http://www.everythingbirthblog.com/2012/05/how-did-i-miss-this-feed-expressed-breast-milk-at-the-same-time-of-day-as-you-pumped-it/

Kelly's Mom: http://kellymom.com/pregnancy/bf-prep/bf-preparation/

This is a website for searching meds and knowing how and if they will transfer into the bm. Many docs and pharmacist don't know so they say to pump and dump: http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/htmlgen?LACT

The most impotant thing for your friend though is to not be swayed by random people. She should be willing to put in the research and see that it will pay off and be helpful to bf her child. The side benefits to her body and health are just that, additional benefits. If she is so swayed by one person saying she shouldn't bf, then maybe she'd be better off not hanging out with them.

MommyO2-6631
by Leslie on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:03 PM
Bahaha!! So true!


Quoting SadiasMomma:

Tell her to take a sip or smell of formula... problem solved

Edenpeden
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 6:00 PM
I'm all for breast feeding and I have been able to do it exclusively. Coolest, most rewarding feeling ever. But I have told a pregnant friend not to buy a nice pump (which can be almost 200 $) in case things didn't work out. Plus you don't need to pump unless youre returning to work. I have a pump I never use. And I was planning on registering for formula in case things didn't work out too. Its good bit to put pressure on new moms and make breast feeding sound like their only option.
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