I am not yet a mom but my boyfriend/fiance has two kids. When we first met he didn't want anything serious and when we moved to be closer to his kids he had never told me to be there mom. I wanted to be but did not want to over step my role in their lives so I naturally and subconciously started acting like the teacher i was for a year. The class I had was all kids with problems and were told to be hard and stern with them. Now he has decided that he wants me to be mom and I want to be but he is afraid because of the way things were before. What do I do? How can I make sure that I can be a mom without being the stern, hard teacher I was before?
Mother figure I guess. Their mom is not in the picture in any way. She has chosen not to be.