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50 Shades of Grey (a question for Christians)

Anonymous
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First off, I would like to point out that I am a book worm and when I hear something is good I want to read it right away. My bf recommended this book to me, and last night I started reading it and had a really hard time putting it down. But of course, being a mom and having to work the next day, I had to go to bed so reluctantly I didn't finish reading the whole thing in one sitting, lol. Now, I have been thinking today about a few different things that didn't occur to me while I was buried in the book last night, and I wanted to open a discussion/debate about this book because I'm conflicted about it.

As a christian, do you think it is wrong to enjoy this book? I have read many, many books before that have nothing to do with God, and even some had sex scenes in it, but none ever made me question whether or not I should just turn away. Now, I would like to point out that a lot of things in this book do interest me and I know that it is my own choice what I do with my husband behind closed doors, I'm not questioning how it makes me want to try new things. That is natural, normal. What I mean by this question is, I wonder if it is like watching porn? Only in your head? Because in the book I clearly imagine Grey and Ana, because that is just apart of reading a book, you imagine the story. But when I think about it afterwards, I imagine myself and my husband. I can't decide if I think it is wrong or not? Can I get some opinions?


EDIT: I'd like to say thank you ladies for all the replies, opinions, and suggestions! I think I have compromised with myself and my conflicting feelings. Someone said they skipped a lot of the sex scenes, so I think when start to feel uncomfortable I'll just do that, lol. I have read tons of books, and I'm always into detail... It never occurred to me to that I could just skip. Thanks again ladies :)

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:27 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:35 PM

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mommy425906
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:38 PM

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:39 PM
I don't think it's wrong for religious reasons. I want to read it because everyone is talking about it and saying it's so good but I'm kind of embarrassed to read it. I also worry that my kids will see me reading it and wonder how I'd be able to hide it from them. I could secretly read it on my iPad I guess. I think I'd feel funny reading it though. When I was younger I would have read it in a heartbeat! Lol
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:41 PM
That's exactly why i want to read it! I like to be in the know! Lol

Quoting mommy425906:

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)

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mommy425906
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:42 PM

Haha! Even as grown women we still get sucked into the 'popular crowd', even if its regarding books! :-P

Quoting Anonymous:

That's exactlysent I want to read it! I like to be in the know! Lol

Quoting mommy425906:

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:54 PM

That is why I read it too, lol. I heard a lot about it from here and there, but then my bf was raving about it and told me what it was about. I didn't realize it was going to be quite so trashy. I have always been interested in a sub/dom relationship with my husband, and have looked into it some before. When she told me thats what the book was about I figured it would be great research. But Grey and Ana aren't married (although i don't know how the story developes). Idk, I want to continue reading it, and I probably will. I just wanted some other Christians to tell me thier views.

Quoting mommy425906:

Haha! Even as grown women we still get sucked into the 'popular crowd', even if its regarding books! :-P

Quoting Anonymous:

That's exactlysent I want to read it! I like to be in the know! Lol

Quoting mommy425906:

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:04 AM

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katamike
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:05 AM
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 I am a christian and i have no desire to read that book to be honest. couldn't tell you anything about it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:07 AM
I'm a Christian also and I feel guilt for reading them

Quoting mommy425906:

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:12 AM
Lol! I like to be in the know and know what people are talking about. People are talking about this book everywhere and I feel like I'm living in a cave!

Quoting mommy425906:

Haha! Even as grown women we still get sucked into the 'popular crowd', even if its regarding books! :-P

Quoting Anonymous:

That's exactlysent I want to read it! I like to be in the know! Lol



Quoting mommy425906:

When I read your post I thought you meant a question for 'Christians' as in the character! LOL .... It confused me.

I see your conflict. I've read the books and I'm Christian. Looking back I feel guilty for reading them honestly. They were mindless & trashy. I just read them because everyone else was ... that sounds sooo lame huh? Well everyone else was doing it! :-)


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