Its not a big deal... but to me it is =/

[Anonymous]

Long story short my fiancee of five years found out on his 18th birthday (4 years ago) that his "dad"isn't his real dad... My SO has been treated like a black sheep and like shit by the guy and everyone else his whole life so he put two and two together that's why... Well he still wanted to try to have a father son relationship and let them all see our kids and that didn't work... They say horrible things about our kids...me and my SO and he knows all of this... He has seen them first hand treat our son like he doesn't matter ... We stopped talking to them... My son HATES those people and refuses to go any where near them... So like I said we stopped talking to them.. Well we seen his sisters talking shit about us and our kids in a face book post... saying some things that were really uncalled for.. And I told him I wanted him to get rid of their pictures (he has 4 from when they were younger) he starts this huge fight and how its not a big deal blah blah he don't like them, they aren't anything to him blah blah but they are just pictures he doesn't see why they matter to me... I understand they are just pictures but they are pictures of people that make fun of our kids and talk about how they are ugly and they aren't even related to them... SO included... So I just don't really see the point in having them when they are publicly making it known that SO and our children aren't their family.... Please don't bash I know its petty but it has just been bothering me and I guess I needed to let it out

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Bump?

[weezer_cookie]

I would unfriend them and block them, online and IRL. You don't need those obviously toxic people in your life.

[Anonymous]

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Yeah I've done it before.. Then SO put me on a guilt trip... So then we tried to let them rekindle any type of relationship then that didn't work and now he hates them again... But in sure in a couple months or a year he will be trying to suck up to them to try to get them to love him like he tried in the past every time we wrote them off =/

Quoting weezer_cookie:

I would unfriend them and block them, online and IRL. You don't need those obviously toxic people in your life.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous]

I would guess it has o do with the way you speak of them in front of him. Unless they physically or flat out mentally abused him to a large extent 4 year olds just don't hate. I'm guessing he learned it from his parents.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Yes because I sit there and talk so negatively about these people in front of my child I know would understand me . My guess is they DON'T LIKE HIM AND HE PICKS IT UP CLEAR AS DAY. Reason why we don't go around because they treat him like shit.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would guess it has o do with the way you speak of them in front of him. Unless they physically or flat out mentally abused him to a large extent 4 year olds just don't hate. I'm guessing he learned it from his parents.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Every time we drive by their road he starts screaming and crying and BEGGING us not to take him there... If we mention their names he says they don't like him they are mean people... If we would even attempt to go there with him he would flip a lid and be afraid... Did we teach him all of that?

Quoting Anonymous:

I would guess it has o do with the way you speak of them in front of him. Unless they physically or flat out mentally abused him to a large extent 4 year olds just don't hate. I'm guessing he learned it from his parents.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous]

Well that expalins it. You sit there and talk negatively about them. You really shouldn't do that since you know he'll pick up on it. Children like and dislike people on their own. They tend to learn hate.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes because I sit there and talk so negatively about these people in front of my child I know would understand me . My guess is they DON'T LIKE HIM AND HE PICKS IT UP CLEAR AS DAY. Reason why we don't go around because they treat him like shit.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would guess it has o do with the way you speak of them in front of him. Unless they physically or flat out mentally abused him to a large extent 4 year olds just don't hate. I'm guessing he learned it from his parents.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Smh. This conversation is done

Quoting Anonymous:

Well that expalins it. You sit there and talk negatively about them. You really shouldn't do that since you know he'll pick up on it. Children like and dislike people on their own. They tend to learn hate.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes because I sit there and talk so negatively about these people in front of my child I know would understand me . My guess is they DON'T LIKE HIM AND HE PICKS IT UP CLEAR AS DAY. Reason why we don't go around because they treat him like shit.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would guess it has o do with the way you speak of them in front of him. Unless they physically or flat out mentally abused him to a large extent 4 year olds just don't hate. I'm guessing he learned it from his parents.

Quoting Anonymous:

He's 4. And why the hell would we teach him to hate the people my SO was trying so hard to get to love him.... Right.... So its my fault and I taught him to be terrified of going over there and I made him start bawling his eyes out screaming for us not to take him there every time we pass their road? We taught him that?

Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son that he as leaned to HATE people at such a young age?? I can't imagine any young child with hatred for anyone unless their parents taught them that.