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50 Shades of Grey (a question for Christians)

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First off, I would like to point out that I am a book worm and when I hear something is good I want to read it right away. My bf recommended this book to me, and last night I started reading it and had a really hard time putting it down. But of course, being a mom and having to work the next day, I had to go to bed so reluctantly I didn't finish reading the whole thing in one sitting, lol. Now, I have been thinking today about a few different things that didn't occur to me while I was buried in the book last night, and I wanted to open a discussion/debate about this book because I'm conflicted about it.

As a christian, do you think it is wrong to enjoy this book? I have read many, many books before that have nothing to do with God, and even some had sex scenes in it, but none ever made me question whether or not I should just turn away. Now, I would like to point out that a lot of things in this book do interest me and I know that it is my own choice what I do with my husband behind closed doors, I'm not questioning how it makes me want to try new things. That is natural, normal. What I mean by this question is, I wonder if it is like watching porn? Only in your head? Because in the book I clearly imagine Grey and Ana, because that is just apart of reading a book, you imagine the story. But when I think about it afterwards, I imagine myself and my husband. I can't decide if I think it is wrong or not? Can I get some opinions?


EDIT: I'd like to say thank you ladies for all the replies, opinions, and suggestions! I think I have compromised with myself and my conflicting feelings. Someone said they skipped a lot of the sex scenes, so I think when start to feel uncomfortable I'll just do that, lol. I have read tons of books, and I'm always into detail... It never occurred to me to that I could just skip. Thanks again ladies :)

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:27 PM
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sweettigeress
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:11 AM
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Why would it be wrong? Sex is a normal part of life.

spotsmom
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 1:19 AM

There's a difference between "low-budget" and "poorly executed." A movie that doesn't have a lot of money to spend can still be well-written and well-directed, with excellent acting. And then some movies have all the money in the world to spend and are just poorly directed and poorly written. The second I would dismiss in a heart beat, because, of course, it's crap. Why WOULDN'T I? And yes, writing is important to me, it s THE first thing I look at before I decide to read a book. If the writing is poorly done, I will not bother, no matter how good the story is said to be. Reading a poolry written novel is like going to a museum to see art and finding nothing but paintings done by that old Spanish lady who made Jesus look like a weird-ass monkey. 

Quoting Anonymous:

As I have said before, I have read many, many books. So, naturally, I have seen good and bad writing. I am used to pushing myself past the beginning of books sometimes, there were a lot that didn't capture me few the first few chapters. But the stories always turned out to be really good and worth it. I understand what you mean about this one too, i remember thinking 'really?' when i realized the author sucked at writing lol. But I actually just finished reading it, with bad writing and skipping the trashier sex scenes, and yet I can't wait to read the next one because the story is good.

Why is that so hard for people to understand? Would you also dismiss a low budget film in the same manner? If you do, well ok then. Your loss.

Quoting spotsmom:

It's not wrong to read it because of the sex scenes, it's wrong to read it because I believe doing so may actually make you less intelligent. 

Wait...people are reading this crap and "skipping the ex scenes?" Then what the hell afe you reading it for? I read the first page of this book and turned away in disgust....not, of course, at the graphic sex, since I never got that far, but at the deplorable writing. I mean, it sucks! Badly. The writing is not better than a fith graders, in fact, I could have done better in the fifth grade! It literally made me cringe. I can only imagine that the sex scenes must be pretty mind blowing to get so many people to wade through all the vapid writing, trite phrases, and poor syntax, but I just stomach it. Nothing is worth that torture. 




Texascandee
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 8:45 AM

We had this discussion in Bible Study a couple weeks ago and according to them Christians shouldn't read such "trash".  I've wanted to read it so I asked my friend if I read it, would I be sinning since they say it's wrong?  She said she wouldn't read it but ya know, I want to read it.  I don't think that would make me a bad person........I don't say Christian because I am just beginning my walk.  I'm still wondering if it would be wrong to read it......

knoxmomof2
by on Oct. 23, 2012 at 4:07 AM
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I'm a Christian.. so my answer is based on MY beliefs, so I'm not looking for a debate from other posters. I have a friend who is not a Christian who recommended the book to me. I chose not to read it. It's being called "Mommy porn" for a reason. You have to consider Philippians 4:8- "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things." 

And no, I am not a prude. I think that anything consentual between you and your Husband (not porn or threesomes, etc.. ) is pure and lovely and admirable, etc.. to God, because a healthy sex life IS something God intended for a married couple. I just think that we have to guard our hearts and minds from outside influences that would encourage our thoughts to stray from what IS pure to God and thoughts tend to go before actions. 

alyssaT325
by on Oct. 24, 2012 at 4:19 AM
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