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For those who circumcised their baby...

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How many of you actually researched everything about it before making your choice and if you did research what was your reason for doing it after finding out it was not medically needed.

 

I am writing an article for the local birth network here and so far of moms I have interviewed who circ'd many of them did it still believing old claims that have been proven wrong so Id like to find some that actually did full research on it and ended up choosing to do it still.

Please feel free to share links to studys that helped you make your choice as I would like to include the top used resources in my article.

 

Those with intact babies please feel free to comment as well on how much you did or did not research.

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 12, 2012 at 9:54 PM
Replies (221-230):
lga1965
by on Oct. 21, 2012 at 8:35 PM

 Why does everyone say 'they circumcised their baby' as if they took the scalpel and did the surgery themselves.??Answer that one! 

We had the doctor circumcise our son in the hospital. We wanted him to have a healthy life.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Oct. 21, 2012 at 8:37 PM
It wasn't my place to decide.

Quoting EireLass:

Why do you regret it?

Quoting Anonymous:

I circumcised. And I regret it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 16 on Oct. 21, 2012 at 10:12 PM
Both of my boys are. I have no regrets. It's like my husband said, he doesn't remember his and you know what, our sons don't either. To each his own is my belief.
norahsmommy
by Bronze Member on Oct. 21, 2012 at 11:11 PM
I agree, I live in the midwest and its rare for a boy to be left intact. I have to sign paper after paper ( when I went for my first prenatal appointment, durring labor and after he was born) that I did NOT want it done. If I had wanted it done I would only have had to sign one paper. I was asked if I wanted him circumsized 8 times durring the 48 hour stay. A few hours before we got out of the hospital the nurse came in to take him to get a heel stick and a hearing test. She just happened to make the comment to my son " and then we just need get you circumsized and then you're ready to go!" in a cutie voice. I said " no, we aren't doing that." she looked confused and shocked and said " why?" I just said it wasn't neccisary and left it at that. I have had 4 kids in 2 different hospitals. Each time I had to sign oodles of paperwork saying I didn't want to circ ( all others were girls but I still had to fill out paperwork 'just in case'.) I was asked durring labor at least twice with each child if I wanted to circ. I was asked at my first prenatal appointment with each as well. If it wasn't routine, or being pushed, why was I asked so much?


Quoting VanessaCB:

Yes it is routine. In some places in the USA, the rates are still high. It is still routinely done in places such as the Midwest. Thankfully the rates are falling all over the rest of the USA .


Quoting EireLass:

I think you're confused, or over-reacting. This is not a routine surgery.

Quoting VanessaCB:

You are COMPLETELY missing the whole point. This is not about MEN's penises, don't you see. Men can do whatever they want with their penises. We are speaking about routine INFANT circumcision which is a human rights violation.


Quoting sweettigeress:

I don't think they are stupid. I simply said they do not care or worry about it. I think you need to worry about other things than men's penises. 

Quoting VanessaCB:

Give me a break. Again you think they are that stupid. Of course there is something wrong with their penis. A healthy and functional part of it was cut off a birth. They have an unnatural penis. Many men discover that something is wrong with their penis when they first start questioning the scar line and discoloration (the majority of cut men have this) . Then when they first hear and begin to understand what circumcision is , that's when they discover that THAT is why they have that scar line and discoloration. Many have sexual problems from being circumcised as infants, such as loss of sensitivity.  No one has to tell them that something is wrong with their penis.....they discover it by themselves. Oh you find it hilarious. The one that will be surprised is YOU because there are in fact thousands upon thousands of men who are angry. They are waking up to understand the ramifications of what was done to them. Thousands are seeking foreskin restorations. As we speak, the AAP, American Academy of Peditricians, is holding it's annual convention in New Orleans. There are men out there protesting who were cut at birth, holding signs such as "I did NOT consent" "My body belongs to me!" "Nobody asked me!". Those are just the brave and vocal ones. The majority are still in silence.  Sure many men prefer their circumcised penis because that's all they have ever known. How hard is that for you to understand?  Of course they are going to be happy with what they have no control over. It takes a special and brave man to admit they are not happy. Slowly they are coming out.


Quoting sweettigeress:

Again...how would they know anything was "wrong" with their penis? They wouldn't. There isn't anything wrong with their penis. I find it hilarious you actually think men worry about it. You'd be surprised to learn that they don't and that many men prefer their circed penis. 

Quoting VanessaCB:

You think boys and men are that stupid?? That someone has to tell them that something is wrong with their penis. All they have to do is stand there naked and look down to see something is wrong with their penis. Many men are angry just for the fact that a healthy and functional part of their penis was cut off like a piece of trash when they couldn't consent. They feel like they were violated.  So sad that you think your son is that stupid that he won't one day do his own research to see why his penis is different than other boys' penises and realize that he is missing something.


