My friend went away for the weekend. She is a single mom with 6 kids also, her 3 youngest are staying with me for a few days. Because of ongoing issues with them repeatedly having lice, I decided to check them before bed, 2 of the 3 have lice. I was pretty pissed. I have 6 kids myself and don't need the extra hassle, but what really set me off was the fact that their mom knew about it before she left for the weekend. I asked the kids if they had told their mom they were itchy and they said yes. She checked their heads and said she'd treat them when she got back, ON MONDAY!
What gets me is that she is off enjoying herself for the weekend and having what she calls a Mommy Sanity weekend. WTF? Well, there goes my sanity for the next two weeks while I try to run around doing laundry, vacuuming etc to make sure my family isn't lice infested as well.
I sent her some pretty heated text messages and told her she needs to get her head out of her ass, but she is out of cell range and won't get them until she's on her way home. However, I do have the # for the guy she is with, and I'm tempted to text him and demand she come home and deal with the lice herself.
I am really really upset, disgusted and disappointed with her, however I don't think this will end our friendship. I will be pretty distant for awhile, until she gets her priorities straight and I will also make it clear that I will not be her free babysitting for her children anymore. But I'm not sure if I should go so far as to text her bf and try to make her come home. What do you think?
She is totally in love with him, but they are not technically even dating right now. They broke up before summer and just starting talking again, and are having a platonic, more or less, weekend away at his cabin. They broke up because he wasn't sure he wanted to take on young kids, as he's considering retiring. If I text this to him, there's a good chance it would ruin any chance of them getting together, but at the same time I'm so pissed at her I really don't care.
Normally she's a very unselfish giving person who would give you her last dollar and go without herself if you asked her for it, but even her own daughter is fed up with her antics lately. What would you do?
**MORNING UPDATE: Well, the entire house needs to be treated anyway so here's what I decided to do. I took the 2 children with lice home last night, and told them to sleep together in their mother's bed, lol. Their oldest sister is home and is watching them. The 3rd kid was here last night and fell asleep so Iet him be and will wash up the bed in the morning.
I sent mom a text this morning and asked her to call me asap. They are possibly out fishing and won't get it until later, but I will be asking her to come home and deal with it immediately.
I am going out right away to buy shampoo for us all here and treat us all this afternoon, then if I haven't heard from her I will go to her house and treat the 2 kids as well. Although I feel the girl needs to have her hair cut I don't think I will go that far because I don't want to traumatize her. She's never had a short haircut in her life. I am looking up one of three zillion websites with instructions on how to treat lice, and highlighting and underlining the part about picking out ALL nits, etc. and leaving that on her kitchen table.
If she doesn't come home tonight I will have to go get the kids by 6pm and then will probably keep them on the leather couch in the basement as its the easiest to clean.
Thank you for everyone who answered. I have the tendancy to make rash decisions and was furious last night. I wasn't sure if I was being reasonable or not. Lice is a BIG deal to me, I can't figure out why she doesn't think so too.