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Arranged Marriage

Posted by on May. 16, 2012 at 7:20 PM
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Would you arrange a marriage for your kids?


If so it is the norm in your culture/heritage/family traditions to do so?


If you were to arrange a marriage what would you be looking for in your childs future mate?


I have a work friend who is an arranged marriage and it turned out great for her and she plans to do the same for her children.

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Mrs.Velasquez
by Member on May. 16, 2012 at 7:44 PM
Never. I can't imagen being married to someone I have never met or didn't love. My girls will marry who they love and choose.
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SarahLizyB
by Member on May. 16, 2012 at 7:45 PM
Heck no. He can marry who he wants
shajdinyak
by Shannon on May. 16, 2012 at 7:46 PM
My dhs parents tried to do it for him but he ended up with blonde hair ....blue eyed me;)
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kokyuhomama
by on May. 16, 2012 at 8:53 PM
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Yes!  I would love to arrange our childrens' marriages.  It is not in my culture/heritage/family tradition to do so.  For me, the function of an arranged marriage would be to find other parents who we get along with, in addition to sharing similar life philosophies.  However, I doubt our sons would accept this new custom.  laughing

MIA0223
by Michelle on May. 16, 2012 at 10:51 PM
Kind of, but it's not what people think of as arranged marriage.
It's part of our religion.
Not sure what we will look for because they are so young and the oldest already has a girl he will marry, they chose each other.
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supermommie1
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:09 PM


Quoting MIA0223:

Kind of, but it's not what people think of as arranged marriage.
It's part of our religion.
Not sure what we will look for because they are so young and the oldest already has a girl he will marry, they chose each other.

what religion are you? 

how do you go about finding a mate?

what if they chose not to marry said mate?

are they allowed to divorce?

MIA0223
by Michelle on May. 16, 2012 at 11:11 PM
We are Muslim, We will find a spouse for them by asking around the community for someone also looking for a spouse.
If they don't click, we find someone else.
Divorce is allowed in our religion.


Quoting supermommie1:



Quoting MIA0223:

Kind of, but it's not what people think of as arranged marriage.

It's part of our religion.

Not sure what we will look for because they are so young and the oldest already has a girl he will marry, they chose each other.

what religion are you? 

how do you go about finding a mate?

what if they chose not to marry said mate?

are they allowed to divorce?


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Barabell
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:19 PM

No, I would not.

It is not the norm in our family.

I'm not sure what I would be looking for in a mate for my son, and that's why I wouldn't consider doing it.

I've heard that arranged marriages have the same success rate as non-arranged marriages. I don't personally have anything against it, especially if divorce is allowed after both parties gave the marriage a good shot. Sometimes when you're in a relationship it's hard to be objective to see if that is really the best relationships for you.

supermommie1
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:20 PM


Quoting MIA0223:

We are Muslim, We will find a spouse for them by asking around the community for someone also looking for a spouse.
If they don't click, we find someone else.
Divorce is allowed in our religion.


Quoting supermommie1:



Quoting MIA0223:

Kind of, but it's not what people think of as arranged marriage.

It's part of our religion.

Not sure what we will look for because they are so young and the oldest already has a girl he will marry, they chose each other.

what religion are you? 

how do you go about finding a mate?

what if they chose not to marry said mate?

are they allowed to divorce?


at what age do you start paring them up?

what if later, they find out they are gay?

what if you pair them up and 5 years down the line, they end up hating each other?

MIA0223
by Michelle on May. 16, 2012 at 11:23 PM
When ever they are ready to get married.
I don't think about them being gay, why sit and think about that?
If they are miserable 5 years down the line it's up to them as adults to work on their marriage or end it, they are always welcome back in our home of they chose to end it.


Quoting supermommie1:



Quoting MIA0223:

We are Muslim, We will find a spouse for them by asking around the community for someone also looking for a spouse.

If they don't click, we find someone else.

Divorce is allowed in our religion.





Quoting supermommie1:




Quoting MIA0223:

Kind of, but it's not what people think of as arranged marriage.


It's part of our religion.


Not sure what we will look for because they are so young and the oldest already has a girl he will marry, they chose each other.

what religion are you? 

how do you go about finding a mate?

what if they chose not to marry said mate?

are they allowed to divorce?



at what age do you start paring them up?

what if later, they find out they are gay?

what if you pair them up and 5 years down the line, they end up hating each other?


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