I'd be pissed, but I'm too busy laughing! (a vent)

[Lil_ol_me9306]

So my mother and I have been having this feud off and on for the last few years about money.  Stupid thing, but she's 52 (as of today) and still thinks that she's entitled to everything I have.  She comes and tries to borrow money or food stamps from me all the time.  I'm a single mother trying to make ends meet with two small boys, she's a single woman that only has herself and her animals to take care of.  She's 52, I'm 26.  She works full time, I only work part time out of the house and I do work from home.  She gets almost three times the amount of money as I do, yet she's still broke at the end of the week.  Yes, I said week.  I have my fiance visiting this week for Turkey Day and, as usual, she's flipping out.  (Ok, yes I said that I'm a single mother and I have a fiance, we only see each other in person about 10% of the time for now, as he lives in another country, so I'm here by my self taking care of my house and kids most of the time.)  She's made up this story saying that I borrowed some money from her, which I wouldn't have done.  She's always trying to borrow money from ME!  Why would I try and borrow money from her?  She had my sister and aunt calling me and telling me to pay her back.  For what?!?!  I didn't borrow anything!!!  For now, she lives across the street and text messages me constantly.  She has this nice little comment on her FB page too:

Linda C. Smith I am really hoping that my daughter Nicole gets the mental help that she so obviously needs.

11 hours ago

That's me, Nicole.  How freaking petty can she get?  She also has disowned me at least twice before over the fact that I didn't give her the money she figured I owed her.  I've just had enough!  I can't take it anymore!  I'm diagnosed as "severely depressed" with an anxiety disorder, with a pretty prominent heart murmur and self-mutilation tendencies.  I'm screwed up in the head, but I'm seeking help for it.  I don't need her flipping out at me over something I didn't even do!!!  I don't understand it!  I've got stress going on in my life, I don't need this.  I've got a job interview today at 11 and I'm nervous as hell about it.  I go on FB to unwind and my aunt tells me that my mother has said something about me, so I go to look.  Well thanks Mom.  I'm changing my phone number and moving asap.  Was planning on moving anyway, but I don't want anymore of her harassing comments.  I'm tired of this crap.  I'm done. 

Am I wrong for being upset about this?  Am I being too much of a bitch?

[mama_girl07]

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"

[isaiahsmomma86]

lol, this.

and honestly, you have to focus on you, i would cut ties with her. Its obviously not a healthy relationship. I would take her off of FB. I have a similar relationship with my sister, i dont talk to her and if anyone calls me to talk about her, i change the subject or get off the phone, i dont have time for toxic relationships!

Quoting mama_girl07:

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"

[monshine2]

Quoting mama_girl07:

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"

 

Exactly what I was thinking.... Concentrate on YOU and YOUR kids... Do what YOU need to do to make a better life for yourself and those kids. Get your help to ensure you stay mentally on top of life because those kids need you and good luck on the job interview....

[Lil_ol_me9306]

I fully intend to.  I took her off FB ages ago and have blocked her so that she can't access my page in any way.  I'm going into my phone company a little later today to change my phone number and I'm planning on moving within the next two weeks.  She will not be getting my forwarding address.  Nor with a lot of my other family because I just won't risk her getting it through someone else.  I just can't do it anymore.  My aunt wants me to "be the bigger person", but I've been the bigger person since I was 6.  I'm 26 now, 20 years of trying to turn the other cheek is more than enough.  She's my MOTHER!!!  She's supposed to be supportive of me, right?  She actually tried to convince me to go back to my abusive ex-husband when I first left him!!!  I can't take it anymore.  It's her birthday today and I would have liked to do something for her, but I just can't take it anymore.  I want nothing more to do with her.  I'm done.

Quoting isaiahsmomma86:

lol, this.

and honestly, you have to focus on you, i would cut ties with her. Its obviously not a healthy relationship. I would take her off of FB. I have a similar relationship with my sister, i dont talk to her and if anyone calls me to talk about her, i change the subject or get off the phone, i dont have time for toxic relationships!

Quoting mama_girl07:

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"

[Lil_ol_me9306]

Awww, thank you!  I'm nervous, but they seemed pretty desperate when they called me yesterday.  I had seriously just put in the application like five minutes before they called and asked me if I'd found another job already!  lol!!!

Quoting monshine2:

Quoting mama_girl07:

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"

Exactly what I was thinking.... Concentrate on YOU and YOUR kids... Do what YOU need to do to make a better life for yourself and those kids. Get your help to ensure you stay mentally on top of life because those kids need you and good luck on the job interview....

[CARA2008]

 IMO parents are the parents and their children should borrow money from them not the other way around! My parents have never asked for money and to think in the future, I would DIE if I had to ask my childgren for money!

You are NOT being a bitch or flipping out for nothing. She is your mother and should be mothering you not taking advantage of you or throwing cheap shots at you.

[Mom2LiamNMolly]

She sounds ALOT like my mother!!!! Seriously. My mom has made comments like that online when we are fighting. And worse, I am sorry to say.

My mom has something called Borderline Personality Disorder. In very simple terms its means that there is no gray area for her. It is always black or white. You love her or you hate her. You are for her or you are against her. No in-between. Borderlines have a fear of losing those they think they love and the second they feel they could lose you, they flip out... and in a lot of cases take a revenge/nasty type route to try and force you back into their lives. A main componant of borderline is that they have serious issues controlling money. They always spend what they don't have, won't settle for substandard items in a lot of cases... want name brands, that sort of thing. They also have a self inflated view of themselves. They think they are far better than they really are and think they are better than everyone else.

Maybe your mom has something like this. My mom refuses to get help so I have had to deal with it my whole life and it sucks.

[isaiahsmomma86]

Yeah, i was told a lot to be the "bigger person" with my sister, and i was for years. I loaned her money when we were in college so she could stay in school (when my parents wouldnt), she never payed it back, and it was a very significant amount of money,  I took her in when my parents wouldnt because she was such a problem (this is my twin sister i might add) She destroyed my house i was renting and got me kicked out! I just choose not to deal with her, and even though none of my family associates with her, they think I SHOULD because she's my twin. Its so irritating.

Quoting Lil_ol_me9306:

I fully intend to.  I took her off FB ages ago and have blocked her so that she can't access my page in any way.  I'm going into my phone company a little later today to change my phone number and I'm planning on moving within the next two weeks.  She will not be getting my forwarding address.  Nor with a lot of my other family because I just won't risk her getting it through someone else.  I just can't do it anymore.  My aunt wants me to "be the bigger person", but I've been the bigger person since I was 6.  I'm 26 now, 20 years of trying to turn the other cheek is more than enough.  She's my MOTHER!!!  She's supposed to be supportive of me, right?  She actually tried to convince me to go back to my abusive ex-husband when I first left him!!!  I can't take it anymore.  It's her birthday today and I would have liked to do something for her, but I just can't take it anymore.  I want nothing more to do with her.  I'm done.

Quoting isaiahsmomma86:

lol, this.

and honestly, you have to focus on you, i would cut ties with her. Its obviously not a healthy relationship. I would take her off of FB. I have a similar relationship with my sister, i dont talk to her and if anyone calls me to talk about her, i change the subject or get off the phone, i dont have time for toxic relationships!

Quoting mama_girl07:

Wow. I would comment somehting like "Well Mom the apple doesnt fall far from the tree :)"