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As most of you know there have been men on CafeMom in the past, and probably will be in the future.  Most of them are just insecure jerks, but some have been here specifically to fulfill their breastmilk and breastfeeding fetishes by looking at pics, asking to "help" with latch issues via webcam, and by asking for donor milk.

Red flags IMO are the unwillingness to call/be called efore meeting or mailing milk (absolutely a MUST in my opinion after this experience), no personalization or sharing of experiences  such as baby's name/birth details/current behavior, real home page/profile if it's through a group like this one (something that shows history, pictures, etc.), and just a general feeling you get after chatting for a bit.  The person I ran into asked for donor milk for an adopted baby but had a story that shifted the more questions I asked and when I looked at the groups "she" had joined, noticed that there were NO groups about babies or adoption, just breastfeeding... there were NO pics, no details, etc. and the story changed as we kept chatting! 

There are legitimate calls for donated breastmilk, just trust your gut, and use your head, and don't give up the idea of donating altogether if it interests you.  I am now donating for an adorable little boy who was adopted by a nice family near me... I'm so glad I didn't let this experience totally turn me off to the idea, because it is very fulfilling to give!


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by on Sep. 5, 2008 at 11:31 AM
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by Gold Member on Dec. 8, 2011 at 8:04 PM

I wasn't looking at dates. I was just going through the stickies. I sometimes reply to things without checking the dates. Oops.

Quoting tabi_cat1023:

Quoting MonicaV1982:

i'm wondering, what about single fathers who want to provide breast milk for their babies?

They can go on eats on feets or human milk 4 human babies on FB NOT here

this post is 3 years old..why is it back?

by on Dec. 8, 2011 at 8:05 PM

Quoting Precious333:

Thank you for the reminder! I think a lot of people are so eager to help (if your as passionate about breastfeeding as I am) that we may forget these things!

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by on Jan. 10, 2012 at 6:03 PM

How do you keep your pictures you post from getting stolen on cafemom? I have seen post asking you to post pictures of your LO..Just never know if it's a pedophile trying to get our child/ren pictures.Also yesterday..I seen a post in this group about show me your boobies..showing pictures while BF

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