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Britney Spears: Is Troubled Pop Star Trying To Sabotage Herself?

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2008 at 12:04 PM
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'She does not seem to want to be with these kids, because she's not following the rules,' a family-law attorney says.

OK, she wasn't actually required to be there. Still, knowing how important
Monday's custody hearing could be in the process of regaining visitation rights with her two young sons, you
 
 
 

might think Britney Spears would actually go inside the courtroom — after all, she practically made it to the courthouse steps anyway. So why didn't she?

"I'm scared," the singer told her companions when she got out of a sport-utility vehicle at the Los Angeles courthouse. "I want to get back in the car. Let me get in the car, please."

It could be that Spears was scared of more than just the paparazzi throng at the courthouse. After all, she deals with photographers following her every day, though, lately at least, with much less patience and more anger than fear. Last weekend, in an incident in a shopping-mall parking lot that was caught on videotape, she screamed at the paparazzi, "I'm f---ing over it. Get out of my g--damn face!"

According to experts, what might have scared Spears about the Monday hearing, as well as the handful of depositions she has also skipped or left early, could have been the prospect that she'd have to start becoming a responsible mom once again. (Note: None of these people have treated or represented Spears.) By not participating or cooperating in the process to get her kids back, she might be sending a clear message to the court that she doesn't want them back. At least not right now.

"She does not seem to want to be with these kids, because she's not following the rules," New York family law attorney Joshua Forman said.

"It could be that she wants to go back to the old days where she was single and successful," suggested Dr. Jean Cirillo, a psychologist with a private practice in Huntington, New York. "She probably has very mixed feelings about doing that, and she feels guilty. 'I should want the custody for my own self and my public image. Something must be wrong with me.' "

There's an easy solution to Spears' dilemma: Let Kevin Federline have full custody of the kids, at least temporarily (which the courts have already done for her). But if Spears were scared of the public perceiving such an action as abandoning her kids, she could have worked out a private arrangement with Federline instead of escalating the situation until the court intervened.

"If a mother abandons her kids, people wonder, 'What's wrong with her?' " Cirillo said. "People assume she's selfish."

And it may not be that she's selfish — it could be a case of postpartum depression or postpartum mania that's spiraled out of control. "If someone's too depressed to think outside of themselves, it's hard to be an adequate parent," Dr. Robi Ludwig, a New York psychologist, said. "The best thing for her would be to clear the plate for a while."

So, perhaps unintentionally, Spears' possible self-sabotage might actually be healthy for her in the long run. If losing custody and visitation rights of Sean Preston and Jayden James, for at least the next month, makes her realize she now has the time and space to focus on herself, she might get healthy and seek help for whatever's ailing her. It's up to her now.

"For a woman undergoing a divorce, with custody issues, with two small children, with tremendous stress, it wouldn't be unusual to be depressed," New York psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz said. "Being watched going through this process makes it more difficult to get help, and it's difficult enough. She's in a tough spot now."



This report is provided by MTV News


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by on Jan. 16, 2008 at 12:04 PM
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savannahmom2931
by on Jan. 16, 2008 at 1:05 PM
she needs to grow up she the one who spreaded her legs and got pregnant and did it again so i think she either needs to leave the kids with k-fed or grow the hell up...and go to the custody cases..if those where my kids i would grow up and take custody of them and raise them...SHE JUST DOESN'T WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM
baby1love
by on Jan. 16, 2008 at 1:06 PM

Quoting savannahmom2931:

she needs to grow up she the one who spreaded her legs and got pregnant and did it again so i think she either needs to leave the kids with k-fed or grow the hell up...and go to the custody cases..if those where my kids i would grow up and take custody of them and raise them...SHE JUST DOESN'T WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM

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LJackson1984
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 6:18 PM
leave Britney the F alone. she needs help and as motheers we should be encouraging her to do so.
JMM5406
by on Jan. 22, 2008 at 12:55 PM

I seriously think that it is a case of Postpartum or Bipolar or maybe both b/c if you think about it she has had two children a year a part and constantly being in the spotlight  since she was five doesn't help any. She doesn't have anyone that is trying to help her. If she was my daughter I would put her in a hospital and get her some serious help and she wouldn't be able to leave until she is 100% better or on some medication I also think she need to be away from those annoying paparazzi, which she obviously has a love/hate relationship with. If someone doesn't step in then I am sorry to say she will end up like Anne Nicole Smith if someone doesn't take some serious action soon.

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