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WARNING/REMINDER TO BREASTFEEDING MOMS!

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As most of you know there have been men on CafeMom in the past, and probably will be in the future.  Most of them are just insecure jerks, but some have been here specifically to fulfill their breastmilk and breastfeeding fetishes by looking at pics, asking to "help" with latch issues via webcam, and by asking for donor milk.

Red flags IMO are the unwillingness to call/be called efore meeting or mailing milk (absolutely a MUST in my opinion after this experience), no personalization or sharing of experiences  such as baby's name/birth details/current behavior, real home page/profile if it's through a group like this one (something that shows history, pictures, etc.), and just a general feeling you get after chatting for a bit.  The person I ran into asked for donor milk for an adopted baby but had a story that shifted the more questions I asked and when I looked at the groups "she" had joined, noticed that there were NO groups about babies or adoption, just breastfeeding... there were NO pics, no details, etc. and the story changed as we kept chatting! 

There are legitimate calls for donated breastmilk, just trust your gut, and use your head, and don't give up the idea of donating altogether if it interests you.  I am now donating for an adorable little boy who was adopted by a nice family near me... I'm so glad I didn't let this experience totally turn me off to the idea, because it is very fulfilling to give!


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by on Sep. 5, 2008 at 11:31 AM
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Kathrynsmom1008
by on Dec. 14, 2008 at 4:23 PM
I can't believe all the weird fetishes. I got hit on so much when i was pregnant i thought i'd never leave the house again, then someone told me that there is a whole porn industry with pregnant girls. All i can think is their poor children.
shaunalynn25
by on Dec. 14, 2008 at 7:23 PM

Just curious....what would they want milk for????? I may be donating, but I want to try to get to know her better first. This has me a bit worried.

Hottubgodess
by Gold Member on Dec. 15, 2008 at 4:36 PM

It depends on the fetish - some want to be babies (and lets face it, formula is super yuck!), others can use it in other '"humiliation" situations.

Donating to a hospital/milk bank as well as a local mom who you meet face to face is a good way to make sure your milk is going to a good source. 

Quoting shaunalynn25:

Just curious....what would they want milk for????? I may be donating, but I want to try to get to know her better first. This has me a bit worried.


Medications and Mother's Milk - Group Owner  


I yam what I yam and that's all that I yam ...... Thank you Popeye! 
BEHOLD!  THE POWER OF BREASTMILK!!! 
Warning!  I breastfeed a toddler!  Dont look, if it offends you! 
Proud momma of two self weaning, extended breastfed preemie boys!

AshleyMomOf-3
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 7:11 PM

It's bad that there are wierd people out there that do that. I think that if it is lagit. than thats differant I would help any one out that needed donormilk. Because it is very important for infants to get the nutrition and antibodies that it provides for there immune systems and brain development.

Ophy
by on Dec. 20, 2008 at 8:11 PM
Thanks! I'm sort of new to this site. I mean, I've been a member for a little bit, but never really navigated or joined groups and stuff until real recent. Now this disturbs me greatly with a side of disgust. So I'll be putting my profile on private now...Thanks!
Ophy
by on Dec. 20, 2008 at 8:14 PM
O...M...G...!!! (gags with hand on mouth) In response to:by Kathrynsmom1008 on Dec. 14, 2008 at 2:23 PM I can't believe all the weird fetishes. I got hit on so much when i was pregnant i thought i'd never leave the house again, then someone told me that there is a whole porn industry with pregnant girls. All i can think is their poor children.
staci1103
by Bronze Member on Jan. 6, 2009 at 4:01 PM

thanks for the heads up

happydancemom
by on Jan. 11, 2009 at 7:14 PM

OMG THERE ARE SOME SICKOS IN THIS WORLD THANKS FOR THE WARNING

Lovemybabies429
by on Jan. 24, 2009 at 7:02 PM

Oh, wow, I didnt know about this!  Thanks for the heads up!!  Thats really weird though!

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jenniferleah
by on Jan. 27, 2009 at 6:45 AM

thanks for the warning, the thought that this could happen never even entered my mind! YIKES!

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