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Did you know breastfeeding is for poor people? :O

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ARGHH!! I am so annoyed and need to vent! A little background first... I have 4 kids, all breastfed. The older is 13, the youngest is 6 months. I am a working mom, divorced, with a rewarding job. We have a beautiful house in an upper-middle class gated community. My boys go to a very good private school and I have begun college funds for all of them... They have good clothes and expensive toys. We go to Disney World every year and vacation locally at least twice a year... soooooo why are people still judging me because I have 4 kids?

This morning a coworker saw my breast pump and asked me if I was "still" breastfeeding, I said yes, and then another girl came in and said: "of course she has to breastfeed, she has 4 kids!" I got so mad I don't even remember my exact words but asked her what did she mean by "I have to breastfeed" and she proceeded to explain that since formula is so expensive and I have so many kids, people assume I breastfeed because I can't afford formula...

Many, many nasty things to say crossed my mind, but since she is my supervisor... I decided to be politically correct and educate this BITCH on the benefits of breast milk over formula. People are so uneducated and make assumptions without gathering the facts. We live in a so-called highly developed country, yet people have forgotten the basics, human babies need human milk! Breasts are so over sexualized, many don't even remember the purpose they were made for. We are mammals, we produce milk to feed our young, that's it!

So, my conclusion is... I am proud to be the poor mother of a tribe of beautifully healthy breastfed babies.

by on Feb. 7, 2014 at 6:44 AM
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Serabeth06
by on Feb. 7, 2014 at 7:50 AM

Talk to the companies who spent YEARS advertising their bile about breastfeeding being for the poor, uneducated, lower class people and how great and awesome this new stuff called formula was. I had to do a paper for physiology class, and chose to do it on breastfeeding, and looking back into the old advertisements, by known companies like Nestle as well, was disgusting. :/ They're the ones who changed the perceptions.

micheledo
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2014 at 7:51 AM

Breastmilk was considered to be just for the poor.  When formula came about and it was assumed that science was much better then anything our bodies could produce, those who could afford it used formula.  The poor were the ones that had to do something so gross as use their own body to feed their children.

Unfortunately, those thoughts have perveaded our society.  Only they don't realize how many poor now use formula.  :(

MinaPR
by Mina on Feb. 7, 2014 at 7:58 AM

I took the statement below from Abbott's own website!!!!!

Warning: Powdered infant formulas are not sterile and should not be fed to premature infants or infants who might have immune problems unless directed and supervised by a physician. Please follow directions as specified. Improper dilution may be harmful.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Feb. 7, 2014 at 11:27 AM
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Since she's your supervisor, my immediate reply would have been, "You know, we do need to talk about my raise."

tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Feb. 7, 2014 at 11:36 AM

Heck all the poor people here FF except me..yeah I am poor

....ClvrScn.
by New Member on Feb. 7, 2014 at 1:23 PM

I'm back to respond. LOL Sorry, I was tied up at work.

I always felt that breastfeeding was something more wealthy moms did.

My reasons were this

Formula is expensive, but poorer mothers get it for free through WIC.More wealthy moms have to pay for it and who wants to spend that type of money

Wealthier moms tend to have the money and resources for good lacatation specialists, instead of the WIC provided specialist

Wealthier moms may have the oppritunity to stay home. I know my biggest hurdle was going back to work.Working and breastfeeding is very hard.

Wealthier moms MAY have more education about the subject, than poorer mothers.


robibuni
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2014 at 1:29 PM
That's how it was back when formula first came out...the haves gave their babies formula, the have nots were "forced" to breastfeed. I guess old ideas die hard.

I don't WANT to afford formula, lol. Why spend that money on formula when I could use it on something fun with the kids? :)

cem9532
by Member on Feb. 7, 2014 at 1:39 PM
For me choosing to breastfeed cost me more money. I would qualify for wic so formula would be covered, i would just have to buy bottles. But my choice to bf cost me a pump, storage bags, breast pads, nipple cream, and maybe a cute bf cover.
It sucks she said that to you, im glad you tried to educate her :)
YzmaRocks
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2014 at 1:41 PM
My grandmother firmly believed that breastfeeding was for the poor and 'white trash'. She even called me a cow once! I didn't bother to argue with her. I knew it was a lost cause.
MinaPR
by Mina on Feb. 7, 2014 at 2:28 PM

 I agree. But I guess their problem with me also has to do with the number of children I've got. Apparently they are more worried about my finances than I am. LOL! Maybe I can't afford many designer bags like them or to go out for dinner at an expensive restaurant twice a week like them, but when I get home every day there's a very welcomed chaos waiting for me, toys, drool, crying, hugs and wet kisses... I would not change that for all the money in the world! Breast feeding is not for the rich or poor, it is for those moms who know what's best for the kids!

Quoting ....ClvrScn.:

I'm back to respond. LOL Sorry, I was tied up at work.

I always felt that breastfeeding was something more wealthy moms did.

My reasons were this

Formula is expensive, but poorer mothers get it for free through WIC.More wealthy moms have to pay for it and who wants to spend that type of money

Wealthier moms tend to have the money and resources for good lacatation specialists, instead of the WIC provided specialist

Wealthier moms may have the oppritunity to stay home. I know my biggest hurdle was going back to work.Working and breastfeeding is very hard.

Wealthier moms MAY have more education about the subject, than poorer mothers.

 

 

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