I'm a horrible person. Please don't bash. Kind of long
Ok, so my SIL just found out she's pregnant again, and I can't help it. I just don't feel happy for her at all. I'm actually pretty upset about it. I'm not really sure why. I guess it could be a number of reasons. I had a miscarriage last June, but I really doubt that's it. I want too upset about the miscarriage and am fine with it. I do want another baby, but can't because I want to finish school first and it seems SOOOOO far away! I know it's kind of silly, but I kind of feel like my clock is kind of ticking. Again, I know that's silly cuz I'm only 22, but still. I wanted to give Ryan a sibling closer to his age, but thats not gonna happen. He'l be about 4 or 5 when I finish school.
I dont' feel this way about anyone else who has babies. My friends have babies left and right and that doesn't bother me...just her (and I think if my other SIL got pregnant, I'd feel the same) So its just family...which I know is weird. I guess I thought I'd be the next one to have another baby in the family, and it's just not happening that way. I'm a control freak..get over it. lol. Again, I know that's selfish, but it's just how I feel. I get funny when things don't go my way.
I'd NEVER say anything about this to her. I know it's not her fault and I wouldn't ruin her happiness for her. I just can't help feeling the way I do, and I don;t think it will change.
My sister got pregnanytat the end of December of last year. I was SO, SO, SO NOT HAPPY. She has a monster 7 y/o daughter with her ex. The new guy hasn't been around for 2 yrs yet & no one likes him. My sister is a different person than she has been my entire life ever since she got with him, I don't want this relationship to last. They have both filed for bankrupcy, neither have jobs, etc. They tried to get pregnant & no one could figure out why. Also, to be honest, my son is the baby of the family (he's 2.5) & I want to keep it that way. Everyone oo's & ahh's over him & I don't want that to change, LOL. My bratty niece got to be the baby for 4 yrs, & my son would be 3 when the baby was born, but I was still disgruntled over it. Of course, I said NONE of this to my sister. Then... 10 weeks into the pregnancy, she had a miscarriage. :( I felt really bad for thinking all of these horrible things about her & the pregnancy. But I do sort of feel like it happened for a reason, because they didn't even know wtf they were going to do financially. Now they have more time to figure it out, at least.
Right before I found out I was pregnant with Zoe I had a miscarrige. My husbands niece was pregnant at the same time and didn't have a miscarrige. It was her third kid by three different men, she didn't work or go to school etc. She is a whore basically. Anyway, when I miscarried the first thing to go through my mind was how unfair it was that that cow was having a baby. I couldn't help but resent her.
Do you like your SIL? Do you feel she is un-fit to have another one? Why are you not happy about it?
There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. No one can tell you your feelings are wrong or right.
Quoting Elyce225:Right before I found out I was pregnant with Zoe I had a miscarrige. My husbands niece was pregnant at the same time and didn't have a miscarrige. It was her third kid by three different men, she didn't work or go to school etc. She is a whore basically. Anyway, when I miscarried the first thing to go through my mind was how unfair it was that that cow was having a baby. I couldn't help but resent her.
Do you like your SIL? Do you feel she is un-fit to have another one? Why are you not happy about it? I don't like this SIL, but I'd probably feel the same way if my other SIL, who is my best friend got pregnant, too. I think EMOTIONALLY, she's a bad mom, but she's more financially stable than me and my other SIL, and my BIL is a good daddy. I really don't kno wwhy I am so upset about it. Like I said, it could be a number of reasons
There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. No one can tell you your feelings are wrong or right.
My SIL just had her 3rd child, this is the ONLY one she has custody of. I was being hopeful but she has turned around and is acting the same way. If she ever gets preggo again I may just kill her. O and btw shes only 21.
I can understand where you are coming from though, when she got preggo with baby #3 I was pissed, I want to give my DD a sibling and we aren't doing that until I am done with school and things are better financially but she just has kids left and right and does nothing, lives off the state. So ya I understand where you are coming from.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Only when people let their feelings control their actions, do they become horrible people. Hugs mom
Thank you!
Quoting mommasbabies77:
Feelings don't make a person wrong, horrible, or bad. Feelings are just that. If it bothers you, then it does! Doesn't mean you are wishing something bad to happen, it means you are just sad.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Only when people let their feelings control their actions, do they become horrible people. Hugs mom
You know, I get jealous when ANYONE gets pregnant. I have three children and the doctor strongly reccomended I have my tubes tied. I did. And I so badly want another child and regret the tubal everyday. My girlfriends get preggers (some are on there 5th or 6th kid!!!) and I am happy for them, but it always creates an ache in my heart. I don't know what to do about it except ignore and trust that God has a plan. :)
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