Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

have you ever had a parenting FAIL?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

i have been a parent for a total of 3 years so far and while I definitely aim for an "A" every day, i know we all have our moments because we are human and it happens unfortunately.

To be specific, my little girl whose 5 months fell off the bed yesterday after a nap. shes been quite the wiggleworm lately and i feel tremendous amounts of guilt about it. but our bed is literally floor-box spring-mattress theres no frame so i knew she wasn't seriously injured. i know its a fairly common occurance as far as parenting fails go, but its just one of mine. i shuddered when i told my husband it happened. I know my mother isnt going to recant the stories of my falling out of the bed. so i am asking for any stories you would prefer to pretend that they never hapnd.

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 15, 2012 at 2:50 AM
Replies (11-20):
SimpleComSense
by on Oct. 15, 2012 at 12:52 PM
1 mom liked this

Oh, any mom who says they "haven't" had an epic fail...is either lying or hasn't actually taken her child home yet! Fails teach us the lessons we need to raise kids, lol

My son was my "tester' baby. He taught me a lot...

At 1wk...I walked into change him when he woke up and noticed there were only a thumb, the index finger and the little finger peaking out of his little sleeper...Where was his other two fingers!  Answer...bent backwards in the cuff...Lesson, make sure all body parts are through cuff and sleeves.  Little people are very "bendy"

At 6wks...I left him for the first time at my sister-in-laws and picked him up after it was dark.  I used cloth and she apparently didn't like to change them...so, in the back hatch of the car, with my husband holding a flachlight, I changed his diaper.  When I got home and went to change him again...I realized that I had pinned the diaper to him but, he never made a sound...hmmm. What did it teach me...always put your finger between the baby and the diaper.  That way you "poke" yourself and not the baby.

At almost 6mnth, I let a "wackadoodle" change my uncircumcised son.  She forced the foreskin over the head and strangulated it. What did I learn? First, don't let a "wackadoodle" anywhere near your child and second...there is such a thing as an "emergency" circumcision.

At 9mnths, I put my son in the backseat of a two door car in his forward facing carseat.  Five miles down the road, I noticed in the rearview mirror that he looked "pale".  I turned around in the front passenger seat and found four of his fingers firmly in the door jam. I screamed, my husband pulled over on the freeway and I openned the door.  His fingers were purple and we rushed him directly to the hospital...still, he never uttered a peep.  What did I take from "THIS" epic fail...first, my son has a condition where he doesn't feel pain like other people. Second, CPS can get to the hospital VERY quickly when they want to. Third, a nurse who listens to a parent and puts the puzzle together is a godsend. Fourth, children need to face backwards until they are one.  He apparently had grabbed the doorjam and was trying to pull himself "up".

My daughter had a baby four years ago.  She was very ill and had an emergency C-section.  The first time she was alone with the baby was about 2wks old.  I called about 30min after I left to check on them and I got a sobbing, hysterical mom.  "I hurt the baby mom!...I'm a terrible mom" "Please come home"...she was 25 but at that moment...she was my baby again.  I came home to a perfectly health, sleeping baby...and a red-eyed, snatty nosed mom.  She had put the baby in this little "cradle" seat and didn't secure the straps. He wiggled out of it and fell about two feet to the very carpeted floor.  I asked her "Okay, what did we learn from this?" she said "That I am a BAD mom!"  I told her "no, what we learned is even newborns can squirm enough to fall out of things.  That is why they provide those cute, padded straps!"

So, everyone has those "epic" fails.  It's okay...just learn a lesson from it!

mommy2lexinmark
by Rockstar Alex on Oct. 15, 2012 at 12:56 PM
Yup....5 kids later and still having EPIC fails lol
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
mommy2lexinmark
by Rockstar Alex on Oct. 15, 2012 at 12:59 PM
Most epic.... ur 9 month old in a ff car seat....ur gonna ger REAMED for that

Quoting SimpleComSense:

Oh, any mom who says they "haven't" had an epic fail...is either lying or hasn't actually taken her child home yet! Fails teach us the lessons we need to raise kids, lol


My son was my "tester' baby. He taught me a lot...


