My 13YO DD is upstairs sobbing right now -- and I feel like the WORST parent in the world.
DD, age 13 (7th grade) is crying her eyes out. She has been completely blowing off her chores (including cleaning her room) over the past week +, and she has been very mouthy & disrespectful. This evening, I 'talked' to her about the state of her room (where -- in addition to mounds of dirty clothes and wet towels -- I found dirty dishes & empty soda can -- and BUGS -- when she is not allowed to eat in her room), as well as the fact that she failed to complete her chores AGAIN yesterday (despite several reminders).
So tonight is the spring choir concert at her middle school. And she will not be participating. She was quite rude to both her Dad & me earlier (and even told her father she "hates" him - which brought him to tears). This is part of her grade -- but, despite her apologies, we're not allowing her to go (every time she gets in trouble she apologizes -- and we relent -- but her behavior never improves.)
She's not a bad kid. She's just a teenager. But she's pushed far too many buttons this week. And I'm sure she doesn't even get that this is breaking our hearts. :(