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Pressure

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 11:53 AM
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I'm getting alot of Pressure from Family and Friends about weaning and I don't feel like weaning Audrey yet. I feel that she will do it on her own. But I don't know how to tell them how I feel about breastfeeding and the benefits that it has for Audrey. Every time something happens with Audrey like a cold or upset dummy my mother-in- law says could it be that your still breastfeeding her. Audrey is a very picky eater and on doc told me to stop breastfeeding her at 8 months old. How do I tell them to back off nicely??

by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 11:53 AM
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zookeeperx3
by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 12:04 PM

I always start by telling people all the benefits the baby is getting by being breastfed. Especially since she is a girl and this will decrease her risk of getting certain cancers. My La Leche leader always says that some babies digestive systems are still immature at 8 months or older. Her being "picky" could just be the fact that when she eats solids it makes her tummy upset so she won't eat them. Breastmilk is easily digestible. Do Not give into pressure from family. You know what is best for your daughter. Keep up the good work.

Audreysmommy79
by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 12:32 PM

My Audrey is a year and a half now and its worse then it was before. I use to have a moms group in GA that I went to that was done by a Lactation Consultant.  I was able to ask her questions and get the assurance that I was doing the right thing.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Aug. 17, 2009 at 3:04 PM


Quoting Audreysmommy79:

I'm getting alot of Pressure from Family and Friends about weaning and I don't feel like weaning Audrey yet.

Well, the lucky thing is they do NOT get a vote.

I feel that she will do it on her own. But I don't know how to tell them how I feel about breastfeeding and the benefits that it has for Audrey.

Here's something simple you can tell them: If they want to tell the Virgin Mary that she was wrong for breastfeeding Jesus into toddlerhood, they can be your guest.

If you don't want to be so snippy, tell them the American Academy of Pediatrics puts NO upper limit on nursing age. The World Health Organization says to nurse AT LEAST to age two.

And THEN hit them with this: It's NO ONE'S decision but MINE, and the subject is closed.

Every time something happens with Audrey like a cold or upset dummy my mother-in- law says could it be that your still breastfeeding her. Audrey is a very picky eater and on doc told me to stop breastfeeding her at 8 months old. How do I tell them to back off nicely??

Oh, you want to be NICE? I wouldn't. They're being rude and I'd dish it right back. **grin**

Tell them Michael Jordan and Albert Einstein were both breastfed to age three.

jagrus
by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 11:01 PM

How old is your DD? I would say let her wean herself, the breastmilk will be the most healthy source for her for the first few years. I think you can answer this question yourself, I think you answered your own question, tell them to back off. Like that, it is your choice how your raise your daughter, tell them that.


holly85
by on Aug. 17, 2009 at 11:13 PM

Owen lost interest at about 15 months, so it wasn't quite as long as what you're experiencing, but since the day he turned one I got asked constantly if he was still nursing. I would just say yes and ignore the rest. It's not easy since I knew I was doing what was best for him. Besides, I didn't want to stop. I think if someone has not had that experience they cannot understand all the aspects of it.

I would not want to be rude either, so hopefully if you can just brush it off maybe they will quit asking.

star33
by on Aug. 18, 2009 at 11:46 AM

 my child is 3 years old. i've been hearing crap from people for a long time. it's none of their damn business. i flat out told them when he weaned himself or at 2 was my original deadline, that turned into 3. i would've been happy to be done at 2. NOONE is going to tell me when to stop bf my child and don't you let them tell you.

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GypsyEyezNY
by on Aug. 29, 2009 at 2:33 PM
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Well my son is only 29 days old and I am already hearing crap from friends and relatives. One of my friends thinks I should stop nursing soon because she has seen the pain my nipples are in. But I explained to her some of the benefits which is why I deal with it for my son's well-being. And everytime he cries or fusses people say maybe he is not getting enough milk and maybe I need to give him formula. which I know is not true because he has TONS of dirty diapers a day and is gaining a good amount of weight. Even his Dr. and my lactation consultant say he is definitely getting enough milk. I feel like people just like to blame everything of breastfeeding. And I have noticed these comments generally come from people who have never breastfed and don't understand. My friend has commented but she could not breastfeed because she smokes alot and also had health issues. I am just going to ignore all the comments and do what is best for my son even if I have to deal with some nipple soreness etc... He is worth it.

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