I need some helpful advice... please don't bash...

[Brattycakes]

We found out we're preggo last weekend. It's something we've wanted, but have always known in the back of our minds that may not be a good idea financially. But, we kept trying anyway. I guess I always figured if it did happen, everything would work itself out in the end and be ok. But, it appears that the weight of how deep it all is has landed right on top of me, numbing me. I feel like I can't be excited and haven't hardly wanted to tell anyone. Our parents have been really supportive and are wanting to help out some, but I just feel so ashamed having to have help and for feeling this way. What can I do? All I want to do is cry and I'm afraid constantly feeling like this might hurt the baby....

[tisami1]

Congrats! Any child is a blessing! You will feel better about it. Just give it some time. Nine months is a long time for you to start to get things ready. Dont be too hard on yourself!

[rogerstammy]

Well all I can say is just enjoy the idea of having a baby.. No one is ever really ready to have a baby. Things will work out.. so keep your chin up and don't worry about it..

[TayiaS]

I know how you feel im 32 weeks prego and I am so nervous about having this baby....especially in this economy....but God has blessed us and we can do it. Keep your head up and don't stress and if you need someone to talk to you can add me as a friend =)

[sharonanneb]

I've been in your shoes.  My husband and I have been trying to have another baby for a while now without any luck.  And like you the thought of finances are always there.  But the idea of another baby to complete our family always out weighs the stress.  Everyone has been in a position where things always seem so up in the air it's hard to decide which ball to catch first. 

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Take this blessing and know that with the support of your parents, or even if they hadn't offered to help you, that things will work out.  Don't be ashamed to accept the help and support that others offer you.  We all need it at some point.  

[itscool2recycle]

Are you going to love this baby? Are you going to give it a healthy homelife? Are you going to be able to provide the basics like food, clothing and shelter? Are you going to protect it? Im sure its a yes, you are going to be FINE!  If you have a good family and you love each other and you're smart, then it WILL work itself out. ;) 

[Mom2LiamNMolly]

I found out I was pregnant with Molly when Liam was 12 WEEKS OLD! (I do NOT recommend the Nuva Ring for birth control, BTW!!!) and it was hard to be excited.... I still think I had some lingering PPD at that time on top of it.... but you know what? It is what it is. Of course is scary to be having another baby, especially when things are not secure and the timing might not be right. But you already love this baby and you need to focus on that.. and all the other positive things that come along with a new precious life.

[SandraRh]

sounds like hormones hun!

And yes things do work out...eventually.  They baby won't be here for another 8-9 months so plenty of time to figure things out.

This baby for us was not planned.  We actually didn't want any more.  We had three and three was enough but here we are 26 weeks pregnant with our fourth.  DH is about to quit his job and we are moving 8hours away for me to start grad school in the Fall.  Will we be poor?  Hell yes!  Am I worried?  Yes and No.  Yes I am worried about what we are going to do for money and insurance, food, housing, etc... but at the same time I realize that it is only a matter of time before things work out.  slowly but surely. When I graduate from my Master's I will be able to make twice as much money as before! 

If I were you I'd come up with a plan.  Tentative right now...but have hope for the future.  Without hope you will get bogged down.  And yes occasionally you will have to just say to yourself that things are not good and don't look like they will get any better for the time being.  So I just need to put it out of my mind and live day by day and enjoy the wonderful things in my life. Some things can't be changed but your attitude towards them can be!

:)

[iamcafemom83]

we felt this way at first too. i then realized that money is always going to be an issue....unless we are fortunate to hit the lotto! its a little depressing at first, but u gotta pull your head out of it, and do whatever it is u need to do before baby gets here! are u mostly dealing with debt? sit down now and work out a schedule to pay off as much of it as possible before your due date....if its possible to tuck anything away, do that too! with us, we still have our baby gear from dd, so we dont have to make any of the 'big' purchases this time...thats savings there. are both of you working? ..it may be tight for awhile, but u can make it!

[mommyboyz]

I kinda now how you feel, not in the same story line, but I was not ready for children at age 18 and not being married. I had a hard time dealing with it while I was pregnant, all I wanted to do was cry, I was a single momma working at Pizza Hut, the father decided a mth into my pregnancy drugs was more important. So finacialy I understand, it is tough, but you now deep down that love it what keeps a family together, and the good lord above will be there to hold your hand through it. I still have my ups & downs with money, I think we all do in these rough times with the economy, keep your head up high momma, you will get through this. Take what help you can get, and remember a child is a blessing, a small piece that we all learn to grow & love, & you have us momma's on here to talk to, cry with, & be a friend to you. 

By the way Congrads to the new addition.