19 year old daughter has been brainwashed by boyfriends family
There's no support group for this, there's no law to stop this. We're at a complete loss as to what to do and devestated. This boy and his parents have been in our lives for a couple years now. We didn't allow her to see him because of his criminal record and violent temper. His parents were constantly being evicted and they've moved quite often. Of course she snuck around behind our back to see him. Come to find out that she completely blew off her first year of college to see him, as well as gotten fired from a job for always calling in so she could see this boy.
I've tried talking to his mother, but she's worse than this boy is...and was DETERMINED to "get her" for her son. They are the kind of people who leech off anything and everyone they can, but my daughter refused to see it.
In the last few years she withdrew from friends and family, kept herself in her room and became very depressed, lost her confidence and refused to even TRY at anything offered her.
Recently it came to a head in our family. Her failing school was just the straw that broke the camels back, the constant fighting, sneaking around behind our backs, attitude has taken not only a toll on our health bug financially a burden on us as well. We told her she had to make a choice, the military, a full-time job until her probation for college was over or move out. She moved out...with the boyfriend and his family. Now she has cut off all communication with us. We've also come to find out that she has been lying to his family, telling them that we kept her prisoner and have been abusive. This is NOT true, and by doing this she risks our son who is younger and still in the home.
We are on a rollercoaster of emotions, I love my daughter and want her home. These people are dangerous and we have seen signs of brainwashing. The boyfriend also shows every sign of being abusive, mentally and physically. His mother is beyond sick...actually calling my daughter at work one day, telling her that her son was in the hospital with a "broken heart" because he couldn't be with her. My daughter came home and told me that she needed to move in with him in order to help him. We managed to talk her out of it then...but we couldn't fight it this time. My fear is that this woman will talk her in to getting pregnant (for the welfare and food stamps) then she will really be stuck with these monsters. And if she wanted to escape there's no way this woman would let a baby go. And given all that she has lied about to them about us, I don't think there would be much we could do about it.
I know she's 19, and there's nothing we can legally do. I really just needed to vent, and there isn't a support group out there for parents in our situation. This is like a death. Just a couple years ago my daughter was an honor student, incredibly funny, honest and very close with us and her friends. She's become this low-class, dirty, foul-mouthed, insecure and negative person. We just don't know what to do :'(