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The other woman.....

Posted by on May. 13, 2012 at 8:25 PM
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After 21 years of marriage, I went out with another woman, but it was really my wife's idea. "I know that you love her," my wife said one day, taking me by surprise. "But I love YOU," I protested. "I know, but you also love her." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother. Mom had been a widow for 19 years and the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. So that night my wife suggested I call to invite my Mom to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, aren't you well?" Mom asked when I phoned. My mother was always the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. "No, I'm fine. I just thought that it would be pleasant to pass some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us?" She thought about it for a moment, then said, "I would like that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our "date." She waited at the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting". We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway through the entrées, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner we had an agreeable conversation, nothing extraordinary, but just catching up on recent events of each others life. In fact, we talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you". I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered. A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn't be there, but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night out with you meant for me. I love you. Mom " At that moment I understood the importance of saying, in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time".

by on May. 13, 2012 at 8:25 PM
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by Kandy on May. 13, 2012 at 10:40 PM

you got me blubbering.

by on May. 13, 2012 at 10:54 PM
Me too! I'm so glad the hubby and the kids are out "breaking in" the new camper or I would felt like a complete tard! Makes me so glad that I decided to go surprise my mom before our dinner & movie date next weekend!

Quoting gypsy_rose:

you got me blubbering.

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by on May. 16, 2012 at 7:00 AM
That was a beautiful touching story i am so glad n happy u got to b with ur Mom i only wish icould hav been with my Mom n my Grandmother rite before they passed n went to Heaven.Thank u for sharing...
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by on May. 19, 2012 at 2:51 PM

That is a great mind opening story. Thank you for sharing!

by on May. 19, 2012 at 7:10 PM

This is a beautiful, touching story that you will never forget. Your wife must have had a niggling feeling that you really needed to see your wonderful Mother. Thank you for sharing it with us.

by on May. 19, 2012 at 7:24 PM
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by on May. 21, 2012 at 12:41 AM

Thanks for that....it made my night.  I got to spend 9 wonderful days with my mother before she passed away last summer from a LONG battle with Alzheimer's.  NEVER pass up a day to say I LOVE YOU!  

by Bronze Member on May. 21, 2012 at 12:39 PM


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