At 1wk...I walked into change him when he woke up and noticed there were only a thumb, the index finger and the little finger peaking out of his little sleeper...Where was his other two fingers!  Answer...bent backwards in the cuff...Lesson, make sure all body parts are through cuff and sleeves.  Little people are very "bendy"


At 6wks...I left him for the first time at my sister-in-laws and picked him up after it was dark.  I used cloth and she apparently didn't like to change them...so, in the back hatch of the car, with my husband holding a flachlight, I changed his diaper.  When I got home and went to change him again...I realized that I had pinned the diaper to him but, he never made a sound...hmmm. What did it teach me...always put your finger between the baby and the diaper.  That way you "poke" yourself and not the baby.


At almost 6mnth, I let a "wackadoodle" change my uncircumcised son.  She forced the foreskin over the head and strangulated it. What did I learn? First, don't let a "wackadoodle" anywhere near your child and second...there is such a thing as an "emergency" circumcision.


At 9mnths, I put my son in the backseat of a two door car in his forward facing carseat.  Five miles down the road, I noticed in the rearview mirror that he looked "pale".  I turned around in the front passenger seat and found four of his fingers firmly in the door jam. I screamed, my husband pulled over on the freeway and I openned the door.  His fingers were purple and we rushed him directly to the hospital...still, he never uttered a peep.  What did I take from "THIS" epic fail...first, my son has a condition where he doesn't feel pain like other people. Second, CPS can get to the hospital VERY quickly when they want to. Third, a nurse who listens to a parent and puts the puzzle together is a godsend. Fourth, children need to face backwards until they are one.  He apparently had grabbed the doorjam and was trying to pull himself "up".


My daughter had a baby four years ago.  She was very ill and had an emergency C-section.  The first time she was alone with the baby was about 2wks old.  I called about 30min after I left to check on them and I got a sobbing, hysterical mom.  "I hurt the baby mom!...I'm a terrible mom" "Please come home"...she was 25 but at that moment...she was my baby again.  I came home to a perfectly health, sleeping baby...and a red-eyed, snatty nosed mom.  She had put the baby in this little "cradle" seat and didn't secure the straps. He wiggled out of it and fell about two feet to the very carpeted floor.  I asked her "Okay, what did we learn from this?" she said "That I am a BAD mom!"  I told her "no, what we learned is even newborns can squirm enough to fall out of things.  That is why they provide those cute, padded straps!"


So, everyone has those "epic" fails.  It's okay...just learn a lesson from it!

Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:06 PM

my oldest fell out of a shopping cart @ 11 months old.  She was fine after crying for a little bit. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:09 PM

My dad was carrying my then 2 year old on his shoulders. My oldest, who was 3 at the time, ran in front of my dad. Dad tripped over the oldest, and the one on his shoulders went face first into the concrete. 

Did I mention this was in the middle of a CPS investigation? (Their dad was pissed that I had custody and was trying to get me ruled as an unfit mother, so he called CPS alleging abuse, physical and sexual) I took him to the doctor and aside from a few scrapes, he was fine. His face healed, CPS ruled the allegations unfounded, and just in time for him to trip over his own feet and gash his head open....2 staples later....

Yes, I still have custody, in case people were wondering. He tried bringing these two things into court, but the judge said since CPS did not care, she does not care. (I had the cops, CPS, an in-home intensive counselor, home health nurse, and CASA checking on me atleast once a week because of their dad making new shit up every day)

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Oh I have a few.  When my oldest was 13mo's I was playing w/him and flipped him up to sit on my shoulder.  He slipt off I couldn't catch him, he fell head first and fractured his skull so imagine living w/that guilt.  He is now 15 and perfectly fine but it was HORRIFIC!!


