Tore with 1st child, scared to have a second

[SpunkyCristine]

I had 3rd degree tearing with my first child and did not heal well or quickly afterward due to my body rejecting the stiches, and I also had some granular tissue that formed that had to be taken off.  I am still very traumatized after 3 years, but I'd like to have another child....I'm scared to death and can't bring myself to go through it again...not like that.

What are the chances I can elect to have a c-section next time due to these complications?  What can I do?  What are my options?  And if any of you have had c-sect births, please tell me what the recovery is like in detail.  With my first, I took 2 weeks to walk downstairs, 1 month to sit without a pillow, 3 1/2 months to be healed- c-sect looks like cake compared to what I went through.  Also, my muscles are not damaged and I was left "tight" and with no urine leakage with sneezing and I'd like to stay that way.   

[angelmom224]

Why would you want a c section. Especially if you don't need one. Did your Dr give you an episiotomy? Cause if he did that can cause you to tear more and that could be the reason you tore so bad. Also have you looked into giving birth in a different position. Laying flat on your back is not the ideal way to give birth. I just had a baby in Jan. and I didn't tear at all. I had a home birth. So I could do what I wanted and pushed in any position. But I do know that now of days if you speak to your Dr about being able to get into other positions they will let you. I would never just have major surgery for no reason. And yes I have tore bad with my previous kids that were born in the hospital. So I know how bad it can be. My first was the worse. They had to call the OB to come in cause the midwife couldn't get it under control. And was very close to having a transfusion. I still have scar tissue in that area. 

My cousin had a section for her first due to a breech baby but then had a vbac with her next 2 and she would give birth vaginally any day compared to the healing process of a section. It is not the walk in the park kind of thing you think it is. 

[jessica.nicole9]

I had to have an emergency C-section. It wasn't terrible. The hardest part was gettin up the first time. They had asked if I wanted to take the catheter out and I said yes. So they took it out and of course then I had to pee. So getting up and walking to the bathroom was the worst pain ever. But the more you move around the better you will feel. It was a bikini line incesion. When you first get the staples out it feels like your stomach is going to open up. But they give you a pillow to hold up against it. It took me about 2 weeks before I felt really good. And at the point my DH and I had sex 2 weeks after the c-section.

Good luck if you have anymore questions you can pm me