TO PUT THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE....

[3TIlovemybabies]

I INTIALLY STARTED THIS GROUP AS A WAY FOR US FIRST TIMERS TO GET TOGETHER AND SHARE OUR CONCERNS AND ISSUES WITH EACH OTHER AS FAR AS BEING FIRST TIME ARMY WIFE. WELL RECENTLY A YOUNG WOMAN IN THE GROUP HAD SOME ISSUES, AND I WILL NOT GO INTO DETAIL, BUT SHE ENDED UP RUBBING ME AND A FEW OTHER LADIES IN THE GROUP THE WRONG WAY. FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO SHE CONTACTED YOU KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT. FOR OTHERS YOU HAVE TO CONTINUE READING. NOT ONLY DID THIS WOMAN, AND I USE THAT TERM LOOSELY, ASK SOME OF THE MEMBERS FOR MONEY BUT I WAS TOLD THAT SHE DID SOME PRETTY OUTRAGEOUS THINGS ALL FOR THE SO CALLED SAKE OF HER HUSBAND. SHE CLAIMS THAT HER HUSBAND IS THIS BIG FAMILY MAN AND HE'S NEVER BEEN APART FROM HER OR THE KIDS BUT I THINK THAT APPLIES TO EVERY MAN WHO DECIDES TO JOIN THE SERVICE. ANYWAY WHEN I CONFRONTED HER ABOUT  THE WHOLE SITUATION SHE GOT KINDA TICKED OFF AND SAID SOME THINGS TO ME. WELL I WON'T SIT HERE AND PLAY THE ANGEL PART BECAUSE I WAS NOWHERE NEAR AN ANGEL AFTER WHAT SHE SAID TO ME. BASICALLY IT HAS COME DOWN TO THIS. WE ARE ALL HERE TO SUPPORT AND MOTIVATE EACH OTHER. AS WOMEN, AS MOTHERS, AS WIVES AND AS MILITARY SPOUSES. IF YOU HAPPEN TO FORGE A FRIENDSHIP WITH SOMEONE THROUGH THIS GROUP AND YOU BECOME CLOSE TO THAT PERSON THEN THAT'S BEAUTIFUL, HOWEVER DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT THINK THAT BECAUSE THIS IS A GROUP FOR SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT THAT IT IS OK TO ASK THE MEMBERS IN IT FOR MONEY. I DO NOT MIND PEOPLE ADVERTISING THEIR BUSINESS IN THIS FORUM AS LONG AS IT PERTAINS TO WHAT I'VE ESTABLISHED HERE. I'M NOT SAYING THIS TO BE MEAN BUT NOBODY I MEAN NOBODY CAN EXPECT A TOTAL STRANGER TO JUST GIVE THEM MONEY.  LIKE I HAVE SAID THIS GROUP IS FOR SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT NOT CHARITABLE DONATIONS TO A STRANGER. I KNOW SOME OF YOU FEEL AS THOUGH WE ARE ALL NO LONGER STRANGERS TO EACH OTHER BUT I FEEL SOME PEOPLE MAY GET WAY TOO COMFORTABLE WITH THEMSELVES TO THINK THAT THEY CAN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT IN THIS GROUP. THE NEXT PERSON IN THIS GROUP THAT DOES SOMETHING OUTLANDISH AS THIS LADY HAS DONE WILL BE REMOVED FROM THIS GROUP NO QUESTIONS ASKED AND I WILL NOT TOLERATE BAD MOUTHING BETWEEN THE LADIES HERE OF ANY KIND. NOW WITH THAT BEING SAID I HOPE YOU LADIES ALL UNDERSTAND WHERE IT IS THAT I'M COMING FROM AND WHAT IT IS THAT I HOPE THIS GROUP CAN ESTABLISH. THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR TIME AND PATIENCE IN READING THIS.

[JAEDINSMOM]

OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS.. I HAD SOME CHIC I MET FROM THIS SITE ASK ME FOR MONEY AND SAID EVERYTHING THAT THE GIRL YOUR TALKING ABOUT SAID TO... BUT AT THE END HER HUBBY WENT AWOL ..... AND SHE WENT ALONG WITH IT...LEFT HER KIDS AND EVERTHING.... BUT GET THIS... HE WAS ONLY AT AIT.. WHEN HE LEFT... CAUSE HE COULDN'T STAND TO BE AWAY FROM THE KIDS... BUT GET THIS.... THE 2 KIDS WEREN'T HIS AND THEY WERE ONLY TOGETHER FOR LIKE 5 MONTHS..... PPL JUST ARE DUMB!!!!

[i_luv_my_baby]

Did she ask you for $300? If she is who I think she is, this woman is crazy! My husband was at AIT with her husband (before hers went AWOL), and she told her husband that I had messaged her and said my husband said he was a dick, and an asshole, and other stuff. Which my husband did not do. Anyway, her husband got mad at mine from that, and started a rumor that my husband said a racial slur, and it almost got my husband in A LOT of trouble, but when I retaliated, her husband went to the EO and told him the truth. They had proof anyway, because her husband was on 2 week leave when he supposedly heard my husband say it.

The same time this girl was going around asking for money, her husband was saying he had $1,500 in his bank account.

Quoting JAEDINSMOM:

OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS.. I HAD SOME CHIC I MET FROM THIS SITE ASK ME FOR MONEY AND SAID EVERYTHING THAT THE GIRL YOUR TALKING ABOUT SAID TO... BUT AT THE END HER HUBBY WENT AWOL ..... AND SHE WENT ALONG WITH IT...LEFT HER KIDS AND EVERTHING.... BUT GET THIS... HE WAS ONLY AT AIT.. WHEN HE LEFT... CAUSE HE COULDN'T STAND TO BE AWAY FROM THE KIDS... BUT GET THIS.... THE 2 KIDS WEREN'T HIS AND THEY WERE ONLY TOGETHER FOR LIKE 5 MONTHS..... PPL JUST ARE DUMB!!!!

[maolne]

some people are just plum CRAZY!  i just think they werent taking this so called "military life" seriously.  im sorry to anyone that got in her path.

[mischele]

well i havent been on cafe mom since my husband got home and i just got on today. so i see there was alot of crazy things going on in that time.

[Nevaehmommy]

 Wow I really do not know what to say asked for money i do not want to know what else she did. I am really sorry that happened I am new to the group(like today) So Hi everyone!

[EliseSantos]

i cant believe an army would do that!!! its ppl like that that give us a bad name

[SOLDIERSWIFE409]

wow what a freakin moron. Your not a true army wife if you ask for money anyways and if shes like that i can imagine what shes like off this site.

[iLOVEoctober]

 Did you kick her out?

[legalbeagle]

Thought this might be helpful.  I found it at: http://www.cafemom.com/about/community.php

Of course, there are other rules that seem to be applying in this situation other than the one I highlighted:

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