I am asking for some advice. My sister in law just asked me to go on a family vacation with them. She wantts to take us on a cruise next month. We can not afford to go on a vacation. She said they would pay for everything. They want us to go so our boys can hang out together who are very close in age. My sister-in-law and I are not exactly friends but get along being family and all. I am torn. My consen is that she likes to flaunt her money as she has done in the past, and I may "pay" for it in the end such as countless times it may be brought up in the future. I also don't like hand outs or want to be their charity case. On the other hand, they may just want to spend some quality time with the family and they know they can only do that if they pay for it. Also it would be nice to be able to go on a vacation with my family as I don't see us taking one of our own anytime soon. Just looking for your thoughts. I don't know if I am overthinking this or if it really is a bad idea. Thanks for reading!
You can always pay back with niceness. Be available for babysitting. Do some baking from time to time and bring it to her. Whatever you're good at. Are the guys brothers? Maybe have your husband talk to her husband and see what it's all about.
It is totally up to you? If she will throw it back in your face countless times I wouldn't do it though. Cruises are wonderful. IF you do go, please let them know you don't want to spend every waking moment with them. That can ruin trips where friends or family go on vacation together. Have a plan in place and agreement before you go.
As long as you get it in writing that you are not to pay it back I say GO!. I watch all the court shows and this always comes back to bite family or friends if not in writing. As you can not afford it, ask her nicely if she would mind just a note saying it is a gift for you and your family. This way if down the road she gets pissed off and comes back asking for the money , you are covered. Go then, It's a cruise and have fun. Where is it you are going? I'd love it go on a cruise but we too can not afford it, plus my DH due to certain health problems can not do a cruise or even a boat ride. Take pictures but do try to get your DH to get it in writing so there can never be an issue with you having to pay it back.
Quoting mom248:I am asking for some advice. My sister in law just asked me to go on a family vacation with them. She wantts to take us on a cruise next month. We can not afford to go on a vacation. She said they would pay for everything. They want us to go so our boys can hang out together who are very close in age. My sister-in-law and I are not exactly friends but get along being family and all. I am torn. My consen is that she likes to flaunt her money as she has done in the past, and I may "pay" for it in the end such as countless times it may be brought up in the future. I also don't like hand outs or want to be their charity case. On the other hand, they may just want to spend some quality time with the family and they know they can only do that if they pay for it. Also it would be nice to be able to go on a vacation with my family as I don't see us taking one of our own anytime soon. Just looking for your thoughts. I don't know if I am overthinking this or if it really is a bad idea. Thanks for reading!
I personally wouldnt do it. I hate feeling like i "owe" someone anything. i know it sucks not being able to afford vacation (i cant either) but i just wouldnt wanna face the unknown repercussions.
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on Feb. 3, 2012 at 11:59 PM