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Abortion Needs to be Taught in Our Med. Schools

Posted by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:32 PM
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 I was taking an afternoon nap when the hemorrhaging started while my toddler napped in his room when I woke up to find blood gushing upward from my body. Though I didn't know it at the time, I was experiencing a placental abruption, a complication my doctor had told me was a possibility. My husband was at work, so I had to do my best to take care of me and my toddler on my own. I managed to get to the phone and make arrangements for both of my children before going to a Chicago hospital.

Everyone knew the pregnancy wasn't viable, that it couldn't be viable given the amount of blood I was losing, but it still took hours for anyone at the hospital to do anything. The doctor on call didn't do abortions. At all. Ever. In fact, no one on call that night did. Meanwhile, an ignorant batch of medical students had gathered to study me -- one actually showed me the ultrasound of our dying child while asking me if it was a planned pregnancy. Several wanted to examine me while I lay there bleeding and in pain. No one gave me anything for the pain or even respected my request to close the door even though I was on the labor and delivery floor listening to other women have healthy babies as the baby I had been trying to save died in my womb.

A very kind nurse risked her job to call a doctor from the Reproductive Health Clinic who was not on call, and asked her to come in to save my life. Fortunately she was home, and got there relatively quickly. By the time she arrived, I was in bad shape. The blood loss had rendered me nearly incoherent, but she still moved me to a different wing and got me the painkillers no one else had during the screaming hours I'd spent in the hospital. After she checked my lab tests, she told us I would need two bags of blood before she could perform the procedure. Her team (a cadre of wonderful students who should all go on to run their own clinics) took turns checking on me and my husband. They all kept assuring me that soon it would be over, and I would feel much better. My husband had to sign the consent for surgery (I was clearly not competent enough to make decisions), and they took me away along with a third bag of blood to be administered during the procedure.

Later I found out that the doctor had taken my husband aside as they brought me into surgery. She promised him she would do her best to save me, but she warned him there was a distinct possibility that she would fail. The doctor who didn't do abortions was supposed to have contacted her (or someone else who would perform the procedure) immediately. He didn't. Neither did his students. Supposedly there was a communication breakdown and they thought she had been notified, but I doubt it. I don't know if his objections were religious or not; all I know is that when a bleeding woman was brought to him for treatment he refused to do the only thing that could stop the bleeding. Because he didn't do abortions. Ever.

My two kids at home almost lost their mother because someone decided that my life was worth less than that of a fetus that was going to die anyway. My husband had told them exactly what my regular doctor said, and the ER doctor had already warned us what would have to happen. Yet none of this mattered when confronted by the idea that no one needs an abortion. You shouldn't need to know the details of why a woman aborts to trust her to make the best decision for herself. I don't regret my abortion, but I would also never use my situation to suggest that the only time another woman should have the procedure is when her life is at stake. After my family found out I'd had an abortion, I got a phone call from a cousin who felt the need to tell me I was wrong to have interfered with God's plan. And in that moment I understood exactly what kind of people judge a woman's reproductive choices.

http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2011/05/26/abortion_saved_my_life/index.html

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LyTe684
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:44 PM
Wow
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MrsBridges19
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:50 PM

I'm not touching this one....

Elyce225
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:50 PM

Actually Drs do learn how to do abortions in med school.  Its not a requirement as an intern, a resident or an attending.  If a Dr does not want to do them they do not have to, not even in an emergency situation.  The anesthesiologists I worked for both told me that is not counted under the oath they take.  I would not want a Dr who never did an actual abortion (only learned them through a textbook) to do one on me, do I want my OB doing my back surgeries? Hell no!

It doesn't sound to me that this lady was being judged at all, she is making it out that way.  Saying "the Dr was supposed to contact the abortion Dr but I doubt it", how the fuck does she know who they contacted?  She is assuming a lot of stuff in her article. 

Also if she knew this was a huge possibility why didn't she get one sooner before disasterstruck.  This is her own fault!  And if she wanted to try to go ahead with the pregnancy SHE should have notified a Dr who does do abortions and let them know her situation, this is what high risk OB's are for, they give you recommendations, duh!

rjackson4684
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:51 PM

WOW Mama, I am so sorry. 

sharebearII
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 2:56 PM

 From PZ Meyers' blog:

 

The story also highlights the subversive strategy the right wing has followed: there is now a serious dearth of doctors trained to do abortions, so when a necessary abortion case shows up in an emergency, you've got a muddle of the self-righteous and the ignorant, all incompetent to do anything, milling about with their thumbs up their asses. She might as well have stumbled bleeding into a church and asked for help…which is exactly what the Coathanger Coalition wants them to do.

Imagine if someone showed up in an emergency room having a heart attack, and for religious reasons, no one had any training in using a defibrillator, and the only one available was in an underfunded clinic across town. That's the direction we're going, only we're suppressing information and skills that would help just women's lives. Which makes it OK, I guess. No men will die of a placental abruption, so it's a low priority.

sharebearII
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 3:00 PM

 

Quoting rjackson4684:

WOW Mama, I am so sorry. 

 It wasn't me...   It's someone named Mikki Kendall.   :)

 

Elyce225
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 3:00 PM

Well now the article makes total sense.  It's super biased. 

The lady is a dumbass and should have researched her options better. This is ALL HER fault.  I am glad none of the Drs touched her. 

Btw before anyone says anything I am like 150% pro-choice, lol!

Quoting sharebearII:

 From PZ Meyers' blog:

 

The story also highlights the subversive strategy the right wing has followed: there is now a serious dearth of doctors trained to do abortions, so when a necessaryabortion case shows up in an emergency, you've got a muddle of the self-righteous and the ignorant, all incompetent to do anything, milling about with their thumbs up their asses. She might as well have stumbled bleeding into a church and asked for help…which is exactly what the Coathanger Coalition wants them to do.

Imagine if someone showed up in an emergency room having a heart attack, and for religious reasons, no one had any training in using a defibrillator, and the only one available was in an underfunded clinic across town. That's the direction we're going, only we're suppressing information and skills that would help just women'slives. Which makes it OK, I guess. No men will die of a placental abruption, so it's a low priority.


Elyce225
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 3:01 PM

And ohh Mikki is a really cute name of a girl, hmm.

sassyscorpio85
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 3:01 PM

agreed!!

Quoting MrsBridges19:

I'm not touching this one....


sharebearII
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 3:03 PM

 If a Doctor doesn't do abortions, he/she should not be allowed to work in the ER.    Simple.

 

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