So quick background on a former friend of mine. I met a guy online about 2 years ago. He was really fun and sweet at first, but lied to me a lot. I overlooked the lies and we stayed friends (just online) I am married and my husband and I got into a couple fights over a year ago. I needed to vent to someone so I turned to this friend of mine. My hubby had pinned me to the bed in both fights so i couldn't leave and one of the times he backhanded me. It took me a long time to forgive my hubby but he has never laid a hand on me since and barely even raises his voice to me. He has never hit either of our girls or done anything abusive. Life was fine. Then about 5 months ago, i became friends with one of his friends on facebook and she told me that he had been telling everyone at his work that my daughters were his. I confronted him about it and he said not only was he claiming my daughters, he was claiming i was his wife. Creepy. So i told him i had had enough and that we couldn't be friends anymore (he has done other crazy things like this before but i forgave him) This was just too big to let slide. so i deleted him from everything in my life. Then about a month ago he texted me saying that if i wouldn't give him a chance to earn my friendship back he would call child protective services and report me because i was leaving my children in an abusive home and have them take my girls away. I told him fine i would talk to him but i would probably never forgive him. so we kinda talked for a week but then he said he didn't want to force me to be his friend so i didn't have to talk if i didn't want to. He has texted me a few times since but i have ignored him. Today he texted me to say hi and when i didn't respond he said to expect Nathan Gomez from the division of family services and Heidi Harper from child protective services to be at our house on monday. I'm trying really hard to be calm about the whole thing. He could be lying. But he could be telling the truth. Would they be able to take my kids from a minor incident that happened over a year ago? I'm worried i wont be given the chance to explain my side. This guy has 5 different mental disorders and is totally bonkers. I have only actually met him once in person and that was to give him a ride somewhere cause he got stranded. Other than that it has all been online. Should i be worried? Or will this all be ok? I need some advice.
I agree. Call the police. If someone does come to your home, they have no proof of what was said between you two..hopefully anyway. I know men can loose it sometimes...but backhanded?? I dunno, Your obviously a VERY forgiving person. I think thats what got you into this mess. Honestly you continuing this online friendship IS putting your family in danger. If you truly are happy with your husband and everything is good between you guys, then i wouldnt admit to hving said anything to this online guy. He does sound like he stalking you....CALL 911!
First of all what are you doing meeting "friends" guys online when you are married? Yeah, if that was me my husband would kick my ass (not literally) for doing that. He has mental problems and you still went to go pick him up to give him a ride. This is why you shouldn't be doing things like this and inviting strangers into your life. You never know what they are capable of.
first . call the police. second. tell your husband. he needs to know. third. if there is no evidence of abuse all they will do is question you and your daughters. so i say u have nothing to worry about. just let your husband know up front. and give them so background info of this guy too.
I agree. Call the police NOW!! Do NOT wait. I really wouldn't worry about people from CPS showing up and how does he have specific names? You should be telling your husband this, now. You also should not have told this stalker everything about your life. This man sounds like he is emotionally unstable. If he texts, calls, etc IGNORE him...no matter what he says. He is threatening you to control you. Get off the computer and call the police before this stalker comes to your house and does something much worse than saying he is calling CPS on you. It is so easy to find addresses on line.
Quoting Stevessherry:
You should turn him into the police for stalking you and harassing you before he hurts you. It sounds like he is obsessed with you. Does your husband know about this man?
call the cops and report him .and if cps do come just explain to them they guy who called is a crazy jealous guy who wants to be more than just friends ..but you don't .
also make sure your place isnot a mess that you have plenty of food and toys for the kids and that its clean there are no drugs or alcohol around this is what they look for .
and tell them your dh has never hit the girls ...and hasn't hit you since the first time .you shouldn't have anything to worry about .you need to totally cut this weirdo out of your life .good luck
My husband already knows about him and the situation. And I didn't know how unstable he was til after that one time i had given him a ride. My husband is ok with me having male friends. And i have a few but this guy is just crazy. We're going to call the police in the morning and report him. And i am definitely not talking to him. I didn't respond to the text of him telling me he called them. Our place is pretty clean. Not emaculate but fine. and alcohol is in the closet up in our room. The only "proof" that he has of the incident is our IM messages. He says he printed of the convo where i told him about the fights. I dont know if thats enough or not. But there is no physical evidence of any abuse cause there hasn't been any. Thank you all for your responses!
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