This is the only group I belong to and first time posting. I don't know if this is a good group to ask divorce questions but I know there can be some single mom's out there and maybe even some in Pennsylvania....? It's not me going through the divorce (I'm not even married). My friend who lives across the street from me is the one who is and it's only been a day and a half since the decision to divorce has been made (by her husband).
They are young (early 20's) and have 2 kids that are 3 and 8 months. My friend has not been happy at home and I know there are two sides to everything - but what I hear from her, he treats her like crap and he turns to his mother for advice more than her when it should be a "married" decision. From what I hear his mother will know things weeks if not a months before she does. Like I said, 2 sides to everything but I have seen in him, I don't care too much for him (just personal opinion).
Anyway, my friend got "wooed" (is that how it's spelt?) by another man. In like 2 days she said he treated her better than her husband ever did. But as far as I know, she was beginning to like the guy but the extreme line hasn't been crossed yet. But saying that last part, I do feel that if you are lying, making excuses, deleted messages, that's borderline cheating.
Here is what husband has done so far that I don't think is right - kicked the mother and children out of home. Kicked them out into the street without a place to go! Legally, I've been trying to tell her, that she can go back inside their home and sit her butt right onto a chair and say "you can not make me leave my home".
They made a written agreement between each other with her brother as signed witness that since he works and is off on the weekends, she will get the kids during the week and he on the weekend. We were really afraid for her that he wouldn't give the kids back tonight. He did but he demanded that if she wasn't at her mother's in 30 minutes, he was going to come get the kids. How can he demand where she goes and does once she has the kids?
Also, I called her today because I saw a note on the door. Kind of did some sneaky snoopy neighbor work and used my camera to focus in across the street from my son's window. I knew she would want to know what it said. The note reads that he has cameras inside the house watching. What the heck?! They made the decision yesterday morning - she is the one who stays home with the kids and now he's treating her like a criminal. Can he do all of this? Can the husband ban his wife from their home (w/out court order), demand where the kids will be and place cameras in the house to watch her if she comes in? That's her stuff in there too. They have 2 vehicles - he wants her to sign her name to their home to his grandmother just so that she can keep the mini-van. Also, he told her that the reason he has such a hard time watching the kids is because he has a learning disability. For goodness sake he drives a large truck at work.