Quoting sweettigeress:

Ugh...I agree with this. Boys wouldn't know there was anything "wrong" with their penis if it weren't for crazy fanatic women rushing in to say so. 

Quoting Anonymous:

OMG!!! You said he was a happy circumcised boy. You mean she didn't fuck him up for life by making a decision for him??? They are perfectly happy children and men until a bunch of FEMALE google MD's decide that the parents of these children are evil being infringing on their rights. YOU are the one making a mountain out of a molehill. Trying to make parents feel they did something bad and that's about the shittiest thing you can do to someone especially when they have as you said "a perfectly happy child!!" Get off your high horse and stop worrying about the genitals of perfectly happy and well cared for children.

Quoting VanessaCB:

Vaccines and what you feed your child is not the same as cutting off healthy and functional parts of your child's body.  He is the one with A penis, but your son's penis does not belong to him.  It doesn't matter if he's never complained.  His cut penis is all he has ever known. Most cut men don't question it because it will mean they have to admit that there might be something wrong with his manhood.  If he grew up in a cutting culture such as the USA, then it's not surprising he would be happy to be like the majority of boys/men and of course it's not surprising that an intact man would want to be circumcised when all he sees and hears is how there is something wrong with his natural penis.  The tides are turning though as more and more boys are being left intact  so whole boys in the future will be proud of their natural penises.



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VanessaCB
by Member on Oct. 21, 2012 at 11:34 PM
Quoting lga1965:

 Why does everyone say 'they circumcised their baby' as if they took the scalpel and did the surgery themselves.??Answer that one! 

We had the doctor circumcise our son in the hospital. We wanted him to have a healthy life.

If you wanted him to have a healthy life then you should not allowed a doctor to cut a part of his penis off. The foreskin is a healthy and functional part of the body with man immunological and protective functions, such as keeping the glans healthy, smooth and moist, making sex more comfortable with the natural gliding mechanism of the foreskin, moving within it's own sheath providing a natural lubrication. Research the functions of the foresking. There are tons of information out there. Sorry but you were deceived by uninformed doctors when you were told your son would be healthier if he had his healthy foreskin cut off.


Jamie1972
by Member on Oct. 21, 2012 at 11:41 PM
I left the decsion up to my dh. I did some research. But in the end for religious reasons we had both of our boys circed. Now when my fil was around 25 he got circed and it was the worst pain he ever had. He said men in europe dont get circumsions but he got one here in usa because it was the norm(at the time) to be circed.
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VanessaCB
by Member on Oct. 21, 2012 at 11:45 PM

That's horrible. My son was born in Oregon and according to the nurse at the hospital tour, it was 50/50 when my son was born. They didn't push it on me thankfully.

Quoting norahsmommy:

I agree, I live in the midwest and its rare for a boy to be left intact. I have to sign paper after paper ( when I went for my first prenatal appointment, durring labor and after he was born) that I did NOT want it done. If I had wanted it done I would only have had to sign one paper. I was asked if I wanted him circumsized 8 times durring the 48 hour stay. A few hours before we got out of the hospital the nurse came in to take him to get a heel stick and a hearing test. She just happened to make the comment to my son " and then we just need get you circumsized and then you're ready to go!" in a cutie voice. I said " no, we aren't doing that." she looked confused and shocked and said " why?" I just said it wasn't neccisary and left it at that. I have had 4 kids in 2 different hospitals. Each time I had to sign oodles of paperwork saying I didn't want to circ ( all others were girls but I still had to fill out paperwork 'just in case'.) I was asked durring labor at least twice with each child if I wanted to circ. I was asked at my first prenatal appointment with each as well. If it wasn't routine, or being pushed, why was I asked so much?


Quoting VanessaCB:

Yes it is routine. In some places in the USA, the rates are still high. It is still routinely done in places such as the Midwest. Thankfully the rates are falling all over the rest of the USA .


Quoting EireLass:

I think you're confused, or over-reacting. This is not a routine surgery.

Quoting VanessaCB:

You are COMPLETELY missing the whole point. This is not about MEN's penises, don't you see. Men can do whatever they want with their penises. We are speaking about routine INFANT circumcision which is a human rights violation.


Quoting sweettigeress:

I don't think they are stupid. I simply said they do not care or worry about it. I think you need to worry about other things than men's penises. 

