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Sex or money: What makes you happier?

Posted by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 5:57 PM
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If you're thinking that the benefits of a hefty bank account could help turn up the heat in the bedroom, you're at least partly right.

Money might not buy love, but it can allow for a sizzling sex life.

About 70% of multimillionaires -- with a mean net worth of a whopping $90 million -- say they enjoy better and more adventurous sex, according to a 2007 survey by Prince & Associates Inc., a marketing research firm specializing in global private wealth.

"Fully 63% of rich men said wealth gave them 'better sex,' which they defined as having more-frequent sex with more partners. That compares to 88% of women who said more money gave them better sex, which they defined as 'higher quality' sex," writes Robert Frank in an article for the Wealth Report entitled "The Rich Libido."

It makes sense when you think about it: Money relieves much of the life stresses that most of us have to deal with, helping those 1%ers relax and let go.

The security of extreme wealth can provide a sense of stability that many people, particularly female millionaires, find empowering. And expensive toys like private jets and trips to exotic locales certainly don't hurt, either.

Hooking up with the rich may even improve the quality of sex, at least for women. In a 2009 study (PDF), researchers at Newcastle University found that as male partners' income increased, so did the frequency of women's orgasms.


Could money act as an aphrodisiac? Maybe. Or, as the study's authors suggest, perhaps wealth-inspired orgasms are the result of evolution, helping women discriminate between men to find those that have the best provider potential.

However, a partner who can provide more resources and more orgasms may not necessarily be the best long-term bet, because wealth changes people, and not always for the better.

According to social psychologist Justin Lehmiller, "Wealthier people engage in more dishonest and unethical behavior, and these traits may follow them into the bedroom. In fact, research has found that power and wealth are linked to a higher likelihood of infidelity."

But luckily for all of 99%ers, sex itself may confer more happiness than money ever could.

In one study, researchers at Dartmouth College and the University of Warwick, England, measured levels of happiness in 16,000 men and women. They found that the more sex people had, the happier they were, regardless of their age or whether they were male or female.

And while money was found to buy more sexual partners, it didn't necessarily buy more sex. In fact, men who paid for sex were considerably less happy than those who didn't, which makes sense.

According to Lehmiller, "You can buy all of the sex you want, but at the end of the day, most of us want and need more than a few moments of physical contact. Purchasing sex does not meet our psychological needs for intimacy and emotional connection."


The researchers even found that sex is so closely tied to happiness that they estimated increasing sexual intercourse from once a month to once a week would have the same mood-boosting effects as adding $50,000 a year in income.

Sex may contribute to your happiness -- and your actual bank account -- in other ways, too. According to research by biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher, people who have more sex might do better at work.

Sex triggers the release of various brain chemicals, such as dopamine, vasopressin and oxytocin, which are associated with creativity, problem-solving, cooperation and confidence. It stands to reason, says Fisher, that regular sex might improve performance in the boardroom as well as the bedroom.

So how can you reap these rewards? Invest in your relationship by giving it the same time and attention that you would your retirement portfolio. Make time for date nights. Make sure that the number of positive interactions with your partner outnumbers the negatives.

Practice 30-second hugs to get those feel-good chemicals flowing. Share a cuddle -- and maybe a fantasy or two. Remember, you may not own six homes and a private jet, but when you bank on your relationship, you can feel just as rich.

So what makes you happier: sex or money?

by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 5:57 PM
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Hottmomma607
by Trica on Oct. 4, 2012 at 6:29 PM

Having sex while laying on money! LOL j/k

Am I happy to lay my head down at night that bills are paid,food is on the table when need it to be! I never had to choose? I enjoy sex with my husband! That'll never change!

Punkie74
by Ruby Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 6:31 PM
I'll take the money... though i'm all for the sex on money idea!! LOL
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nodramamama311
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 6:35 PM
I hate to say it but money because money allows life to be less stressful therefor more enjoyable, on all levels.
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junebutterfly
by Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 6:35 PM
Love
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Mommy4000
by Bronze Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 6:36 PM

Sex, most definitely.

dingysfamily
by Suzi on Oct. 4, 2012 at 7:11 PM

   My 1st dh made way more money than dh #2, yet sex with #2 has always been way better because the love is real!  Having more money doesn't always mean less stress; my 1st marriage was way more stressful than this one.  It's not just how much money you have; it's also how you handle the money and how you LOVE!!!!

Quoting junebutterfly:

Love

 

PinkTigerLily
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 2:05 PM
Having money Takes away a lot of stress, but sex is a stress reliever too. I'd take lots and lots of sex in a loving relationship over the money
storkradio193
by Bronze Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 5:36 PM

Money tends to stress me out, so I go with money.  Assuming, I am choosing between more sex or more money.  But, not at the expense of a healthy loving relationship.

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mdolav
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 5:42 PM

SEX makes everyone happy!!

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shilohkitten
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:49 AM

I haven't had to choose either like pp said.  But I certainly had a harder time enjoying sex when I was constantly worrying about money.  Now that I am not in that constant state of worry anymore (thankfully), I am able to relax and have a lot more fun!!!

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