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Do you believe in telling kids little white lies? What fibs have you told your child?

Posted by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 5:44 PM
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5 Lies Every Parent Should Tell Their Kids

Posted by Ericka Sóuter

surprised girlI have a mommy friend who doesn't believe in sugar-coating anything with her kids. Before they hit kindergarten, they were up on every single danger that lurked beyond their front door. And mythical, make-believe icons like the Tooth Fairy -- forget about it. When they lose a tooth, they have the option to save it or drop it down the drain. Her take: kids need to be prepared for the real world. Why delay it with silly fantasies.

I'll admit, her philosophy will save her from the inevitable breakdown that happens when children finally realizes there is no Santa. But I'd rather my little ones live in ignorant bliss for as along as they can. I'm not saying fib about everything -- just a few very specific things.

Here are 5 lies parents should tell you kid:

  1. Santa DOES exist. Every kid should believe St. Nick, the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and every other wonderful, magical creature that does nice things for them is real. Soon enough they'll be smacked with the fact that very few people do anything nice for free.
  2. It doesn't matter if you win or lose. This is about teamwork and good sportsmanship. Of course it's bull crap but they don't need to know that until after high school. As adults, it's all about winning -- winning that promotion, winning that eBay auction, and so on.
  3. There are no such things as monsters. Fact of the matter is, they do exist. They are just of the Jerry Sandusky variety rather than Freddy Krueger.
  4. Honesty is the best policity. Oh the irony. While this old adage is true, we grown-ups know it's not possible to be truthful all the time. Kids shouldn't lie but we have to. Are you really going to tell your boss he's incompetent or a party host that her dinner was disgusting?
  5. Love is more important than money. Well, love doesn't pay the rent and you definitely can't eat it. So while love should be more important than money, the almighty dollar is just as key to survival. But kids don't need to know that until college!

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Do you believe in telling kids little white lies? What fibs have you told your child?

by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 5:44 PM
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steveiguana
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 5:48 PM

I agree some white lies are acceptable i want my kids to have the magic that brings that extra special to little things like Christmas or loosing a tooth. We have friends that do not and while we respect their choice it is hard sometimes as they feel the need to not respect ours and have tried to say something to our kids. We let them know we didn't appreciate it though.

nodramamama311
by on Jul. 17, 2012 at 9:18 AM

People lie to their kids all the time, they might not view it as lying but if you tell your kids something that  you dont know is 100% factually correct, perhaps just something you believe, then that is a lie. I do it with santa, the easter bunny, thanksgiving(well our schools lie about that), all kinds of things.

MIA0223
by Michelle on Jul. 17, 2012 at 9:22 AM
I disagree with most of that list!
Every kid does not need to believe in Santa or all that. Many kids grow up just fine with active imaginations without celebrating those holidays!

I also will not be teaching love is more important than money. I think that's stupid and sets your kids up for falling for the first loser they meet because "I love him!"
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MamaDee83
by on Jul. 17, 2012 at 9:27 AM

popcorn

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