well me and my husband have been fighting a whole lot lately and i'm starting to get to the point where I just can't deal. We fight for everything even small things, he started a new job in April and were not making the money we use to make so I think that has some to do with it but not everything. The one thing we fight about alot is parenting our kids(2 girls) he gets mad at me if I yell or spank them (which I only do when I've told them a milion times to stop doing something and don't listen) he gets mad at me for doing it but if he does it, it's ok for him to do it that drives me crazy. Another thing is that not to long ago he got into an arguement with my father and then the following week with my sister and it drives me crazy that now they don't get along. I don't know what to do anymore? I don't even remember the last time we had a date night I understand we don't have money but you don't need money to spend time together but we don't even do that. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't appreciate me and everything I do I'm a stay at home mom and I feel like he thinks that i don't do anything all day. I feel like he thinks that raising kids is an easy job, Im not going to lie I have a bad temper sometimes and I'm sure he's tired of my nagging too. But he doesn't tell me when something is wrong he just ignores it. Another thing is that we have a trust issue I didn't have it at the beginning of our marriage until I caught his ass talking to some B&^#H and then talking to some other B^%$H which happened like 3 years ago. He hasn't done it anymore I don't think, but I just didn't trust him after that, and I always catch him checking my phone and I have never given him reason to do it and that makes me even more angry i don't know what to do I'm so tired of everything and so unhappy. Sometimes I feel like getting a job and telling him to just leave and leave us alone but I think how much that would affect my babies and it holds me back. Im so frusturated uurrgghhh!
Some counseling is in order. You need to learn to communicate with each other, especially when it comes to parenting. You both need to be on the same page. A change in the finances will put a strain on anyone and it's showing in your house now.
the thing with that is that he won't go to marriage counseling he'll tell me nothing is wrong and that it's a waist of time. I don't know he just called me right now and we got into another fight I think were beyond counseling i think i just give up. Im just so afraid of how it will affect my kiddos if we seperate, I'm so scared!
I agree, marriage and individual counseling.
I actually left DH for a few months this year. Different issues, but counseling has helped.
Don't judge ADHD if you don't understand it!!!
- TXathomemommy
on Aug. 23, 2012 at 1:10 PM