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Not Jealous, Just Annoyed!! (PIOG)

Posted by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:45 AM
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This post is going to come off like I'm jealous, I'm sure of that b/c SO says I need to get over my jealousy/insecurity issues when this subject is brought up. With that being said, I can not... WE cannot go any damn where without running into something he's slept with, dated, fooled around with, or just hung out with!

SO is very upfront and honest with me. He feels like he needs to tell me everything b/c if not, I may hear from someone else and then I'll be pissed at him. So, when we or he runs into an "old friend," he feels the need to tell me. Example, we were grocery shopping, and a girl walked by, and I could tell by the smug look she gave me that she was an ex. He was like, "Do you want to know who that was?" I replied, "Let me guess, an ex?" He was like, "Yeah, she was my first." Ok, that was the first time! I let him know real quick I was not happy knowing that b/c I dont want to know who the hell he lost his virginity to! Then a girl moved into our apartment complex.. AN EX that his bestfriend happened to be dating/fooling around with at the time. We went to a bar not to long ago (date night for us b/c the in-laws kept our kids) and the damn bartender was an ex. We went on vacation 2 hours away. We go every year as a family, and the girl sitting by the pool was someone he'd slept with. Of course, he didnt tell me he slept with her b/c he'd by then learned his lesson. I asked him b/c she was rather large, and he's always come across like he'd never fool around with a big girl. We went to go pick up our daughter from school and walked by a girl and he felt the need to tell me that was an ex. I didnt see her. His mom brought over some clothes an ex of his gave her for our daughter. Oh, and we just found out one of his exes is a teacher at our daughter's school. These arent even all the encounters we've had with past girlfriends/flings.

Im not jealous of any of these girls. They may have gotten there first, but I'm here now. Everyone has a past and I know that. I just get tired of being reminded of his! This isnt even a vent about SO. I'm not mad at him b/c its not like he can help where his "old friends" pop up. Now he doesnt tell me details, he'll just say, "Look, I know you're not going to like this, but a girl I hung out with a couple of times said 'hello' today." I told him to only inform me if the "old friend" talks to him and to leave any details of their past out. The less I know, the better. If we walk passed a girl at the school, dont tell me! I do not want to know!

by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:45 AM
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danie24
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:48 AM
You're insane.
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CrysCyn527_7310
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:55 AM

Thanks for the diagnosis, Doc.

Quoting danie24:

You're insane.


LyTe684
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:55 AM

*hugs*

offrdngal
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 8:59 AM

 It's hard to be with someone who has "been around the block".  Sometimes, it's just better to not know.  Don't ask, don't tell...if you don't ask, he shouldn't tell...it would save both of you some frustration.

crazytexan
by Member on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:03 AM

 That would get irritating.

tinkerspell
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:05 AM
Hugs it sounded like ypu just needed to vent really.i dont think your insane I think you are just fine. I also think your handling the news very well as well you understand and thats big hang tight he is only trying to be honest but remember he chose YOU and I think you can go to bed smiling about that gl
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simplyus642
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:07 AM

My dh will the same thing but it doesn't bother me. I say ok, thanks. lol. He does it because he likes being honest with me, and he probably wants the same in return.(not sex stories but honesty.lol)

silvercrow
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:12 AM

Yea shit like that doesn't bother me if he feels the need to tell me i listen roll my eyes and let it go..

msjaxon
by Dori on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:15 AM
That would get so old, I get why you're irritated. Knowing your ex has a past is different than living with weekly reminders. And an ex giving her kids old clothes? Hell no
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Wyndi
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:16 AM

 We finally moved to another state to get away from both our ex's.  Only now when I speak with my MIL I hear I ran into _______ and she wanted to know whats up with my son...... GGGGrrrrrrrrr and she wonders why I don't call anymore......

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