is 7 years old too young?
I don't think there is a "too early". What you specifically make them self-sufficient about varies from child to child. My son was pouring cereal and milk at 3, my daughter was closer to 5. Both kids picked out thier clothes and got dressed unassisted by around 3. By kindergarten, they got themselves up, dressed, teeth brushed and at the breakfast table each morning. By 1st grade, they knew what they needed to do when they got home from school, homework, chores, etc. before the day was theirs. Of course there were "slips" and that's why they keep us around but, all in all, they were pretty self-sufficient by 6yrs old. They could make mac and cheese, oatmeal, etc in the microwave. Again, it depends on the child but, I think you aren't doing your child any good by not try to give them as much opportunity to "do" for themselves as possible.
My husband's niece moved in 4yrs ago with her then 9yr old daughter. The daoughter had to be gotten out of bed each morning, couldn't make her own breakfast, had to have her clothes chosen, taken to the bathroom and make sure she went to the bathroom and brushed her teeth. Her mom had to hold her hand when she got in the shower, washed her hair for her, etc.
I considered it "child abuse" I fought with her for three years. The first thing I put an end to was her taking her daughter to the bathroom and wiping for her. Next, it was the "showering". This was a very "sick" relationship which ended in the mom being involutarily committed and the child, now 13 being placed with her grandparents. They got a 12yr old that could do almost NOTHING for herself.
I agree with Courtney610,,,start teaching responsibilty EARLY...your doing your child a huge favor.
The sooner the better.
Quoting MicheleJM:To do what exactly? I dont think its too young but it depends on what you are talking about.
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