Lately, the only part of Facebook that I have paid much attention to is my local badass breastfeeder group. Today, I came across a post where a mom was asking about getting her 11 week old baby to take a bottle. I was about to drive, so I replied quickly with this:
Why do you want the baby to take one from you? It is like having fresh baked cookies and offering stale Oreos.
I got home and this one person jumped all over me about it. I was trying to copy the conversation, but my computer is stupid today and I don't know how to take a screenshot on my phone.
What do you think about what I said?
*I'll update with the rest of the details when I can.
- XXX Maybe she has to? Supply?? Not everyone can keep up with their baby and shouldn't feel bad about it.
- XXX "It's like having fresh baked cookies and offering stale Oreos"
The next few comments from her were deleted, but she disagreed that what I said was a fact and asked for some proof that a pediatrician has uttered that statement. LOL
- Amy Elizabeth Hanrahan I would never quote a pediatrician on a breastfeeding matter because most are not educated in lactation.
It IS a fact that babies have a super sense of smell and can smell their mom's milk even when she's in another room. Many babies refuse a bottle when they can smell their mother nearby because they want it fresh from the tap. I never said that ALL babies will refuse. There are some who will take a bottle from anyone.
- GROUP ADMIN: Admin post, I can see this is getting a bit touchy. Please remember this is a gentle parenting group and we ask our moms to be gentle in our responses, agree or disagree, being polite and kind is always expected.
- Amy Elizabeth Hanrahan I'm sorry. I typed my initial reply really quickly right before I drove home from work and left out a lot of what I usually say. I guess it came off more critical and that was not my intention.
- XXX Yes, it came of rude and harsh and instead of initially apologizing you tried to justify your response. Making people feel bad because they have to supplement is just ridiculous. She was asking for advice on how to get her baby to take a bottle not a lecture on fresh baked cookies v.s stale cookies. Just kind of thought it was unnecessary.
- GROUP ADMIN: XXX, using terms like ignorant isn't helpful or kind. I was addressing the entire thread, not just Amy.