So, I am a mother of two beautiful girls, almost 4, and 2 1/2 yrs. If you asked me just a few months ago, I would have said absolutely not to having another one, but just recently I have gotten bitten hard by the baby bug. I brought up the subject to my husband today, and he could not be more against having another baby. He actually wants to get a vasectomy, which I was for until just a few weeks ago or so. I don't really know why all of a sudden I want another one, but I know in my gut that this is what I really want. My husband does have a pretty good argument, but not good enough for me. I had some issues with post partum depression after I had my girls, but I'm doing really well now, and I'm on anxiety and depression medicine to help with that. Do any of you have any advice on how to convince my hubby to come over to my side and decide for us to have another baby?
It would be a huge mistake for you to try to convince your husband...if he does it just to make you happy you may lose your husband all together.
His desire to NOT have another kid is way more important than your desire to have another kid.
If you had PPD before, you'll likely get it again, and maybe worse. It's really hard on the hubbys when we get that! I had PPD pretty badly and now that my youngest is 3 and I look back....it was SO hard on my family. I say wait. It just came on suddenly. No need to hop into bed and get pregnant right now.
Nope can't do it, I am on his side sorry. Think about your doped up on meds and feel fine, what is going to happen when you have to come off those meds because your pregnant??? Uh NO! Sorry I hope your husband stands his grounds and does the vasectomy thing, you will be fine without another baby.
I'm not trying to attack or anything... but I wouldn't want to get pregnant knowing it only happened because I convinced DH to go along with it, but he didn't really want it. I think when you plan a baby, it should be because both partners really want another.
Not that you both wouldn't love the LO once they came along, it just doesn't seem like a good idea.
I do wish you the best of luck, mama. I went through PPD too, and it's certainly a very hard thing to overcome. Good luck.
LOL the wording of your title made me think "so don't get him pregnant."
But I agree with previous poster, if hubby doesn't want one and you have issue after birth it is NOT worth trying to talk him in to it. Also, taking meds while preggers is not always best for the baby. Not to mention in the current economy planning a baby is rediculous.
Your husband has the right to not want to father another child. I'm not going to give you any advice in how to sway him. The two of you obviously need to get communicaton going between yourselves as adults and actually listen to one another. I can tell you are extremely "gung ho" about having another baby, so much so that you're obviously not listening to your husband.
While I agree with others that you should not try to convince your husband to have another child, I don't think it is unreasonable for you to ask him to put off the vasectomy. A couple should be very, VERY sure that they do not want any more children before choosing sterilization. Things could change in a few months or years... he may start to feel more willing and able to deal with another pregnancy and another child, or you may get over "baby fever" and feel ready to completely close off the option of having more children.
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on Mar. 18, 2010 at 10:40 PM