Bil and SIl are so upset ******UPDATe******2nd UPDATE***Final UPDATE*****
Their youngest son married in June after college. They are 22. So they live 2 hours away from their parents., 4 hours from her parents. They found out they do not plan on visiting our side of the family at all during the holidays. They will visit her family for Thanksgiving as her bday is that week. They want to be alone at Christmas. Issue is on our side his grandpa is sicker and probably will be our last holidays with him. Also his aunt is dying and is 51. To blow off the holidays is a huge blow to Bil and sil and will be for the whole family. He told his mom and dad to NOT lay a guilt trip on them. I told Sil they can just let them do their thing. It will be them who let's down family and may or may not have regrets when their aunt and grandpa dies.
Update, so now they just may come to get the wedding album I made on Sunday the 23rd, BUT, they do NOT want other family members to come over and to have Christmas on that day. It can only be a couple hours. Just another rude thing they are pulling to us. Can come over but only on their terms. FYI, MIL thinks they are coming at Christmas. She assumed and assumed wrong. IF you can come for a couple hours on the 23rd why can't we just have our Christmas celebration? You can go home and have your little Christmas Eve and Christmas Day all alone if ya want. They are bring bratty 2 year olds in all this.
BIL talked to their son and all the sudden they are coming for not one but 2 nights, the 22nd and 23rd. Also say if MIL wants to have Christmas on the 23rd they will attend. Wonder what happened? BIL got them to come to their senses.
FIL passed away early this morning. The newlyweds drove up to say goodbye yesterday, are coming to the funeral and staying all weekend for our Christmas on the 23rd. FIL couldn't talk but he was coherent and could shake his head yes or no if asked questions yesterday. He really suffered a lot in his last days.