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WARNING/REMINDER TO BREASTFEEDING MOMS!

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As most of you know there have been men on CafeMom in the past, and probably will be in the future.  Most of them are just insecure jerks, but some have been here specifically to fulfill their breastmilk and breastfeeding fetishes by looking at pics, asking to "help" with latch issues via webcam, and by asking for donor milk.

Red flags IMO are the unwillingness to call/be called efore meeting or mailing milk (absolutely a MUST in my opinion after this experience), no personalization or sharing of experiences  such as baby's name/birth details/current behavior, real home page/profile if it's through a group like this one (something that shows history, pictures, etc.), and just a general feeling you get after chatting for a bit.  The person I ran into asked for donor milk for an adopted baby but had a story that shifted the more questions I asked and when I looked at the groups "she" had joined, noticed that there were NO groups about babies or adoption, just breastfeeding... there were NO pics, no details, etc. and the story changed as we kept chatting! 

There are legitimate calls for donated breastmilk, just trust your gut, and use your head, and don't give up the idea of donating altogether if it interests you.  I am now donating for an adorable little boy who was adopted by a nice family near me... I'm so glad I didn't let this experience totally turn me off to the idea, because it is very fulfilling to give!


Julie

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by on Sep. 5, 2008 at 11:31 AM
Replies (31-40):
lekn
by on Nov. 2, 2008 at 3:22 AM

WOW....YUCK!!!

Quoting epoh:

Yes, and they usually like to do the whole baby bit: dressing in diapers and getting them changed, being nursed and/or drinking breastmilk/formula from a bottle, etd . . . I saw a CSI episode about one of those wierdos . ..

Quoting lajoy:

Ok, I might be naive or something. There are men out there that into breastfeeding???????

Yuck!



purecity
by on Nov. 5, 2008 at 9:37 AM

That's pretty creepy that men take advantage of that.  I do however think that this is a great place for dads to learn as well as moms. I actually suggested to one of my male friends, who is a father of a 2 yr. old, to check this sight out because any question that he needs answered could get answered on this sight. He was dealing with his little girl's tempers and needed some advice.

MLL76
by on Nov. 7, 2008 at 4:22 AM

Thank you for the heads up! I'm kind of new to cafemom- and that's kind of disturbing!

katestreasures
by on Nov. 7, 2008 at 3:14 PM

Wow. I had no idea.   Why do people have to try to pervert everything?? Thanks for the info.

Quoting lekn:

WOW....YUCK!!!

Quoting epoh:

Yes, and they usually like to do the whole baby bit: dressing in diapers and getting them changed, being nursed and/or drinking breastmilk/formula from a bottle, etd . . . I saw a CSI episode about one of those wierdos . ..

Quoting lajoy:

Ok, I might be naive or something. There are men out there that into breastfeeding???????

Yuck!

 

 


                      Kates Treasures

tabc531
by on Nov. 7, 2008 at 11:37 PM

That is very creepy!

Thanks for the heads up!

Tabatha

mommylovesthree
by on Nov. 9, 2008 at 7:59 PM

Thanks for providing that info.  There are some really sick people out there!  We really have to be aware and as you said, listen to your gut!

 

lillyp
by on Nov. 16, 2008 at 11:48 AM

I had no idea the people would do that! That is just weird. I can understand having a fetish for breast milk, to each their own, ya know? But to actually trick people into donating breastmilk to fulfill a fantasy is just creepy.

lillyp
by on Nov. 16, 2008 at 11:51 AM

Some of the people who are into this sort of thing don't actually do it for any type of sexual gratification. They are actually very mentally ill and that is how they keep themselves sane. They may have been severely neglected when they were children to th point that that is where there mind is stuck and it is the only way they can function. But, as with everything there are the pervs out there that are really sick in a different sense.

Quoting katestreasures:

Wow. I had no idea.   Why do people have to try to pervert everything?? Thanks for the info.

Quoting lekn:

WOW....YUCK!!!

Quoting epoh:

Yes, and they usually like to do the whole baby bit: dressing in diapers and getting them changed, being nursed and/or drinking breastmilk/formula from a bottle, etd . . . I saw a CSI episode about one of those wierdos . ..

Quoting lajoy:

Ok, I might be naive or something. There are men out there that into breastfeeding???????

Yuck!

 

 

 


heidi503
by on Nov. 21, 2008 at 3:23 PM

MEN ARE PIGS! Distgusting... ughjhhhhhhh!

rlemde
by on Dec. 13, 2008 at 2:19 PM

Stupid men. Thanks for the info.

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