SimpleComSense
by on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:12 PM
1 mom liked this

Yup...but, in my defense...it's was 1981.  We were lucky we HAD carseats and no one had actually "told" us that a child should be in a backward position until 1. The thing was a big, white, plastic thing and it was impossible to get in and out of the car.  It was also pretty impossible to get the baby into it facing backward.  You have to understand...I come from the "what's a seatbelt, bike helmet, drink from the hose and be home by the time the streetlights come on" generation. We sat in cars with parents that smoked with the windows up, let us stick our heads out the windows, go to the store a mile away by ourselves, etc.

Parents are far more "enlightened" now...sometimes TOO enlightened, lol.

Quoting mommy2lexinmark:

Most epic.... ur 9 month old in a ff car seat....ur gonna ger REAMED for that

Quoting SimpleComSense:

Oh, any mom who says they "haven't" had an epic fail...is either lying or hasn't actually taken her child home yet! Fails teach us the lessons we need to raise kids, lol


My son was my "tester' baby. He taught me a lot...


At 1wk...I walked into change him when he woke up and noticed there were only a thumb, the index finger and the little finger peaking out of his little sleeper...Where was his other two fingers!  Answer...bent backwards in the cuff...Lesson, make sure all body parts are through cuff and sleeves.  Little people are very "bendy"


At 6wks...I left him for the first time at my sister-in-laws and picked him up after it was dark.  I used cloth and she apparently didn't like to change them...so, in the back hatch of the car, with my husband holding a flachlight, I changed his diaper.  When I got home and went to change him again...I realized that I had pinned the diaper to him but, he never made a sound...hmmm. What did it teach me...always put your finger between the baby and the diaper.  That way you "poke" yourself and not the baby.


At almost 6mnth, I let a "wackadoodle" change my uncircumcised son.  She forced the foreskin over the head and strangulated it. What did I learn? First, don't let a "wackadoodle" anywhere near your child and second...there is such a thing as an "emergency" circumcision.


At 9mnths, I put my son in the backseat of a two door car in his forward facing carseat.  Five miles down the road, I noticed in the rearview mirror that he looked "pale".  I turned around in the front passenger seat and found four of his fingers firmly in the door jam. I screamed, my husband pulled over on the freeway and I openned the door.  His fingers were purple and we rushed him directly to the hospital...still, he never uttered a peep.  What did I take from "THIS" epic fail...first, my son has a condition where he doesn't feel pain like other people. Second, CPS can get to the hospital VERY quickly when they want to. Third, a nurse who listens to a parent and puts the puzzle together is a godsend. Fourth, children need to face backwards until they are one.  He apparently had grabbed the doorjam and was trying to pull himself "up".


My daughter had a baby four years ago.  She was very ill and had an emergency C-section.  The first time she was alone with the baby was about 2wks old.  I called about 30min after I left to check on them and I got a sobbing, hysterical mom.  "I hurt the baby mom!...I'm a terrible mom" "Please come home"...she was 25 but at that moment...she was my baby again.  I came home to a perfectly health, sleeping baby...and a red-eyed, snatty nosed mom.  She had put the baby in this little "cradle" seat and didn't secure the straps. He wiggled out of it and fell about two feet to the very carpeted floor.  I asked her "Okay, what did we learn from this?" she said "That I am a BAD mom!"  I told her "no, what we learned is even newborns can squirm enough to fall out of things.  That is why they provide those cute, padded straps!"


So, everyone has those "epic" fails.  It's okay...just learn a lesson from it!


mommy2lexinmark
by Rockstar Alex on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:18 PM
Lol..i was born in 1984 and i still remember riding in the back of a pickup o_O and only being in a booster until about 5

Quoting SimpleComSense:

Yup...but, in my defense...it's was 1981.  We were lucky we HAD carseats and no one had actually "told" us that a child should be in a backward position until 1. The thing was a big, white, plastic thing and it was impossible to get in and out of the car.  It was also pretty impossible to get the baby into it facing backward.  You have to understand...I come from the "what's a seatbelt, bike helmet, drink from the hose and be home by the time the streetlights come on" generation. We sat in cars with parents that smoked with the windows up, let us stick our heads out the windows, go to the store a mile away by ourselves, etc.


