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Bil and SIl are so upset ******UPDATe******2nd UPDATE***Final UPDATE*****

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Their youngest son married in June after college. They are 22. So they live 2 hours away from their parents., 4 hours from her parents. They found out they do not plan on visiting our side of the family at all during the holidays. They will visit her family for Thanksgiving as her bday is that week. They want to be alone at Christmas. Issue is on our side his grandpa is sicker and probably will be our last holidays with him. Also his aunt is dying and is 51. To blow off the holidays is a huge blow to Bil and sil and will be for the whole family. He told his mom and dad to NOT lay a guilt trip on them. I told Sil they can just let them do their thing. It will be them who let's down family and may or may not have regrets when their aunt and grandpa dies. 


Update, so now they just may come to get the wedding album I made on Sunday the 23rd, BUT, they do NOT want other family members to come over and to have Christmas on that day.  It can only be a couple hours.  Just another rude thing they are pulling to us.  Can come over but only on their terms.  FYI, MIL thinks they are coming at Christmas.  She assumed and assumed wrong.  IF you can come for a couple hours on the 23rd why can't we just have our Christmas celebration?  You can go home and have your little Christmas Eve and Christmas Day all alone if ya want.  They are bring bratty 2 year olds in all this. 


BIL talked to their son and all the sudden they are coming for not one but 2 nights, the 22nd and 23rd.  Also say if MIL wants to have Christmas on the 23rd they will attend.  Wonder what happened?  BIL got them to come to their senses. 



FIL passed away early this morning.  The newlyweds drove up to say goodbye yesterday, are coming to the funeral and staying all weekend for our Christmas on the 23rd.  FIL couldn't talk but he was coherent and could shake his head yes or no if asked questions yesterday.  He really suffered a lot in his last days. 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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daiseymae2
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 1:04 AM

At 10 years old I watched my mom go from a healthy vibrant woman to a skin and bones in less than a year. I watched her struggle to deal with her emotions knowing her children would grow up with out a mother. I watched her cry as she brushed her beautiful hair and had it coming out in clumps. I watched her laying on the floor convulsing during a seizure. I got on that plane with her to fly home to her family knowing she was flying home to die. I watched her go crazy screaming that people were trying to steal her children and her meds when the tumors got to big for her brain to function. I watched her writhe in agony from the pain. I watched as the ambulance sped away the very last time I saw her before she died. My older brother was the only one of us kids that were allowed to see her in the hospital after that. He watched her take her last breath. And to this day the look of pain and agony on her face as she died haunts him. You are so right. It isn't that bad. Not awful to watch at all.

Quoting Anonymous:

It isn't bad. My Mom looked asleep till her last breath. It wasn't awful to watch.


Quoting CountryLayne:

Of course. If my daughter didn't want to see me writhe in pain, gasp for my last breath, see the hollow and empty look in my eyes- if she would rather remember me as the momma that was always carefree, loving and full of life: I LOVE her enough to honor her wishes. I am not selfish, I am always thinking of others- their desires, plans, feelings, etc- before my own. That's just who I am. I refuse to bully anyone for my own benefit.



Quoting Anonymous:

So if your kids said to you they didn't want to see you because you were dying you would be fine with that?






Quoting CountryLayne:

And you continued it. Even though you said you didn't care. The Cafe was just fine and dandy, until they allowed the damn anon button in here. Now everything is crap. It allows people like you to act stupid.


**As for the dying Aunt, I never claimed that she should stay away. I just said how it was for ME, when MY family members were dying. Learn to understand what I am saying. And maybe, your nephew feels the same way.

Quoting Anonymous:

It is you and others like you that made my post nasty and the CAFE nasty, not me.  You started shit. 




Quoting CountryLayne:

Jesus. So now you want me to jump when you say jump? It's no wonder that your nephew didn't want to come around in the first place. I couldn't deal with you either.

I wasn't kidding when I said this group was going to the dogs- nothing more than a bunch of bitches, hiding behind the chicken-shit ANON button. Welcome to the new Moms Confessions.





daiseymae2
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 1:11 AM

I don't ever want my kids to see me the way I saw my mom. It scarred me for life.

Quoting CountryLayne:

Of course. If my daughter didn't want to see me writhe in pain, gasp for my last breath, see the hollow and empty look in my eyes- if she would rather remember me as the momma that was always carefree, loving and full of life: I LOVE her enough to honor her wishes. I am not selfish, I am always thinking of others- their desires, plans, feelings, etc- before my own. That's just who I am. I refuse to bully anyone for my own benefit.

Quoting Anonymous:

So if your kids said to you they didn't want to see you because you were dying you would be fine with that?




Quoting CountryLayne:

And you continued it. Even though you said you didn't care. The Cafe was just fine and dandy, until they allowed the damn anon button in here. Now everything is crap. It allows people like you to act stupid.


**As for the dying Aunt, I never claimed that she should stay away. I just said how it was for ME, when MY family members were dying. Learn to understand what I am saying. And maybe, your nephew feels the same way.

Quoting Anonymous:

It is you and others like you that made my post nasty and the CAFE nasty, not me.  You started shit. 



Quoting CountryLayne:

Jesus. So now you want me to jump when you say jump? It's no wonder that your nephew didn't want to come around in the first place. I couldn't deal with you either.

I wasn't kidding when I said this group was going to the dogs- nothing more than a bunch of bitches, hiding behind the chicken-shit ANON button. Welcome to the new Moms Confessions.




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 17, 2012 at 10:55 AM

bump for final update

MaddiesMama09
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 11:12 AM
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So sorry about your FIL. I'm so glad your nephew and his wife decided to pull their heads out and made the trip to say their goodbyes. Prayers to your family. It's so hard to lose someone. Especially so close to Christmas :( bless you all.
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