Quoting VanessaCB:

Give me a break. Again you think they are that stupid. Of course there is something wrong with their penis. A healthy and functional part of it was cut off a birth. They have an unnatural penis. Many men discover that something is wrong with their penis when they first start questioning the scar line and discoloration (the majority of cut men have this) . Then when they first hear and begin to understand what circumcision is , that's when they discover that THAT is why they have that scar line and discoloration. Many have sexual problems from being circumcised as infants, such as loss of sensitivity.  No one has to tell them that something is wrong with their penis.....they discover it by themselves. Oh you find it hilarious. The one that will be surprised is YOU because there are in fact thousands upon thousands of men who are angry. They are waking up to understand the ramifications of what was done to them. Thousands are seeking foreskin restorations. As we speak, the AAP, American Academy of Peditricians, is holding it's annual convention in New Orleans. There are men out there protesting who were cut at birth, holding signs such as "I did NOT consent" "My body belongs to me!" "Nobody asked me!". Those are just the brave and vocal ones. The majority are still in silence.  Sure many men prefer their circumcised penis because that's all they have ever known. How hard is that for you to understand?  Of course they are going to be happy with what they have no control over. It takes a special and brave man to admit they are not happy. Slowly they are coming out.


Quoting sweettigeress:

Again...how would they know anything was "wrong" with their penis? They wouldn't. There isn't anything wrong with their penis. I find it hilarious you actually think men worry about it. You'd be surprised to learn that they don't and that many men prefer their circed penis. 

Quoting VanessaCB:

You think boys and men are that stupid?? That someone has to tell them that something is wrong with their penis. All they have to do is stand there naked and look down to see something is wrong with their penis. Many men are angry just for the fact that a healthy and functional part of their penis was cut off like a piece of trash when they couldn't consent. They feel like they were violated.  So sad that you think your son is that stupid that he won't one day do his own research to see why his penis is different than other boys' penises and realize that he is missing something.


Quoting sweettigeress:

Ugh...I agree with this. Boys wouldn't know there was anything "wrong" with their penis if it weren't for crazy fanatic women rushing in to say so. 

Quoting Anonymous:

OMG!!! You said he was a happy circumcised boy. You mean she didn't fuck him up for life by making a decision for him??? They are perfectly happy children and men until a bunch of FEMALE google MD's decide that the parents of these children are evil being infringing on their rights. YOU are the one making a mountain out of a molehill. Trying to make parents feel they did something bad and that's about the shittiest thing you can do to someone especially when they have as you said "a perfectly happy child!!" Get off your high horse and stop worrying about the genitals of perfectly happy and well cared for children.

Quoting VanessaCB:

Vaccines and what you feed your child is not the same as cutting off healthy and functional parts of your child's body.  He is the one with A penis, but your son's penis does not belong to him.  It doesn't matter if he's never complained.  His cut penis is all he has ever known. Most cut men don't question it because it will mean they have to admit that there might be something wrong with his manhood.  If he grew up in a cutting culture such as the USA, then it's not surprising he would be happy to be like the majority of boys/men and of course it's not surprising that an intact man would want to be circumcised when all he sees and hears is how there is something wrong with his natural penis.  The tides are turning though as more and more boys are being left intact  so whole boys in the future will be proud of their natural penises.




suziSunshine678
by on Oct. 22, 2012 at 6:27 AM
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Quoting xoch86:

I call bs on this "article" you're writing.. But I guess that doesn't really matter..

I did plenty of research, based on old AND new claims.. And still found that the benefits outweighed the risks. I am on my 3rd son, and he will absolutely be circed.

Let me just say, that u are no one to be writing an article, because u obviously have a biase opinion here. U clearly don't believe in circing, so ur article will be a waste. For the record, for every "disproven" claim, there is another proven one.. So blah..

i was "called out" on the fact that we chose to have our sons circumcised, also - and told that i didn't know what i was talking about - i replied to this post that my sons are 44 and 42 and, at that time, i did no research, just listened to our doctor, who simply told us that he would circumcise our sons - and that he did it for a matter of cleanliness - it was easier to keep the child cleaner - everybody i knew, during that time, had their boys circumcised - it was just not even up for discussion - i would have a son of mine circumcised today for the very same reason - but, that is just my opinion - i don't think a person should be "told", as i was, that "my opinion" is wrong - and opinion can clearly be neither right OR wrong -

am i correct on this?  the opinion thing?????

suzi sunshine

AVSpecWife4
by New Member on Oct. 22, 2012 at 9:35 AM
I fully researched and have three boys who are circ'd. I work as a CNA and can't tell you how many older men come in with infection issues from their foreskins not being properly cleaned because these men aren't able to anymore and their caregivers aren't doing it properly. I've worked in extended care facilities with these issues. I made sure my boys will never have to face those problems.
Now I work on the mommy baby unit and will sometimes assist doctors and the nurses in the circumcisions. I stock the room, I've seen it done many times. I help with the babies afterwards.
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EireLass
by Ruby Member on Oct. 22, 2012 at 9:43 AM

Your child, but you couldn't make a medical decision for him?

What has happened since, that makes you regret having it done?

Quoting Anonymous:

It wasn't my place to decide.
Quoting EireLass:

Why do you regret it?

Quoting Anonymous:

I circumcised. And I regret it.
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