Parents are far more "enlightened" now...sometimes TOO enlightened, lol.


Quoting mommy2lexinmark:

Most epic.... ur 9 month old in a ff car seat....ur gonna ger REAMED for that


Quoting SimpleComSense:


Oh, any mom who says they "haven't" had an epic fail...is either lying or hasn't actually taken her child home yet! Fails teach us the lessons we need to raise kids, lol



My son was my "tester' baby. He taught me a lot...



At 1wk...I walked into change him when he woke up and noticed there were only a thumb, the index finger and the little finger peaking out of his little sleeper...Where was his other two fingers!  Answer...bent backwards in the cuff...Lesson, make sure all body parts are through cuff and sleeves.  Little people are very "bendy"



At 6wks...I left him for the first time at my sister-in-laws and picked him up after it was dark.  I used cloth and she apparently didn't like to change them...so, in the back hatch of the car, with my husband holding a flachlight, I changed his diaper.  When I got home and went to change him again...I realized that I had pinned the diaper to him but, he never made a sound...hmmm. What did it teach me...always put your finger between the baby and the diaper.  That way you "poke" yourself and not the baby.



At almost 6mnth, I let a "wackadoodle" change my uncircumcised son.  She forced the foreskin over the head and strangulated it. What did I learn? First, don't let a "wackadoodle" anywhere near your child and second...there is such a thing as an "emergency" circumcision.



At 9mnths, I put my son in the backseat of a two door car in his forward facing carseat.  Five miles down the road, I noticed in the rearview mirror that he looked "pale".  I turned around in the front passenger seat and found four of his fingers firmly in the door jam. I screamed, my husband pulled over on the freeway and I openned the door.  His fingers were purple and we rushed him directly to the hospital...still, he never uttered a peep.  What did I take from "THIS" epic fail...first, my son has a condition where he doesn't feel pain like other people. Second, CPS can get to the hospital VERY quickly when they want to. Third, a nurse who listens to a parent and puts the puzzle together is a godsend. Fourth, children need to face backwards until they are one.  He apparently had grabbed the doorjam and was trying to pull himself "up".



My daughter had a baby four years ago.  She was very ill and had an emergency C-section.  The first time she was alone with the baby was about 2wks old.  I called about 30min after I left to check on them and I got a sobbing, hysterical mom.  "I hurt the baby mom!...I'm a terrible mom" "Please come home"...she was 25 but at that moment...she was my baby again.  I came home to a perfectly health, sleeping baby...and a red-eyed, snatty nosed mom.  She had put the baby in this little "cradle" seat and didn't secure the straps. He wiggled out of it and fell about two feet to the very carpeted floor.  I asked her "Okay, what did we learn from this?" she said "That I am a BAD mom!"  I told her "no, what we learned is even newborns can squirm enough to fall out of things.  That is why they provide those cute, padded straps!"



So, everyone has those "epic" fails.  It's okay...just learn a lesson from it!



Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:39 PM
I posted this in an effort to put a little common ground out there between all of us. We all make mistakes. What matters is that u love yur kids and learn from the mistakes. Parenting is not a contest its a journey. What matters is your relationship with your kids. All of your stories are really humbling and humanizing. Thanx so much for sharing. Its very brave.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:43 PM
1 mom liked this
Thanx its encouraging that parenting really is a learning experience. Its not the tryouts for super perfect mom! At least when I have fails when my kids older, I can apologize and it'll be a lesson for my kid too perhaps!


Quoting mommy2lexinmark:

Yup....5 kids later and still having EPIC fails lol

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 15, 2012 at 1:45 PM
This is my fear! Our entire house is tile and I just decide to go barefoot to prevent this from happening. Thanx for sharing.


Quoting AleaKat:

Yep! Decided it was a good idea to walk down wooden stairs in socks in the middle of the night with my 5 month old in arms. Slipped fell down the stairs he hit the back of his head on a step but I took the brunt. My entire side was covered in bruises and I cried more than the baby did . He has a knot on his head but no real damage.

Iv got tons of others I'm sure.

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)