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Read this and hug everyone you love

Posted by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:38 AM
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I know this blog from Chad is very religious but it has touched me deeply.  Please send up prayers, good thoughts, or whatever you do to help another.  I can not even imagine the pain and suffering he is enduring.

Below is the latest entry from Chad Cole's blog as he says goodbye to his infant daughter who was born Saturday following a car crash that killed his pregnant wife, Sara.

I can not begin to express my gratitude for, nor my amazement at, what has happened over the past three days. Never in my life have I felt so surrounded with love. This has been the worst three days of my life, and yet, at the same time, it has been three glorious days, full of shekinah glory. As I prepared to hold my darling daughter to my chest this evening, I was terrified that I would break...literally break...into pieces. My fears were unjustified. The hand of God so reached down and touched me, that I was able to sing my sweet angel into heaven. That peace stayed with my while I bathed her. It covered me like a deep blanket of snow while I dressed her for the first time. It kept a smile on my face while we took pictures and I was able to introduce her to her extended families without all those wires and tubes sticking out of her. You are all responsible for that peace. God's miracle to me was giving me strength beyond my own. Endurance that I could never have mustered. Helping me carry my daughter proudly down long, silent corridors as we approached the gathered family and friends who were singing upon our arrival:

All creatures of our God and King Lift up your voice and with us sing, Alleluia! Alleluia! Thou burning sun with golden beam, Thou silver moon with softer gleam! O praise Him! O praise Him! Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia! Thou rushing wind that art so strong Ye clouds that sail in Heaven along, O praise Him! Alleluia! Thou rising moon, in praise rejoice, Ye lights of evening, find a voice! Thou flowing water, pure and clear, Make music for thy Lord to hear, O praise Him! Alleluia! Thou fire so masterful and bright, That givest man both warmth and light. Dear mother earth, who day by day Unfoldest blessings on our way, O praise Him! Alleluia! The flowers and fruits that in thee grow, Let them His glory also show. And all ye men of tender heart, Forgiving others, take your part, O sing ye! Alleluia! Ye who long pain and sorrow bear, Praise God and on Him cast your care! And thou most kind and gentle Death, Waiting to hush our latest breath, O praise Him! Alleluia! Thou leadest home the child of God, And Christ our Lord the way hath trod.

I am blessed, truly blessed this early morning. I do realize that dark clouds are on the horizon. The hurting will not go away, or end, just because today is done. It's 3:45AM, and Stevie, our 10 year old cat, is wandering around the house crying for his "mommy." All he knows is that he hasn't seen her in 3 days and misses her. His simple desire to sit on her lap and enjoy a good scratch brings tears to my eyes. No matter how hard I try, I know that I can't provide for him what he'd grown to love and desire from Sara. He sits on the step to the family room, watching me type, and I can his questions in his eyes, "Where is she? When will she be home?" He occasionally glances at the back door, as if he expects her to walk in any moment. This house already feels like a shell, an empty reflection of what it once was. I've had this same feeling every time I looked at myself in a mirror over the past 3 days. I just didn't recognize the man who was looking back. He seemed familiar, but not quite the same as what it felt like he should look like. The only thing that keeps the dark waters of despair and depression from flooding over me at this time is the levy of Christ's love. A levy woven from the fabric of your prayers. While God may not have given me my heart's desire, He has stopped up the floodwaters. He has thrown me a life jackets that keeps me from drowning in the deep pits and pools that Satan would love to pull me down into. Thank you, one thousand times, one million times, thank you! O praise Him! O praise Him! Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia!

Sincerely, Chad Cole

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:38 AM
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by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:43 AM

 That brought tears to my eyes.

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:52 AM

This made me cry, I will be praying for him and his family, also I emailed it to my family as well so they can pass it on 

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:53 AM

Sad but amazing.

I felt the same way when my husband was killed. Those days were sad...tragic...horrible...but there were beautiful moments of pure...raw emotion and love.

I now live a life where I appreciate every moment....

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 11:59 AM
Wow..tho I haven't experienced any such tragedy myself it touched me..more ppl need to stop thinkin bout self an embrace someone else..if so many ppl put him an his family in their thoughts an made him feel warmth an love I can imagine what could happ if we do this more often to more ppl
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by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 2:22 PM

Do any of you know his blog address?  Thanks for your help.

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 2:34 PM

 I will never understand how people can move on when the love of their life and the parent of their child(ren) dies. Especially when it happens suddenly and without warning.

 If anything ever happened to my husband or either of my children.. I don't know how I wouldn't just fall apart and die from the physical and emotional pain and heart ache.

 Crazy how some people can be strong enough to write a blog only three days after. Maybe shock? Clearly he has an amazing support system and many people who love him dearly. He's very lucky for that.

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 3:03 PM

I think hes been distracted spending his short time with his daughter.  She died early this morning... he wrote that hours after losing her.  And he felt sympathy for the cat!  The only thing I can attribute this to is his faith in God.  That has obviously been his focus while trying to deal with all of the horrible events that have transpired.

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 3:23 PM
Oh gosh. How sad. :(
Sending thoughts and prayers his way! Seems like he has a great family and support system to help him through.
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by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 3:47 PM

wow, sad

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